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What Are The Legal Rights of a Father?

By: Jack Claridge - Updated: 20 Sep 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
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As a general rule the mother will always have what is referred to as ‘parental responsibility’ for her children regardless of the father’s presence or absence. This is something that many think needs to be addressed by the government and legal institutions of the United Kingdom.

What are My Rights as a Father?

You have rights as the father of your child if:
  • If the child was born on or after December 1st 2003 and you are named on the Birth Certificate as the child’s birth father
  • If a Parental Responsibility Agreement is signed
  • If the birth certificate for the child held no father’s name but was later renewed to show yours
  • If a Magistrate or Justice of the Peace (JP) at the Family Court has granted you parental responsibility or an Order Of Residency

I Want to Enter Into a Parental Responsibility Agreement (PR) – Is This A Good Idea?

If you want to have a say in your child’s upbringing, then yes, it is a good idea. It is unfortunate that sometimes relations between both parents become so strained that the children will become the unfortunate tools that parents use to hurt each other.

If both parents can enter into such a PR agreement, it should ensure that both parties have a say in how their child are brought up. This does not necessarily cover the day-to-day living arrangements but it certainly includes larger concerns, such as what school their child should go to, the medical treatment they receive, what religion they should be taught, etc.

In some cases, the parents’ split is an amicable one and there will be no need for such an agreement. But often it is a necessity if a relationship has turned sour and neither party can agree without the intervention of the courts.

Financial Responsibilities

You have a financial obligation to help provide for your child’s upkeep. If a relationship breaks down, you have to expect that you will be required by law to pay something towards caring for your child and providing them with what they need.

This can be done by mutual consent between both parents – and if this is agreed upon it is important to have something written down so that all parties know exactly where they stand. If no agreement is made, or if you simply prefer it, Child Maintenance can be handled through the Child Support Agency.

The Child Support Agency requires that you pay 15% of your net income towards your child’s care and this increases to 20% cent for two children, 25% for three children and so on.

Visiting My Child

If you are named on the birth certificate as the father of the child, you have a legal right to see your children. This is sometimes tested to the limit if parents split under less than agreeable circumstances, and it can ultimately mean the involvement of the courts and family services to help mediate towards agreeable visiting rights for the father.

If you are in any of the above situations and feel you need advice, it is wise to contact the Citizens Advice Bureau or your local family services court for more information and support. It should be noted, however, that it is best – where possible – to try to resolve any issues between both parents with resorting to courts and solicitors as this can be as traumatic for the child as it can be for the parents. Read up about parental responsibility.

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Woody - Your Question:
Hi after years of making my life as difficult as can be regarding my daughters I took my ex to court in 2011,we have a order in place that over time we both agreed it did not suit so we changed it to make things easier.My problem is she always wants that little bit of control even though I bend over backwards to please her because she's the type that would end all contact over something silly like not dropping her child maintainance round when she asks for it early or I'm busy at work.now my daughter has turned 16 and started college and last week there was a stabbing outside of college,I asked if I could buy her a mobile phone to keep in contact as I'm out my mind with worry and even my daughter agreed she would feel safer knowing I could ring her to check on her ( she has a mobile phone but I'm not allowed to phone her because my exes boyfriend pays the monthly contract and I'm not to have contact on that phone ) that's the kind of thing I have to put up with.anyway my ex has point blank said no just out of spite there's no other reason I can think of.is there anyone I could see or am I within my rights now she's 16 to buy her a phone.?

Our Response:
At 16 your daughter should be able to choose whether you can buy her a phone or not. There's nothing specific in law that relates to this but if she's not allowed to call you on her phone, then you really have no choice.
LawAndParents - 20-Sep-17 @ 2:01 PM
Hi after years of making my life as difficult as can be regarding my daughters I took my ex to court in 2011,we have a order in place that over time we both agreed it did not suit so we changed it to make things easier.My problem is she always wants that little bit of control even though I bend over backwards to please her because she's the type that would end all contact over something silly like not dropping her child maintainance round when she asks for it early or I'm busy at work..now my daughter has turned 16 and started college and last week there was a stabbing outside of college,I asked if I could buy her a mobile phone to keep in contact as I'm out my mind with worry and even my daughter agreed she would feel safer knowing I could ring her to check on her ( she has a mobile phone but I'm not allowed to phone her because my exes boyfriend pays the monthly contract and I'm not to have contact on that phone ) that's the kind of thing I have to put up with...anyway my ex has point blank said no just out of spite there's no other reason I can think of..is there anyone I could see or am I within my rights now she's 16 to buy her a phone..?
Woody - 20-Sep-17 @ 1:06 PM
Worried - Your Question:
Long story short my sister-law fell out with the family because she was caught out in a big lie. As a result she stopped half the family from visiting her and her children and stopped seeing us and our child (this has gone on for almost 3 years). Since then she has spread viscous rumours, made up more lies and generally been a horrible person. We tried a few times to talk to her and even offered family counselling (to no avail). She called the police and threatened a harassment order when we sent her children birthday cards. The problem we have now is she works at some of the schools in our local area (where I may have to send my child) and we do not want her having any contact with our child at all. (At least not until we feel she can be a positive influence in our child life). Is there is legal way I can notify her, her boss and the school we choose that she is under no circumstances to go near or speak to our child? Where do we stand legally on this?

Our Response:
We don't know of any ways you can easily do this...and would suggest professional legal advice is your best course of action here.
LawAndParents - 12-Sep-17 @ 11:17 AM
Long story short my sister-law fell out with the family because she was caught out in a big lie. As a result she stopped half the family from visiting her and her children and stopped seeing us and our child (this has gone on for almost 3 years). Since then she has spread viscous rumours, made up more lies and generally been a horrible person. We tried a few times to talk to her and even offered family counselling (to no avail). She called the police and threatened a harassment order when we sent her children birthday cards. The problem we have now is she works at some of the schools in our local area (where I may have to send my child) and we do not want her having any contact with our child at all. (At least not until we feel she can be a positive influence in our child life). Is there is legal way I can notify her, her boss and the school we choose that she is under no circumstances to go near or speak to our child? Where do we stand legally on this?
Worried - 10-Sep-17 @ 2:55 PM
Good Morning On the 17th of August my beautiful baby girl was born, this was meant to be such a joyous occasion that for me turned into a bit of a farce, and sadly that farce still continues to this day. After the stressful birth, my girlfriend lost a lot of blood, I had an altercation with one of the staff. I was annoyed that I had been left alone for so long without any updates. I was stressed and anxious and the longer it went on I was concerned as to who would come back; girlfriend and daughter or just daughter or maybe neither of them, I was nervous. Because of the altercation with the pediatrician I was made a note of and a referral to social services was made. I must note that at no time did I use any foul language nor were any police or hospital security called, nor was I asked to leave the hospital. The referral stayed on the table but I was not allowed to be left alone with her and if II along with my girlfriend went to the doctors or hospital to check our girl's progress it would flag up. The pressure got to use both and we argued on the phone and I said some things that hurt her and she confided to the health visitor. Next thing social services are now involved, and my girlfriend is referred to a domestic violence charity. Social services did there thing and produced their report, they wanted me to have a mental health assessment and see my girl in a contact centre. I wasn't happy with that as it would of meant handing our girl over to a stranger to them bring her to a room to see me. So I declined, they tried to get my girlfriend to take out a non-molestation order but she refused. They then turned on her and weren't very nice. They closed the report and they are no longer involved. Last time I saw my daughter was when she was 4 months old, she's  now a little over one. It hasn't been easy. My girlfriend who wants me to see her is afraid that if she allows me to see her and we carry on together they will become involved again to the point of maybe starting proceedings and taking us to court. It's such a dilemma, neither of us want to go to court, and neither of us want them involved and being true they is no need for any of it. Maybe I needed to write this just to clear some blocks or maybe I hope someone on here can give there opinion as to what to do for the best. Thank you for taking the time to read M
M - 6-Sep-17 @ 8:54 PM
HF - Your Question:
My son was 9 on 31 Aug. My name is on his certificate since birth. Last few years we shared holidays in our country from 12 Aug until 5 Set, and happend same this time but she organised all her holidays with my son. I was there from 17 Aug until 30Aug and I didnt see him and needer my family. We lived around 13 miles distance between. In the past is was agreeded by mediation to share summer holiday always because we normally flight in same month and simular dates what makes easier for both sides of family to see the child. Im not happy with that and it was not fair for me and my family and even for my son. What should I do to change this case and others for ever and for good?

Our Response:
If your son's mother does not agree to any changes, you may have to go back to mediation or the courts to get the existing arrangement altered.
LawAndParents - 6-Sep-17 @ 11:55 AM
Good Morning On the 17th of August my beautiful baby girl was born, this was meant to be such a joyous occasion that for me turned into a bit of a farce, and sadly that farce still continues to this day. After the stressful birth, my girlfriend lost a lot of blood, I had an altercation with one of the staff. I was annoyed that I had been left alone for so long without any updates. I was stressed and anxious and the longer it went on I was concerned as to who would come back; girlfriend and daughter or just daughter or maybe neither of them, I was nervous. Because of the altercation with the pediatrician I was made a note of and a referral to social services was made. I must note that at no time did I use any foul language nor were any police or hospital security called, nor was I asked to leave the hospital. The referral stayed on the table but I was not allowed to be left alone with her and if II along with my girlfriend went to the doctors or hospital to check our girl's progress it would flag up. The pressure got to use both and we argued on the phone and I said some things that hurt her and she confided to the health visitor. Next thing social services are now involved, and my girlfriend is referred to a domestic violence charity. Social services did there thing and produced their report, they wanted me to have a mental health assessment and see my girl in a contact centre. I wasn't happy with that as it would of meant handing our girl over to a stranger to them bring her to a room to see me. So I declined, they tried to get my girlfriend to take out a non-molestation order but she refused. They then turned on her and weren't very nice. They closed the report and they are no longer involved. Last time I saw my daughter was when she was 4 months old, she's  now a little over one. It hasn't been easy. My girlfriend who wants me to see her is afraid that if she allows me to see her and we carry on together they will become involved again to the point of maybe starting proceedings and taking us to court. It's such a dilemma, neither of us want to go to court, and neither of us want them involved and being true they is no need for any of it. Maybe I needed to write this just to clear some blocks or maybe I hope someone on here can give there opinion as to what to do for the best. Thank you for taking the time to read M
M - 6-Sep-17 @ 8:52 AM
My son was 9 on 31 Aug. My name is on his certificate since birth. Last few years we shared holidays in our country from 12 Aug until 5 Set, and happend same this time but she organised all her holidays with my son. I was there from 17 Aug until 30Aug and i didnt see him and needer my family. We lived around 13 miles distance between. In the past is was agreeded by mediation to share summer holiday always because we normally flight in same month and simular dates what makes easier for both sides of family to see the child. Im not happy with that and it was not fair for me and my family and even for my son. What should i do to change this case and others for ever and for good?
HF - 4-Sep-17 @ 1:29 PM
Lee f - Your Question:
My son is ten years old and I have consistently had him at weekend's since birth. Helping out in school holidays. I've always helped his mum when she wanted.but over last couple years she has moved in her new fella and has become very bitter towards me. Since March she has stopped him coming down to see me. I think she's trying to break our bond by keeping us apart and poisoning his mind. I feel hopelessness but I have approached mediation which she has refused to come to and I'm in process of filling in c100 form.I miss him daily and so does my mum who's helped me and alfie and is nearing her last days.I'm scared and don't have any other family support

Our Response:
Continue with your court application, your son has every write to contact with his father and she is denying him this. Seek help from other parents who've been in a similar position, check internet forums and website like our sister site Separated Dads
LawAndParents - 4-Sep-17 @ 11:20 AM
My ex is demanding that my 8 year old tells him where she is at all times! This includes who she is with. I have a new partner and he is not happy about it so my daughter feels pressured to not say anything or tell the truth. She is always in floods of tears about it. She gets on well with my new partner so there is no problem there. Is it right that my ex can demand to know the whereabouts of my daughter at all times even though she is living with me and I am her main carer as I feel like he is praying on my private life.
Wend - 31-Aug-17 @ 11:19 AM
I am leaving in another country and I want to have access for my Daughter,i am registered on birth Certificate as her Father,& i am sending her Mother money every month. The problem right now i don't know how my Daughter is doing,her medical records when i am asking the mother,i am just in darkness about what is happening,when i ask i am just told the Baby is fine.I need a visa to travel to see my Child but her Mother refuse to write invitation letter for me to do my Visa.
TK - 29-Aug-17 @ 5:49 AM
My son is ten years old and I have consistently had him at weekend's since birth . Helping out in school holidays. I've always helped his mum when she wanted..but over last couple years she has moved in her new fella and has become very bitter towards me. Since March she has stopped him coming down to see me. I think she's trying to break our bond by keeping us apart and poisoning his mind. I feel hopelessness but I have approached mediation which she has refused to come to and I'm in process of filling in c100 form...I miss him daily and so does my mum who's helped me and alfie and is nearing her last days.I'm scaredand don't have any other family support
Lee f - 28-Aug-17 @ 9:34 PM
My sons dad hasnt told his new partner about my son were would i stand if i was to taje him to court to have it set in stone that he sees an pays for him
Lilly - 27-Aug-17 @ 10:34 PM
Ab - Your Question:
My son's father hasn't had contact with my son since April 2014. My son was born in Jan 2014. He does not pay any maintenance and I do not know where he lives. I have received abusive messages from his new partner via social media but I have ignored these and blocked her. I'm also going to take this to the police under harassment. My son has never received birthday messages, cards or presents of his father or his fathers family and I made attempts to contact his father via email from May 2014 - end of July 2014 but did not get any response. His father is on the birth certificate. What are my rights now?

Our Response:
What kind of "rights" do you mean? What are you trying to achieve? Sorry it's not clear what your question is.
LawAndParents - 23-Aug-17 @ 12:23 PM
Honey - Your Question:
My daughter has not seen her dad for 8 years his choice now after all this time he wants contact but she doesn't I have tried to reason with her but she still says no do I have to make her see him she is 11 and has a adult mind I'm at my wits end with all his harrassing

Our Response:
You can't force your daughter to do anything. The simplest way to address this would be to take it very slowly, perhaps just a few minutes with you or a relative present, or a few phonecalls, emails to start.You can all then "play it by ear" and gradually build up contact time. If your ex really wants to be part of his daughter's life after 8 years of no contact, then he will be willing to show this level of patience.
LawAndParents - 22-Aug-17 @ 11:28 AM
Leese - Your Question:
My partner and I split up 2 months ago he got straight into another relationship with a girl 14yrs younger thsn him who is pregnant with someone elses child. Our daughter doesnt want to meet her but he made her and now even thou mu daughter doesnt want to see her he makes her and tells her that her baby will be her step brother etc my daughter is 8 can he force this on her? We arent amicable at all and he wont talk to me his mum is also shouting at me all the time ssying my daughter needs to spend time with his gf and she says she has as much right being her nan as what I fo being her mum is this correct? My ex partner also has a 9yr old daughter that hes never seen even thou hes neen allowed to and I have a feeling he will soon not want to see our daughter unless she wants to see his gf. Am I within my rights as her mum to request that he sees her with out his girlfriend present? Thanks any advice on the situstion would be gratefully received

Our Response:
If you geunuinely consider that your daughter will be at risk in some way (physically or emotionally) by seeing her father while his partner is present, then you can take action to prevent this in the courts. They will want to see evidence that you have tried to resolve the situation amicably or through a mediation service, before taking it to court.
LawAndParents - 22-Aug-17 @ 10:23 AM
My son's father hasn't had contact with my son since April 2014. My son was born in Jan 2014. He does not pay any maintenance and I do not know where he lives. I have received abusive messages from his new partner via social media but I have ignored these and blocked her. I'm also going to take this to the police under harassment. My son has never received birthday messages, cards or presents of his father or his fathers family and I made attempts to contact his father via email from May 2014 - end of July 2014 but did not get any response. His father is on the birth certificate. What are my rights now?
Ab - 21-Aug-17 @ 2:49 PM
Graeme - Your Question:
I'll keep this as short as possible. I went to see my son go into p1 for the first day however my ex arrived and took him straight into reception and refused to let me anywhere near him. I have PR and the school tried to convince her to let me see him go into p1 like other parents are as it is my right but she still refused. She stayed the whole time refusing to go away as if the school decided to let me see my son and wish him well in p1 she was going to drag him out of class. I ended up not being able to see my son even though the teachers were saying it was my right. I asked the head teacher afterwards if I could maybe come in a day next week during a break or lunch to speak with my son and wish him well in school tell him to have fun etc. Just like a normal father should be able to do. After seeking info from a council lawyer of some sort she was advised that they need to only looking at the child's best interest and if hes affected. And it doesn't have to be directly. Even like if they let me then he went home and says to her 'oh I seen daddy today' then she might react and this would affect him then. So basically said she will speak to my ex and try to convince her to let me do that at some point. Said we will keep trying with her My question is, aren't the school obliged to let me see my son if I want to see him. I have PR, have been involved in his life all his life, past 3 years fought in court to keep gettin contact orders where he stayed with me most weekends. Am I entitled to go to the school and just demand I want to speak to my son and tell them they cant refuse this? Cos im his dad so why should they say no?

Our Response:
The school must keep you informed of any events, school reports, parents evenings etc. This doesn't mean you can simply go into school to talk to him - no parent is allowed to do this during the school day anyway. You need to try and resolve this with your partner. If you have contact arrangements in place, could these be adapted to allow you to collect him from school one day a week etc?
LawAndParents - 21-Aug-17 @ 11:09 AM
My daughter has not seen her dad for 8 years his choice now after all this time he wants contact but she doesn't I have tried to reason with her but she still says no do I have to make her see him she is 11 and has a adult mind I'm at my wits end with all his harrassing
Honey - 19-Aug-17 @ 9:46 PM
You sound bitter!!!!! Your ex has a right to see his damn daughter! Its parents like you that refuse to let children have a loving parent in there lives is what is wrong with this world! You care more about YOUR feelings then your daughters. Support the relationship she has with her dad. You have bashed him to her and thats why she doesnt want to see him. My ex has taken my children from me! I am a loving mom i want whats best for my children i could careless if he dates an 18 yr old!!!! Its NOT ABOUT WHO HE DATES ITS ABOUT THE CHILDREN!!!!!
Mom getting screwed - 19-Aug-17 @ 4:37 PM
My partner and i split up 2 months ago he got straight into another relationship with a girl 14yrs younger thsn him who is pregnant with someone elses child. Our daughter doesnt want to meet her but he made her and now even thou mu daughter doesnt want to see her he makes her and tells her that her baby will be her step brother etc my daughter is 8 can he force this on her? We arent amicable at all and he wont talk to me his mum is also shouting at me all the time ssying my daughter needs to spend time with his gf and she says she has as much right being her nan as what i fo being her mum is this correct? My ex partner also has a 9yr old daughter that hes never seen even thou hes neen allowed to and i have a feeling he will soon not want to see our daughter unless she wants to see his gf. Am i within my rights as her mum to request that he sees her with out his girlfriend present? Thanks any advice on the situstion would be gratefully received
Leese - 19-Aug-17 @ 8:21 AM
binxie - Your Question:
I want to know what visiting rights does the father of my son has to see him and how should it work. Hes almpat three years old and we are seperated. How does the visiting rights by law work?

Our Response:
There are no specific visiting rights detailed in law. Every child has a "right" to contact with both of his/her parents. A judge will decide how much contact should be in place if you can't agree between you (we always suggest attempting to reach a mutual agreement before taking action via the courts).
LawAndParents - 18-Aug-17 @ 11:39 AM
I'll keep this as short as possible. I went to see my son go into p1 for the first day however my ex arrived and took him straight into reception and refused to let me anywhere near him. I have PR and the school tried to convince her to let me see him go into p1 like other parents are as it is my right but she still refused. She stayed the whole time refusing to go away as if the school decided to let me see my son and wish him well in p1 she was going to drag him out of class. I ended up not being able to see my son even though the teachers were saying it was my right. I asked the head teacher afterwards if i could maybe come in a day next week during a break or lunch to speak with my son and wish him well in school tell him to have fun etc. Just like a normal father should be able to do. After seeking info from a council lawyer of some sort she was advised that they need to only looking at the child's best interest and if hes affected. And it doesn't have to be directly. Even like if they let me then he went home and says to her 'oh i seen daddy today' then she might react and this would affect him then. So basically said she will speak to my ex and try to convince her to let me do that at some point. Said we will keep trying with her My question is, aren't the school obliged to let me see my son if i want to see him. I have PR, have been involved in his life all his life, past 3 years fought in court to keep gettin contact orders where he stayed with me most weekends. Am I entitled to go to the school and just demand i want to speak to my son and tell them they cant refuse this? Cos im his dad so why should they say no?
Graeme - 17-Aug-17 @ 12:22 PM
Could I please ask why as a father with parental responsibility(I'm named on birth certificate), I can't legally demand immediate access to visitation with my daughter. There are no legal reasons whatsoever to suggest I shouldn't be allowed visitation rights. My ex partner simply refuses to allow it . Does this not totally negate my rights as a father and make a mockery of my "parental responsibility " rights ?..is this not an illegal act on my ex partners behalf ?.., it seems having parental responsibility means absolutely nothing at all for a father. Surely I have a legal right to access automatically and I feel victimised by not being able to enforce this. I am now facing a very lengthy and expensive process to regain the rights I should be entitled to with immediate effect. Surely by refusing access with no legal reason I should be able to simply arrive with police in tow and demand my rights as a father, if these were then denied my ex should be held accountable by law and arrested for her actions ???...why is this not the case ?, the law has and always will victimise the father and prove to be very detrimental to my daughters well being and the relationship/bond we have as father and daughter , I think it's absolutely rediculous that this is still the case !!!! Kindest regards Naheed.
Naz - 17-Aug-17 @ 12:14 AM
I want to know what visiting rights does the father of my son has to see him and how should it work. Hes almpat three years old and we are seperated. How does the visiting rights by law work?
binxie - 16-Aug-17 @ 7:57 PM
Tallulah - Your Question:
Hi, I'm needing some advice.My son's ex partner has stopped us seeing my granddaughter, she says my son goes out most wkends when we have her. (Son lives with me) and said he'll take drugs.Yes my son does go out and could go out less, but he still spends time with her. My granddaughter is 3 soon, and we have had her every wkend plus more since birth, and loves it here.The biggest problem is the mother is not the best of mothers.For the first yr of my granddaughters life , she was in our care more, as she was out partying drugs n having lots of men.Social services were aware of all this.Eventually she started making an effort, and my granddaughter went back home, we still had her 3/5 days a wk, and still did until last wkend, because my son went out. He did, but my granddaughter stayed an extra 2 days with him.Where also worried about my granddaughter, as mother is still not the best, she's had another baby, social services are safeguarding them both, domestics I think, no one will say.Where out of our minds, what is the best way to go about this,Yes my son does go out, my granddaughter is well looked after, and never will come to any harm.I can't believe she's done this and the reasons, considering all that's going on.please help.

Our Response:
Sorry what is exactly is your question?
LawAndParents - 16-Aug-17 @ 1:45 PM
Hi, I'm needing some advice. My son's ex partner has stopped us seeing my granddaughter, she says my son goes out most wkends when we have her. (Son lives with me) and said he'll take drugs. Yes my son does go out and could go out less, but he still spends time with her. My granddaughter is 3 soon, and we have had her every wkend plus more since birth, and loves it here. The biggest problem is the mother is not the best of mothers. For the first yr of my granddaughters life , she was in our care more, as she was out partying drugs n having lots of men. Social services were aware of all this. Eventually she started making an effort, and my granddaughter went back home, we still had her 3/5 days a wk, and still did until last wkend, because my son went out. He did, but my granddaughter stayed an extra 2 days with him. Where also worried about my granddaughter, as mother is still not the best, she's had another baby, social services are safeguarding them both, domestics i think, no one will say. Where out of our minds, what is the best way to go about this, Yes my son does go out, my granddaughter is well looked after, and never will come to any harm. I can't believe she's done this and the reasons, considering all that's going on. please help.
Tallulah - 14-Aug-17 @ 6:14 PM
janjan - Your Question:
Please read carefully this is long. I need urgent advice. My Son is named on my Grandaughters birth certificate. He and his partner split nearly 4 weeks ago. My Son learned that she had cheated with at least one man and was contacting other men through facebook with the view to meet up. The contents of the messages were very flirtatious and sexual. When my Son met his partner over 4 years ago she had 2 boys by 2 fathers, The social services were in place and there were constant threats of her loosing the 2 boys. My Son turned this situation around to the point were the social services no longer had dealings with the family. During this relationship my Son voiced his concerns with regards to the childrens cleanliness and care whilst he was at work. The children constantly had head lice and were often sent to school in unwashed dirty clothes. My grandaughters hair has a double crown and is difficult to sort out but rather than do it up for nursery she just send her without it been brushed.Also there was no evening meals cooked routinely and I myself often witnessed them having a pot noodle for there tea. From the age of 2 years old it was very clear that my Grandaughter was very behind in her development and when I expressed my concerns to my Son he told me he was forever asking his partner to see a professional about it but she keptt refusing to take her saying she would catch up. This caused so much stress and upset to my Son as this was forever causing a rift as she would argue with him about it. As a baby his partner would sit my Grandaughter in a baby chair and point her at TV and never regularly changed her nappy as it was always heavy with urine and her bottom was constantly sore. Basically all my Son has asked since the split is that she doesnt have any men around my Grandaughter and she looks after her keeps her clean etc. Now everything has gone wrong and its ripping us all apart. Since the split within 4 weeks ago she has made friends with a bloke across from where she lives, She smokes cannibis with him and spend at lot of time in his home and him in hers, Also there are 3 other men whos in the back ground who she contacts, One of who she has told my Son she sends explicit pictures of her breast etc to, This man has recently come out of prison and is on drugs !!. Shes also told my Son she has a 24 year old friend who she has regular sex with. My Sons partners family are what you would call a little rough. Some are in prison for drug related crime and all of the females have had children removed due to neglect, Even my Sons patners own sister. The partners family refuse to stop smoking in front of my Grandaughter and when she comes to us she smells of smoke and has a bad cough. His partners Mothers home is filthy theres dried poo down the front of the loo and oh my god the kitchen is just beyond belief I have seen all this for myself. I hate to think that during my little angels 4 years she has slept and been left there with her ot

Our Response:
Has your son not considered applying for residency of the child himself? Thatwould ensure she was cared for properly? If he's genuinely worried for her safety and wellbeing he shuld contact social services.
LawAndParents - 14-Aug-17 @ 2:26 PM
Please read carefully this is long. I need urgent advice. My Son is named on my Grandaughters birth certificate. He and his partner split nearly 4 weeks ago. My Son learned that she had cheated with at least one man and was contacting other men through facebook with the view to meet up. The contents of the messages were very flirtatious and sexual . When my Son met his partner over 4 years ago she had 2 boys by 2 fathers,The social services were in place and there were constant threats of her loosing the 2 boys. My Son turned this situation around to the point were the social services no longer had dealings with the family.During this relationship my Son voiced his concerns with regards to the childrens cleanliness and care whilst he was at work. The children constantly had head lice and were often sent to school in unwashed dirty clothes. My grandaughters hair has a double crown and is difficult to sort out but rather than do it up for nursery she just send her without it been brushed.Also there was no evening meals cooked routinely and i myself often witnessed them having a pot noodle for there tea. From the age of 2 years old it was very clear that my Grandaughter was very behind in her development and when i expressed my concerns to my Son he told me he was forever asking his partner to see a professional about it but she keptt refusing to take her saying she would catch up . This caused so much stress and upset to my Son as this was forever causing a rift as she would argue with him about it. As a baby his partner would sit my Grandaughter in a baby chair and point her at TV and never regularly changed her nappy as it was always heavy with urine and her bottom was constantly sore..Basically all my Son has asked since the split is that she doesnt have any men around my Grandaughter and she looks after her keeps her clean etc. Now everything has gone wrong and its ripping us all apart. Since the split within 4 weeks ago she has made friends with a bloke across from where she lives, She smokes cannibis with him and spend at lot of time in his home and him in hers, Also there are 3 other men whos in the back ground who she contacts, One of who she has told my Son she sends explicit pictures of her breast etc to, This man has recently come out of prison and is on drugs !!. Shes also told my Son she has a 24 year old friend who she has regular sex with. My Sons partners family are what you would call a little rough. Some are in prison for drug related crime and all of the females have had children removed due to neglect, Even my Sons patners own sister. The partners family refuse to stop smoking in front of my Grandaughter and when she comes to us she smells of smoke and has a bad cough. His partners Mothers home is filthy theres dried poo down the front of the loo and oh my god the kitchen is just beyond belief i have seen all this for myself. I hate to think that during my little angels 4 years she has slept and been left there with her ot
janjan - 12-Aug-17 @ 9:16 AM
Kevin - Your Question:
I got my girl home from local authorities in May 2017 and her mum only gets 1 hour per week contact she never turns up on right days allways cancelled now she don't won't contact if iam thair this happens every few weeks one minute she ok next she not I won't to know if I can get a order to stop her coming near my girl and contact us

Our Response:
We can't predict what the court would decide here as we don't have enough information. If you feel that your daughter is being harmed by her mother's behaviour you should refer this back to the courts.
LawAndParents - 10-Aug-17 @ 12:05 PM
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