There may come a time – either as the result of a separation or a divorce – where the issue of where and with whom your children live comes to the fore. For this reason, the application for a Child Arrangements Order is normally made.
What is a Child Arrangements Order
A Child Arrangements Order is an order issued by the Family Proceedings Court, and details which parent the children should reside with. This order normally provides details of when and where the children can be visited by the parent who has failed to gain residency. Once the order has been granted, Parental Responsibility for the children goes to the person with whom the children will be living.
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You should only apply for a Child Arrangements Order if you and your partner cannot come to an amicable arrangement relating to the living arrangements of your children. If this is the case, you should consult with a solicitor specialising in family law, who will advise you on the best course of action to take, and may suggest that a period of mediation is entered into before pursuing the matter through the courts.
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Paramountcy
This is the term used to describe how the court will look upon such requests for the issuing of a Child Arrangements Order. Paramountcy relates to the importance to the children of where they should live and also what is in their best interests. For example, if the court feels that the children’s best interests would to stay with their mother, then they are obliged to issue in her favour.
The most important aspect of any court proceeding relating to the care and wellbeing of your children is what is best for them. This is something that can become a secondary issue if the circumstances between parents is not amicable. Therefore, if your children are old enough to understand, you should discuss the situation with them, and if they are old enough to decide, ask them where they would prefer to live.
Visiting Rights
If you are the parent that the court has ruled against, then you will have visiting rights. This means that between you and your partner you must agree – or the court will make a ruling on your behalf – as to how often and for how long you see your children each day or each week.
It is important that the children have access to both parents and also have the means to contact either parent as and when they wish to. The court may also rule that telephone calls are allowed in between visits in order to maintain some level of continuity.
The most important thing to remember during the application for a Child Arrangements Order are the thoughts and feelings of the children involved. You should – at all times – make sure they are aware of the fact that they are not at fault and are not to blame for the circumstances in which they are caught up.
The court order I can’t find and wen calling court the files have been transferred to another system that she can’t access realy confused
He has been saying for three months that he has a residency order but I’ve never seen it. With Christmas and lockdown I’ve seen my kids for a day since November and I’m out of my mind trying to get a legal aid lawyer and social services to help. I’m in England and he is in Scotland with them. Any advice
Shes been 16 for the last about a month and the social work said to the carers if she thinks she's kept in don't tell her she can't be told what to since she turned 16(they don't mind being unethical, eh), sorry about the rant!
I just want to know if she can come home.
I would like to travel with my baby abroad to my native country to see my parents. But his dad doesn't want to give a permission to me to take our son out of country. Do I really need his permission? can I travel without his permission? What can I do?
Thank you
What can I do?
In these 2 years, social services noted all of these concerns but were still convinced on giving mum a chance to redeem herself countless times (I’m a young father & I didn’t know my rights). I found this ridiculous & fought for custody of my son since he was born as I knew I could provide a more stable, loving home.
My son has been living with me for 2 years now & mum accepts this but can be spiteful at times. She has been very inconsistent with contact over the two years I’ve had my son (went 6months without contact & decides when she just doesn’t want to turn up), she had supervised contact for a year & a half, & now can only take my son out locally near where I live; she hasn’t contributed at all financially & even asked me for money to take our son out & for cabs back home! I declined. When the situation was flipped & my son was in her care, I paid her weekly into her bank account. I’ve been nothing but amicable, never resorting to any negative behaviour. I’ve been overly accommodating.
I now have a massive work opportunity abroad & im scared to just go for it & do it. I don’t know the legal implications of it. I do know we still have equal parental responsibility because I haven’t been to court. No residency order. I have countless evidence of negligence & ill care from mums part from social services & other bodies. She has an extensive criminal record. Every written document advises my son to live & be with me & that mum isn’t to have him overnight. My worry isn’t applying for a residency order, as I’m certain I’d win that. It’s the visitation part that would hold me down to being in the UK. I’m only saying this as I honestly believe that taking this opportunity, for myself & my son, would be life changing for us & I know for a fact that the lack of contact with his mum (which is already rare anyway) would not have a negative affect on him. This isn’t me trying to take him away from his mum but it’s come to a point where I have to weigh it all out & ive already decided in my head what is best. Any advice or help with what I should do?
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My daughter has lived with me (dad) for a few weeks short of 10 years, under a residency order granted by the court as her mother was going through a troublesome period in her life. My daughters siblings were also removed from mum at the same time. My daughter was 5 when the order was granted and I have done anything and everything possible to ensure they have maintained contact and regular visits including doing the lionshare of the travel to drop her off and pick her up, but she has now stated she wants to return home to Mum - her siblings have also moved back but they are older (21 & 16 respectively)
Whilst it breaks my heart that she wants to move back to her mum's, I dont want to stop it from happening if its what she really wants as I dont want her to be unhappy. Through lots of tears and talking - it is what she wants.
I don't know what I/she/we can and can't do.
Do we have to go to court to have the order overturned ?
I appreciate any help, guidance or advice you can give me
Many thanks
My question is does he need to get consent from his ex to take their child on holiday in the uk? Or to take her away for one night? We are aware we do, if we are going aboard.
Also, can she take her on holiday for a month, if it effect my weekend contact?
Thanks in advance
Many thanks kim
The child does not want to live with his dad anymore but with me
What can i do as he is so un happy at home.
Hes aware that the care i give him is better than at home.One min the father says he can live me me then the next No hes coming back .Can you five me some advice for my very unhappy Granson
After 5 months he did not return, and when i terminated my spouse sponsor, immigration asked him to leave, unless he is fighting for access for his daughter. So he put in a court order to see he daughter, where the courts have order supervised contacts. however they have affect my daughter as she is forced to be left in a room with her father she has not idea about.
My daughter is 4 now and this has been going on for 4years. Father has now put in a residency order to have his daughter fully, whilst the fact remains he has never had any contact with her.
What is the likely chance of him taking away my daughter, to some where she knows no-one to a completely different region away from her family of 4 years.
what can i do?
My child is now 13 years old and wants to come back home and live with me and her other siblings !
Will i have to go back to court to make this happen or my daughter just refused to go back even if he rings the police to come get her ?
Even though we agreed I will be the full time parent, can I still apply for residential order?
At present my daughter has become a terrible teen. Argumentative, lying, abusive, and very deceiving, as her mother says. Every time this happens I am brought into it as a pinball go-between. One says this, the other says that etc. Any advice or intervention I try to help with is returned by my ex as "your just a part time father", even though I call my daughter every week, see her every fortnight, and have always paid my dues
It has now come to the Final Straw, as my ex said. She's not welcome here anymore, as far as I'm concerned she's dead to me."
I no longer live in the area so if she has to live with me then her schooling would be severely disrupted as she would have to change schools. It is clearly in my daughters best interests to remain with her mother at least till her schooling finishes.
Can she legally kick her out?
Or is this child neglect?
Where does this put both my ex and me legally with the residence order?
Thank you for your time.
his father has not been in contact for 9 years (no birthday or Christmas Card)
My son wanted to change his surname to the same as mine and his sister (who's was done by deed poll when she was 14 ( born before the law changed)
so after £400 of solicitors fees we tracked him down and got his consent to the name change.
His father is now saying he wants contact with him and my son son dose not wish to see him.
He is now having nightmares about his dad. taking him away. where do i stand
MY 14 year old daughter has said she will kill herself if i make her see him (she remembers what he was like)
I havent heard anything from ss in meantime.
I am wondering does my residency order from 2013 is still valid?
If so could I just collect my son from school or could police get involved ?.....
I tried to get information and advice from solicitor who I had in 2013. He dont think I will get legal aid. Please help ??
I need help. I want our grandauhter to stay safe with us. There are no reasons I can think of that she's gone.
But 10 years later on our relationship went wrong .since this she is dictator g yo me ad and when I can see the kids.
I just want to see my children every week for a reasonable time .I don't know where I stand legally with thus situation but feel I have to do whatever she says .
I work mon to Fri and have weekend available.
And also willing to take my kids I full time or anything like this .l just want fair time with my children.
Can you advise me in what time i should b getting with my children .
Thanks...
She also has an ongoing nit issue, I treat it when she comes to me but this weekend I took her home and asked for him to do it again, he said he can’t, it makes no difference and it will have to wait till she comes back to me in two weeks. She is staying up until 2am on her phone as dad goes to bed early and sleeps in a room downstairs.
My daughter needs stability and care and love as well as consistency and boundaries. I lost her at a time when I was ill and going through a breakdown. Is there anything I can do to change this?
He left me alone for the next month and then it all started again, he got me to agree to a divorce and said there was no children of the marriage or property and said we would marry again and this time it would be a fresh start. I lost all claim on the marital home and no provision was made regarding our daughter. For the next few months We went away together a dozen times throughout the year, and still he would go back and forth from me to this other woman unable to make his mind up because he said he felt guilty. All of the time my daughter who is 11 was subject to this and it has had a damaging effect on her. Finally I left the area but he used my daughters phone to make contact and beg me to return. I did and this emotional abuse continued as soon as I came back, finally I snapped again and my mental health broke down and I was admitted for a third overdose. I have since left the area and through counselling, medication and family support I am managing to get stronger and better. However I want my daughter back, although she wants to live with her father I don’t think it is the best for her, she has emotional issues that have been made worse, I understand and take responsibility for what I did, that was unforgivable, but she also witnessed daddy with mummy, then not, then with, then not. She was asked to lie about spending time with the other woman, her eating is a serious cause for concern and her mealtime has become a battle ground where food has been thrown up against the wall, her weight is desperately low and the other female has advised her father to fill her up on chocolate. Eating was not an issue when she lived with me. She also has an ongoing nit issue, I treat it when she comes to me but this weekend I took her home and asked for him to do it again, he said he can’t, it makes no difference and it will have to w
I have a final hearing on Thursday. basic outline - split wit my ex in November last year, went to work in January to come home to an empty house - he'd taken my then 2 year old daughter to where he is from (2 hours away). I got her back in march and 2 weeks later he put in an emergency order. She was removed from my house by Police and his Mum ( no social workers involved) She has been there since April and I have been able to have her at my home every fortnight for 2 nights since August. His order is based on lies ( I'm an alcoholic apparently, and abusive etc.. ( I have proof against everything he has lied about) Anyway, 4 court hearing later and its our final one on Thursday. ( please note, I have my 9 year old and 14 year old with me still, after all checks have been done, Section 37 says no risk with me etc) Anyway, I have a barrister ( I believe he does too) I want to know, if the judge makes the order for her to return home, is it immediate? And how is it done, as I would have to go collect her - his family are not the nicest approachable people on the planet!!) The judge has had quite a few words to say to him over the hearings and questioned a lot - but not to me. I am a normal working Mum of 4 ( I have a 17 year old who lives away)
I haven't been able to see my children in 3 years and they have turned my children against me and made them believe it was me not wanting to see them and not because they stopped me
My children don't want anything to do with me and I don't know the best way forward
My daughter started a school in his local area due to hospitalization on my part.
Mediation was initiated by my daughter's dad and it was agreed that he was happy for my daughter to return home once certain conditions were met and a school placement became available.
He has now taken the matter to court and has stated that my daughter is happy where she is and it's within her best interest to continue school in his area -- 120 miles away from my home address.
Any advice for court? I am representing myself in court and he has a solicitor/lawyer, etc. He's claiming that he doesn't deem it suitable for my daughter to return with my history on mental health.
I needed hospital, now my daughter may be set to stay with him...
Perhaps try a different arrangement, instead of dropping her off at her father's, have the father come over and pick her up, or take her to a neutral place (like a park) and see if that helps ?
Hope that helps.
Also, your link leads to a document about foxes :-)
Stop me moving as my romantic relationship has only been going on six months. If I married my partner could the courts still stop me from re locating within the U.K. within reasonable distance from the children father? I must add that there are no safe guarding issues and his allegations are all lies which I can prove with supportive evidential emails. We are currently in the early stages of proceedings.
Many thanks.
My daughter is now saying that mental health services are assisting her to find a home and are going to support her to regain custody of the children.
Where do I stand as their main carer for the past 6 years?
Where there has been issues in the relationship and one parent hasnt realised the partner is emotionally abusive them, after the separation one parent continues to shout and swear in front of a toddler the other parent tries to to walk away from this but the other parent seems to see this as being ignored. The parent is trying to be civil due to child being present. The abusive partner exaggerating things and twisting ex partners words trying to blame everyone else but themself. Selfish and does not see what is happening to the child or the parent. The other parent decides had enough of abuse and the other parent cant be civil and blaming the other parent for it goes bypasses mediation due to emotional abuse (not sure if the parent knew they were being abusive as part of controlling self couldnt see how the other parent felt self centred and short tempered) abusive parent believed has child in best interest but actually doesnt. the child was a novelty from the beginning parent does love child but doesnt show it in anything the other parent does alot more and loves child and cared since day one. The child was being pushed from pillow to post tired and behaviout started to change due to PR 50/50 this wasnt clearly working for child so other parent went for court order for living arrangements. Can the parent who was emotionally abused and because parent dis it in front of child can that parent stop other parent from having contavt until court order?
I have residency but I'm scared my ex won't bring back my child, what can I do if this happens he also has pr? But there is a child arrangement order in place through the court stating times and dates contact takes place with him.
I just want my son home but I don't think they will let ne have a case just for that reason would they?
Also I don't work anymore due to health but he does so would I be entitled to legal aid as I have no money myself except my child benefit.
I want to take my son for 2 weeks to see my family in Poland- I have asked his dad to go with us but he is saying he can't take time of, so I have told him we will go without him and now he told me he will file a restraint order against me and I won't be able to take our son with me... he said he will tell in the court that he thinks that I'll kidnap our son... which is not true
He makes her feel uncomfortable. Where do I stand with her dad, he's been
In n out of her life only put on birth certificate 5 years ago how much rights does he have over her?
Knowing that she would mess up contact once they left, I took her back to court to ammend the order so that I would have weekly phone contact and also that our child would visit me twice a year.
Weekly phone contact has been erratic and now she informs me our child won't come back to the country for the next visit.
If I take this case to court what can the courts do for me?
My problem is my daughter's moms new husband. He currently has a restraining order but this runs out in May 2016. My daughter is petrified of him and wishes to have no contact. Our worry is once the restraining order runs out next month, he will be actively seeking to force his way into my daughters life whether we like it or not. He is a violent drunk and been in prison several times over the last few years for assaulting a police officer, assault and breaching the restraining order. My daughter has also seen him actively trying to fight with myself twice, once while I were holding onto my daughters pushchair with her inside it. This is how I got the restraining order.
My daughters mother has not seen her daughter for the last 5 months. She were always loosing my daughter down with promises and not keeping to the arranged meetings. I felt this was damaging to my daughter so I asked her to get a contact order and told her once the application had been sent in then I would have no problem with her seeing her daughter but not until. This has not happened. My daughters mom has had very little contact with my daughter in the last 5 months. Even when she does see my daughter then she is on 1 hour time limit. She would have calls and text from her husband basically urging my daughters mom to make hast and leave.
I'm on here asking if there is any way I can push this contact order through with a stipulation preventing my daughters husband from having contact, or maybe getting the restraining order extended.
Any help on this would be greatly appreciated.
Her mother has full parental but is very verbally abusive towards her to the point my stepdaughter has breakdowns
Her mother keeps saying she's gonna put her in to care
Where does my stepdaughter stands if she refuses to go back to her mother's
Kind regards jac
I'm all for her being the soul career of my child so, what would we need to do to get the ball rolling and what would happen?
many thanks 0y0z
A wasn't married n we splitvup because of his controlling abuse
I have had a few mental problems in my past and he uses them to blackmail n bully me
I've told him to stop booking things on my weekend and if he has then to swap. He just does what he wants with her and says I haven't a clue!!!! Could I refuse him accesses until we can agree fairness rights. I've never stopped him any time but him and his abusive family are taking more and more of my daughter and me time
What can I do. I'm scared he will bring up all my past problems if I go and see a Solisitors
PleSe give me some advise x
I have a new partner who I have been with since my daughter was about one and a half (she's five now). We live together and have a baby who was born last year. My daughter calls my partner 'daddy' by her own choice.
Her biological dad is on her birth certificate and so has parental responsibility. I worry that if anything happened to me, then her real dad may be given custody of her over my partner and she would potentially be moved to the other side of the country away from the man she calls 'daddy', her brother and other close family members who she currently sees frequently. What is the likelihood of this happening? And what legal steps could I take to prevent it?
So in short would he have a good chance in getting custody
There farther was never in there lives much and tried every loop hole to take them off me but thankfully they will reside with me till old enough to make there own decisions .
I'm taking them abroad on holiday this June and I was wondering if I have the right to do this ? There was court order stating there father must have contact etc on certain days for so long !
However he got board didn't ring anymore nor bother to physically see them, which then I told him to go bk to courts and change order cause you are letting the children down all the time ,full of false promises which took a massive effect on the children's emotions which his attitude did not change , therefore all phone and physically contact was stopped by myself and protecting the children from rejection!
I need to get the youngest one who is 5 her first passport , here is a list of documents I have all ready:
-child full birth certificate
-mums death certificate
- the full residency order
My sisters father is not on the birth certificate either .
Do I have to contact him about applying for a passport or do I have total rights???
Really stuck plz would look to here your advice on this matter
THANK YOU ALL X
Was wondering if you can help, my parents helped my niece out with family trouble, she came to stay temporary with them, buts now wont leave, my parents are both struggling financially because of it, is there anyway we can get her to leave?
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I was victim of a crime from my ex-husband and he's improsioned as a result of it.
Before he was imprisoned social services advised that all contact was cut. He hasn't seen the kids for almost 3 years now.
The kids live with me but I still want to apply for residency, so I have it in writing.
My question is: he's now t allowed to contact me, he's in prison, social services have adviced against contact, do I still need to do mediation? Or can I just send the forms to court? Thank you
My ex has just been granted residency of our son. He applied for this as I was planning to move 80miles away with my new partner into a house we have bought, I obviously wanted to take my son, but he court have granted my ex his care residency, as there will be too many new changes for him, and because I work full time and would have to use childcare and my ex not as he is more flexible. We have agreed contact, I want to take my son away for 5 days in May which would be additional, my ex is advising I have to speak to his solicitor. Is this true? That I have to contact them every time? In court it was agreed we would make arrangements via email, I feel like I'm being stopped to take my own son on holiday. And am very annoyed about it, as I feel like a missjucdice was done, as he has a police record also.
Therefore if the mother leaves the child (5) with a babysitter at night repeatedly, until 2am at weekends on her weekend. Does anyone know if the father can stop the mother doing this and offer the care himself (ie have the child overnight at the child's other home with him instead of being left with a babysitter)
Also the mother regularly come back drunk so therefore can not possibly be able to care for the child?
My understanding was that if a shared parent order was in place then the child had to be with either parent?
Im considering on moving back home to England which would make my life much happier..
I'm born there but my son was born in Northern Ireland which Is where I live..
At the moment, my son sees his dad every month but his Grandmother every week.. Both for a few hours.. His dad has missed several days of not attending the contact centre and yet gets away with it..
Grandmother is there every week..
I have family back home and that's why want to move back, even though my mother lives in Northern Ireland aswel as grandparents.. But I have all my cousins, friends, uncles, dad, brothers..
I know my sons dad and mother will fight this..
But is there any hope of me being able to move back home? Any hope at all?
I will most definitely have the Grandmother attending to court with my sons dad, sticking her nose like she is doing now.. She does everything for her sons so I know it will be me against two..
Has anyone any ideas how I can move back home legally?
Thank you..
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I have not seen my son in 9 years (he is now 10), I pay CSA for him,but have discovered that his mother has changed his surname to hers (while on the birth certificate it is my surname)she has not asked me for permission,I woud like to know my ground on this situation please.
Many Thanks
I need to know of where I go from here in terms of my rights, hers and how I go about getting the order thrown out and bringing my son home to me.
All help will be appreciated.
Am I able to do this as My sons dad is kicking up a fuss.
Many thanks
What can I do ? I dont want to go to court.
I am trying to be supportive so I am asking for any help that can be provided. It will be greatly appreciated.
The father morther has forced me to get into a relationship with the child farther if I don't then she would stop all access to me seeing my children
Am very upset and as far as my children know we are together and its a happy home in the children eyes.
I have told the farther that it's wrong and I want my children to move back with me in Milton keynes as he is now workin everyday 50 hours or more a week works nights sleep all day
He has said that I can't take the children and if I do then his gona come to mine beat me and take the children off me and even said he will kill me and that he knows everyone on mk and if am not in mine his gona put a call out and get people to find me in Milton keynes and beat me and take my children off me and he doesn't care if I call the police his not scared of them
He said if I get a place in London he will be happy to allow me to take the kids
Bt if I take them to Milton Keynes then am a dead girl
I at the age of 10 whiteness my sister get beaten up and so on and was unable to live in Milton keynes and was forced to move to another town with her daughter who still at the age of 14 goes to Weekly counciling
I don't want my children to experience what my sister and her daughter witnesses
Am suffering from emotional and mental abouse which will lead to violence if I dare to take my kids back
My place is unsafe in milton keynes the whole area is unsafe
I need to get rehouse close to my children school so that I can keep my children still in a stable condition and keep them busy by goin to the same school
My question is will tower hamlet help me get rehouse into their area as my children are oready in the area and in a happy schrool
does anybody know if she can do this ?
I want to apply for a residency order as he sees her once a week or fortnight but only when I contact him. She loves him, she has a right to see him and I have never blocked access but neither do I want to be naive. He communicates minimally with me but has been telling my friends of his plans for her. I wish to prevent him from taking her from all the stability and family here. How do I do this?
Thank you
My sister has now fallen out with the family and is threatening to go to court and try and get her back.
As you can image my parents are devastated, as they have worked so very hard to provide her with the life so deserves.
What is the like hood of her being successful, especially as she has shown no interest previously.
My sons Dad was granted a residency order without me ever being served papers bcoz he told courts he didnt know where I stayed (which is a lie!)
Is there any chance I xould contest this? Ive tried talking to solicitors but because I stay 200miles away from where the case would be held they dont want to get involved.
The only reason my sons Dad got my little boy was his paternal gran asked to have him for 2wks holiday (while I was led to believe his dad was in jail) I agreed only to find out his dad was out. Told me I wasnt gettin my son back without a fight, and bcoz its a civil matter police wouldnt do anything, left my son with his dad!
My local social work suggested I contact social work in my sons area but honesty dont know!
Any help would be appreciated.
As her mother agreed for me to take residency of our daughter I opted not to get an residency order. Now after 10 years, she wants to take our daughter back. Is there anything I can do to stop her?
I need some help/advice... Over 2years ago me and my ex separated. We could not agree on contact so I went to a solicitor for help to arrange things in black and white.. he did not respond to any of the letters and since have not heard anything from him.. he is on the birth certificate and I understand parental responsibility however I have since got with a new partner and have a new child and my daughter has taken it upon herself to call him dad.. my daughter is 3 coming 4 years in a couple of months and for the last 2 years has only known my new partner as a father figure.. just recently my ex has attempted to make contact but I am uncertain of his state of mind as I know he is now a drug user. I don't know where I stand as no orders were passed in court and I am worried what it would do to my daughter if he actually reappears. . Please help
I have an residence order for my three children due to neglect & violence towards them from their Mother. The court granted her access once a month in a fun centre in our home town. She moved quite far away with a new boyfriend who used to drive her to the venues. She has split with him and is expecting me at great expense to take the children to her once a month. I would think she would have to get the court ruling changed, but would we have to travel as it was her choice as an adult to move away.
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She has caused nothing but chaos the whole time !
I have my son who is 3yo 5/6 nights a week,
She tried to take me for CSA claiming i only have my son 52 NIGHTS A YEAR !
I appealed this and won and was told I could get it from her, I didn't do it as money isn't what's important to me.
I have also won a mandatory decision by HMRC and have been awarded the child benefits etc.
My ex still tries to stop me seeing my son, and she also threatens to call the police to take him away from me etc whenever she isn't happy with me for taking the benefits back.
To help you understand I do not work and am receiving income support, I was self employed for 4 years before seperating, but now cannot work for myself due to raising my son,
My ex works full time still and as stated sees our son for 1/2 nights a week and is claiming benefits such as child care etc that she shouldn't be as max is with me and not at nursery etc.
How do I stand, and what is my best course of action? Please help me it's greatly appreciated.
I never thought things would wind up like this ??
Now i have managed to get my daughter into dermotlogy which gave her creams and bandages she clared up over this summer and was happy for first time in 6 years. She has been doing well until 4 weeks ago i had to ring out hours as she was complaining of being sore below and i git her some cream and doctor said if she wasnt better within 2 days she had see her doctor i passed this onto her dad and didnt see her again for 6 days when i went to pick my daughter up from school 6 days later she was in pain and bleeding below so i took her a and e and someone checked her over and gave her medication for water infection. The next day i took it upon myself to cobtact social service for second time in 5 months as i was realy concerned with state she was in and doctor didnt know why she was bleeding so another doctor checked her and that was it social have just pushed it to one side again and she still suffering. I dont know what else to do for her as no one will help her. If someone could help or give adivice that would be great
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My ex had another child she said was mine but after 6 years and a DNA I found out she is not mine.
Since then I have not been allowed access since June. Now I have a solicitor for access my ex has removed my child from her grandmother and stolen her during the school holidays.
I am now settled and a business man my daughter would like to reside with me and my partner . what would you suggest.
I had regular weekly access to my daughter then as time went on the grandmother reduced the access as my daughter was becoming close to us.
I went to court in 2003, obtained residency order, and my child's legal guardian, the father has no parental responsibility.i have had years of abuse from him mentally and intimiddily physical violence.
While I do not really want to go through the system of social services, I would like some on advice on what my rights are as a parent, I am extremely concerned in regards to her emotional well being and am very aware that mentally she is being manipulated, which she is finding difficult to really understand this fact. I have requested the her dad obtain parental responsibility coupled with a request that he go and have a drug test.
What exactly are my rights in relation to this matter and the best course if action
Kindest regards
Your daughter has nothing to worry about. She has offered to make the baby available for contact and that's all she has to do. Taking mothers to court for access is not as easy anymore as there is no legal aid for it. It would cost him thousands to take her to court. So long as she's a good mum and offers contact it's fine no need to worry x
I've been through something similar over the last 18 months.
Firstly your son must be on the childs birth certificate. If he is then he is quite within his rights to have her living with him. He has as much parental responsibility as her mother . Keep records of everything no matter how trivial it seems. Seek legal advise you can go to court to get a prohibited steps order to prevent her mother from taking her from his care. Then you apply for residency the courts will want evidence that she has been left in your sons care and that she is not able to care for her. This can be evidence such as abusive text messages. It might be helpful to get social services involved because they really help when it comes to doing what's best for the child, I don't know what I would have done without them. They will do a section 7 report for the court which holds a lot of weigh basically what ever they recommend the court will go with. I hope this is helpful and good luck x
She has also continued to claim benefits from the gvt for herself and her daughter and none has come to us to help with upkeep. where do we stand?
apparantly we r a bit powerless once they have taken them away, but if we knew wot they were planning then we could have filed a prohibited steps order stopping them leaving,
so were just left with fighting for visits .also they dont have to bring the chirldren to us if they dont agree with this. sorry for the bad news, but have a word with a solisiter just to make sure. As each case can be differant due to personal circumstances. good luck,reguards paul.
THANKS TOMMO
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