Can we Stop Our Father's Visitation Rights to See Us?

Me and my wife decided to come to uk and settle with our kids .ages 3,6,8 and suddenly after we came she took the kids and move ro other address and i didnt say no , and i used to go every weekend take my kids to spend the weekend with me but unfortunately last weekend my wife refused to open the door for them by force and i left but the second time i went and i found no body at home and she send me a message saying we will not come back to that house again and you can not see the kids again if i didnt hand thier swedish passports to her while i have share custody in the my daughters birth certificates and i really dont know what to do kindly advice.

Hi all my daughter has been taken into care from her mother I ent been with her mother for over 2 years I wald like to no have a father got right to remove my daughter from care if he on a birth certificate and with out singing any paper work for my daughter being in care

Unfortunately my ex is an alcoholic, controlling, abusive man. Although I always try to encourage the relationship between him and our 15 year old son, his schooling is being affected. My son is feeling tremendous stress and pressure and cannot concentrate during his mock exams. His GCSEs are coming up and he has asked me to contact his father and tell him to stop calling him. He called him 39 times this week, half of which he didn't pick up because he is still scarred from the hour long drunk conversation he had with him whilst he was studying. He fills my son's head with stories, upon stories of his own life. Not thinking that he is talking to a 15 year old but to an adult. This is not the first time my son has asked for no contact with his drunk father. He is sick of the emotional and verbal abuse and does not want it anymore. It is affecting his emotional well-being and state of mind. My son wants to concentrate on his revision and wants a clear head during his GCSE examinations. I have emailed his father (this is my only safe way of communicating with him) and informed him that our son doesn't want to speak to him or see him. If his father does not listen to our son's wishes, what else can I do to help my son.

Please urgently help My partners 16 year old son has been party to the cutting of her cloths including lingerie and although reported to the police numerous times they have done nothing and have not acted to interview the boy or his 21 year old sister who may also be included and there is a possibility that her controlling ex may have done it. We do not know as the police have failed to act and have let my partner down very badly. The boy has also terrorised his younger half brother and sister which has only just come to light My Partner quite rightly removed her son and placed him with social services and is now blackmailing her to have her younger children removed if he does not get his own way The blackmail has gone so far that he called the police stating that she was an unfit mother and using drugs at her property which is a complete lie and fabrication. Ironically the police visited her and was satisfied that was not the case and on the presentation of text and email evidence the police man seems to believe her although we cannot now get hold of him. The blackmail has now included me in respect that should may partner not comply with his demands he will contact the police to say I am a paedophile We are at our wits end My Partner has now removed herself from the property as it is unsafe and still the police are not acting Please help By the way her parents are also complicit in this as is the 21 year old daughter and very strangely the ex partner who my partner removed from her life after suffering domestic mental and physical abuse I am trying not to get involved personally as I will be arrested so we are desparate Help help

My abusive ex left me with a 14yr old not his a 6 yr old and a new born he tried for contact a year later butcher 7 year old wanted nothing to do with him and wanted my now husband to be her dad now the ex is trying to work his way back my new born is 8 and don't know my husband isn't her bio father but my other daughter is happy to believe the lies my ex is telling , he lives abroad no money no contact in 8 years nothing What can I do Can I stop him seeing my 8 year old

Hi I have twin boys if 15. A non contact order was issued as father was abusive. At what age by law can the boys refuse to reply to a letter? Father does not comply to the court order.

Why did the courts stop contact? Were social services involved etc?

hi i broke up at 2005 only seen my kids a few time then she stopped me seening by courts whats the age gab when i can try make contact with them ?? would be great for this info cheers

If there is a court order in place you should really abide by it and apply to the courts if you want to amend/adapt the order.

Hi I would like to know if my 9 and 11 year old daughters refuse to visit their dad do I have to force them to go? there is a court order in place but we're due to go back to court in April. What are my rights do they have to go or will I get into trouble if I allow them to stay with me?

We are looking at emigrating to Australia. My son will be 16 years old. His father and I are separated & his father also has parental responsibility (plus a contact order). Can my son choose to emigrate without his dad's consent or would we have to apply through the courts if we can't get his dad to agree?

@George. You can go back to the courts if the order is regularly being breached. If the mother wants to vary the hours etc, then she too will need to go to the courts to have the order adapted. Unfortunately at the age of 13 friends do often come first, the easiest way to handle this is work around it so that she feels she can invite friends when she's at your house. Also make sure she knows she can visit friends and you'll pick her up etc.

I have a 13 year old daughter that lives with her mother. Her mother and i split up when our daughter was 4 years old and i had to go to court to get a court order to get contact with my daughter. I'm supposed to have my daughter stay with me fortnightly from Friday 6pm to Sunday 6pm and also get to see her every Wednesday. A few weeks ago my daughters mother told our daughter that she doesn't have to come to mine for weekends if she doesn't want to and since then my daughter has been thinking she can pick and choose if and when she comes for the weekend. I now find myself in an impossible position where if i to insist that she stay with me i just end up turning her against me and if i let her have her way and decide if and when she comes then she just gets funny with me and uses it against me to get her way. My daughter believes that she can do what she likes as far as contact with me is concerned and her mother just says that our daughter is 13 and can make her own mind up and that she cant do anything about our daughters decisions. So what i would like to know is this - Is there an age of the child when the court order no longer applies? My daughters mother says she cant make our daughter come to mine. If she does not make our daughter available for contact is she in breach of the court order if our daughter doesn't want to come? the reasons my daughter has given for not coming to mine are because she wants to see her friends, but this has been put in to her head by her mother who told her she could choose. A couple of weeks ago i went to see my daughter for my Wednesday visit and when i got there my daughter was not there, her mother said she didnt know where she was yet when i phoned my daughter she told me her mother did know where she was and had told her she could go out if she wanted. If the court order is being breached, what can i do to get it enforced? If i go to collect my daughter this weekend and my daughters mother was to refuse to let me have our daughter is that something that can be enforced by the police or do i have to go back to court?. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

@angel. Unfortunately we can only comment on the UK laws. In the UK you would be expected to gain the consent of the father only if he had parental responsibility.

Good Day I'm from SA and I really would like some advice please I have a child from a guy who left me when she was only a month old and we weren't married but he's on her birth certificate but she's registered under my surname not his we not in contact and I would really would like to know if I can change my daughter surname without the father premision even if she's on my surname when I get married my daughter is now 16months old Thank You

@louis. Is there any way you can work with the father to allow contact while you're present at first? Or perhaps with another family member? Does she have any cousins for example on her father's side?

Can anyone help , after going to court ,seeing cafcass , and doing the contact centre my daughter aged 12 is still refusing to see her father . He is now taking me back to court again .i have been told that I have to make her see him , is there anything I can do ? She gets upset and refuses this is having a emotional effect on her

I have been going through a Family court case fir 15mnths, since my infants dad applied for a contact to see his child regularly again. Supported by his parents doing all the physical stuff, esp food prep and toileting. he applied four months after i stopped contact at his parents house, as our child got more and more distressed each visit. Said he didn't like it and didn't want to go. At just two and a half. And they carried on abusing alcohol and neglecting his needs and routine etc. dad abused me physically and mentally. Especially after our child was born.. From the day we left the hospital and we returned to his house, where we lived as a family. he bought a sports car, like the last time i stopped contact. When we left him. Money and status always came first. He refused to see our son when he had all wk to study for a higher grade through work. Fir more money. I found out mnths ago that he was lying about his job title to the courts and the csa. I reported it. But he cant have been charged. Ir ibdoubt he wouldn't pay for the court case. he didn't disclose dv or neglect of our child but admitted to three assaults on me. Esp when he put a pillow over my face, when i was half asleep. cafcass are lying about what the school said. As at home, my sins behaviour had changed since contact. The head is supportive. She is v empathetic but wouldn't conmut herself to saying that it def was fault if contact. Even tho she said un a meeting that it was. Everyone is lying. Esp my solicitor who takes upto a week to return messages etc. supervised contact nites are good, in the first sessions but after that.he was late 2/3 times. The notes don't say much if what he said to our boy. There is little communication, to develop a relationship.. His mum sorts the snacky tea i requested he bring. He doesn't even nip to Tesco for a sw i asked him to get, via the spervisor. Last time he turns up with food that needs to be heated up. He is constantly playing mind games. His whole family are doing what they had always done. . Belittle me and refuse to abide by my usual recommended choice etc. They always though their care methods were better than mine. Even though in his only reg carer. Ive never understood why. Its very strange. They also thought that once a child is walking. They can follow you, nit you there's. Them being first priority. Also very strange. But even my solicitor cant get that they, he is playing games. But she is trying to get the cafcass officer to chat to our son about his dad. I just hope he repeats what hes said to me. That he doesn't wana c dad COs he remembers badstyff at his house. He doesn't want to see hum in his own. He knows it wouldn't be safe as he left him alone in the house, un the car and burnt his legs, wouldn't give him meds and got drunk in his/parents care. hes on bail for ABH to me. Hes admitted to on paper. The worst assault was ibfrint of Ethan, as a baby. And again before i left and took as much furniture