Children Taken Into Care: What Are My Legal Rights?

LawAndParents Editor 04/07/2026 at 1:01 pm

@Karl Your first step is to speak with a solicitor who specialises in family law and specifically care proceedings. Look for one with Children Law Accreditation through the Law Society, as legal aid is usually available for parents in care cases regardless of income. You can also contact Family Rights Group on 0808 801 0366 for free advice on challenging the local authority. Acting quickly matters, especially if court proceedings have already started.

Karl 04/07/2026 at 12:56 pm

Where to go to legal actions to get my child out of care

Karl 04/07/2026 at 12:37 pm

Me ex failed to safeguard my daughter she's in Stockton I'm in Keighley west Yorkshire but she's been taken in to care before lockdown my ex won't tell me what happened or anything she's hiding something don't know what tho

LawAndParents Editor 23/06/2026 at 10:41 pm

@Athers You're right to be sceptical. After 7 years in care with only monthly supervised contact, the local authority is very unlikely to suddenly place her with dad and a new partner in another county, regardless of whether that partner fosters for a different council. Being an approved foster carer for one authority doesn't give you any power to "spring" a child from another authority's care, the social workers and courts decide. Tell him to ring the allocated social worker himself before he gives up his flat, he'll get a reality check pretty quickly.

Athers 23/06/2026 at 10:39 pm

A friend had his daughter taken into care about 7 years ago and he split with his wife (her mother) . Anyway he thinks that a woman he’s now seeing is going to get his daughter out of care and living with them , in a different county . I’ve told him they won’t let her live 120 miles away as that would restrict the mother seeing the daughter . This woman has promised him the earth and he won’t listen to reason

ATM him and his ex wife get supervised visits at a public place - McDonald’s ect Once a month .

I can see he has an extremely small chance of anything altering ,

Any advice as he’s giving up his apartment ect to move to another county because she’s told him that as she’s a foster parent she can sort it

LawAndParents Editor 21/05/2026 at 9:17 am

@Max Based on what you've described, you've got a strong position going into the final hearing. Positive contact three times a week, a positive parenting assessment, no contact with the ex, and the IRO noting no safeguarding concerns all point towards rehabilitation being realistic. Make sure your solicitor pushes hard for option one in the care plan and gets the local authority to justify why reunification isn't being actively worked towards. Keep everything consistent and documented, and don't miss any contact sessions.

Max 25/12/2023 at 1:21 am

Hey my 2 children got removed from my care due to my daughter dad Been violent towards me and we have not been together since 2021 but the social service never believed me and got removed from my care this year in July the social service just took my back to court and the courts put a court order in place the social service never investigated at all have not been out to speak to me they just removed my children now since all this I have been seeing my children 3 days a week every week and it is all positive and I have had a parenting assessment done and that's all positive as well and I have not had any contact with my daughters dad he as moved out of bradford I have also seen the individual reviewing officer report and had meets and the local authority manager as said she don't have no safe grading issues on the report they is 3 points
1. To return home to me
2. To get placed with friends or family
3. Long term Foster care
Now all I want to know is if I have got a good chance of getting my children back home with me (mother) where they belong

Lee 07/07/2023 at 10:27 pm

My son was taken into faster care for short time I will awlays love my son baby Leo
It's is hurt me by not see my son

she 30/06/2023 at 3:06 am

please help as this time last year social services took me to court two of my children was under a court order my 13 year old was undera guardian ship order with her nan and my 5 year old was foster friends and family by my oldest daughter who is 21 i’ve now got my 13 year old back but haven’t been back to court how do i get my son back as we don’t even know who is social worker is as he have already had 7 this year i haven’t had any paperwork from court orders or didn’t sign anything my barrister sat in the room with social service and i was sat waiting ina different room on my own when i went in the court room my mothers pe ranting was used against me when asked for my file from court solicitor asked what i wanted it for

Ch79 21/05/2023 at 9:57 pm

My partners ex girlfriend who they had a child together with approx 3-4 years ago. She accused him of rape and he was remanded until luckily she admitted it was lies and he was released with charge. She was wth the next man at the time. She didn't want to look after child despite him saying he'd have her rather than go into care.dna tests confirmed he is father but she gave her up and he has no idea where she is or any information. Partly as the heartache is just too much and he doesn't want to be let down again.what can he do its an awful situation which he doesn't like talking about it. Pls help

Rain 14/04/2023 at 4:24 pm

I had a beautiful girl my tianna had down syndrome I had a 4yr old son as well but being 21 at the time it was a total shock after I had her to learn she had downs but when my baby put her hand on my face I fell in love i was a single mother I went threw domestic violence with their dad and he was no help with the children i did not care I just got on with it but when my dad died I struggled i started to use classA because it blocked my feelings but when it started to be my priority It was time to stop I needed help but me asking for help social services was informed they never help they made it worse I made the biggest mistake and signed the papers only so my babies could have stability until I got better I thought they would be taken care off when was in foster care she ended up getting Pneumonia she went into a coma she nearly died but my baby came through but ended up with lung problems,I did get better I fell pregnant but at 6months I lost my son ended up homeless it might sound selfish I gave up I had no one but years past but until I got myself together I stayed away I always was gonna back for tia she was moved from the placement from the family I knew I went to social services I was told she was not on the system I went to the house no one answered I left messages no one got back I felt I had no part off my daughter life Tianna died last year July social services never informed me until 5days before her funeral I had no part part no say she was in hospital for one weekend before she died I did not get to comfort my baby I did not get to say goodbye I don’t know who signed her death certificate I’m still her next of kin I met the Foster carer the first time at the funeral I ask her for the social worker details she said tianna no longer had a social worker as she turned 19 I really need to know if I had no rights to know anything what was happening with my child if they had no obligation to tell me she died,why did Tiana no longer has a social worker when she was a sick child with a disability,something I’ve contacted adults social services and was told I’ve got no rights to no anything as tianna was 19and needs to give consent..wow! Tianna would not know about consent is and she is no longer here I trusted these people thinking I was not good enough I made them allow me to feel I no rights to be involved, when with me all she would have is a snotty nose I was made to feel I could not take care of my daughter but dies under there care anyways I just need to know how to deal with this because something I don’t even know what is her cause of death on her death certificate and they definitely would of knew how to locate me

Mugoo 27/02/2023 at 7:14 pm

Hiya I have 4 sons they been taking in to care 5 years ago I'm trying to get help with getting them back but I'm lost can u help me please

Shaz 01/02/2023 at 9:13 am

All my children bar 1 have asd adha My son has been taking into foster care. All because his older brother and sister who don’t live with us has made up crazy allegations against my partner. Social care are running with it. My son has complex needs and has out bursts which is Does when overwhelmed. They’re trying to use this to say something is going on when it really isn’t school have backed me up but somehow there reports have just been getting out on back burner. The allegations have already been looked into over a year ago by another LA. We did work with previous LA and things was moving forward other then my son getting help for his complex needs and now all this. I truly don’t understand what is happening my son is a lovely little boy and is never made any alligations against me or my partner. I have 3 other children at home who are all confused and don’t understand why their brother has been taking away. They just think because he was a handful at school and didn’t want to go to school is the reason for him being taking away. Everytime they see LA they are all now worried they will just take them to. The older 2 at home have a advocate now and are asking a lot of questions. But unfortunately there not getting the answers they want which is now making them upset. My other children have only seen there brother once in 3months this is a intern order for all children but only taking one into care. This is all making me very unwell. I really feel sick everyday everytime I see my son all he says is mum I want to come home. And the worst thing is I am helpless I want to just make everything better but I can’t this is killing me. I have always done everything by the book. I have never been in any trouble with police. I have been a mum for 19years and never had any issues until now. I just needs some advice. Also on top of it I have LA giving my boy false hope they he may come home in March. But we all know this hearing isn’t to do with that so I am confused and concerned ??

Esther 23/07/2022 at 4:18 pm

My two children have been taken into care since October, 2021 and have not been able to see them nor have contact with them for over 7 months, despite court order for me to have supervised contact with them. At present, both of my children are in separate placement and the older one of 12 years is not in school at the moment. All effort to have the social worker to arrange contac5 have proof abortive.
Please, I need your help.
Thanks.

Klaudia 13/07/2022 at 5:44 pm

Hi my three daughters was taking in the care by social worker the reason its I dont know why the social worker take my kids away from me we have hearing court but I didn't get any answer why they take my kids. I'm single I was been placed to the hostel with my three girls by social worker and then they just take my kids away from me can you please help me with that and which right I have. Thanks

PAFA 12/07/2021 at 6:35 pm

How is the law on there side when they just take kids without evidence because they don’t like our family through jealousy

Gina 11/05/2021 at 5:26 pm

My daughters made a allegations against me but has already said I didn’t do it. My daughters just needed some help she is adhd and her father let them be abused the social service won’t pay for the counciling they needed even thou I sort it set it up got 10 free sessions but she needed more my 14year old son was treated awfully put miles away treated like a criminal so he ran away and is saying he ain’t coming home till he can live with me again he’s been missing for 2weeks now is there an emergency order since my son is now at risk so he can come home I haven’t signed anything I no not too

Danny List 28/04/2021 at 8:46 pm

Do you help to fight people to get their child back from care

Dido 18/03/2021 at 10:34 pm

What happens if the social worker broke contact rule made by the judge 3 times what can I do

Lucy megan Murphy-br 26/02/2021 at 8:23 pm

Also I have been bullied all my life and I'm 27 years old and I'm still having people starting on me like social services how do me and partner get back are son with us and me and my partner is really heart broken and would like help to get are son back with us who can help us and give us advice.

Your sincerely from lucy

Lucy megan Murphy-br 26/02/2021 at 8:14 pm

Hi my name is Lucy I have learning disability and mild asd and allstic and dysctic and I feel like social services are discrimination to me and my partner Chris and bullying and undermining me and my partner they have tooken my other two children plus my new born baby who only 8 weeks old .

Your sincerely from lucy

Susan 23/01/2021 at 12:46 pm

My daughter been taken into care under false information from social worker how do I get my child back I am scared of further lies been made or false info to courts how long until I get her back. They hav free also failed at the two contacts they put in place to see her on FaceTime which didn’t happen??

Spoony 19/01/2021 at 12:54 pm

So my grandchildren are on a care order of local authorities and their mother has done everything that was asked of her and more what care she do to get her children back into her care ?

Reece 08/01/2021 at 10:58 pm

A child has been taken into care and I have been contacted by social service to take a dna test to see if I am the child’s father.. if I am the child’s father what Rights do I have to fight for the child. Will I have to go to court etc?

Elizabeth 11/10/2020 at 6:56 pm

Hello I need help my partner in treating whit social services because his name in not on the birth certificate what should I do I'm getting worried an I'm bipolar can my children be removed from me

Elizabeth 11/10/2020 at 6:54 pm

Hello I need help my partner in treating whit social services because his name in not on the birth certificate what should I do

Liam 93 06/10/2020 at 11:27 pm

Hi social taken my son into foster care off the mum and not pushing for my DNA test to prove he's mine and social worker was rude when I spoke to her

Tezza 02/10/2020 at 3:40 pm

I am pregnant with my second child and have social sevices involved they are trying to make me sign a section 20 but am not as that mean they remove at birth

Ann Barclay 27/09/2020 at 3:55 pm

Can my sister take him because if we need to go through all the visiting and over night stays if we change it for my other sister 'it's a long process so if I let it go through with my sister who has done and passed all checks then my other sister who has no children and a extra room takes him will it be better for him to be in our family then for my sister to take him because of family changes 'we lost our mum just their so social work send they are wanting the over night stays to begin but I've asked my sister to not to tell social work of the changes in her life to go ahead with kindership then when hes in our family then my other sister who has no kids takes him rather 'would that be allowed

Ann Barclay 27/09/2020 at 3:38 pm

My son was taken into temporary care because I wasent sending to school cos I knew he needed a special school since primary he wasent in a class room sat in a room 'he would pass out and hit you for no reason but it's gone on a year and over hes not back my sister passed for kindership over 6 mouths ago she has been allowed over night stays but with this corna 19 its holding things up since then my sister had to deal with the death of my mother and her daughter having a child so if my sister takes him could she then give my older sister him cos she has no kids and a house with extra room and works never been in trouble in her life

Billy 26/09/2020 at 3:41 pm

My friend has a daughter who is in care but living with her father, (my friend's ex)
Up until lockdown my friend had supervised contact twice monthly for three hours a session and it was going very well. This had been going on since July 2017. My friend kept trying to get community contact and improve on what she had. Children's services would not change the contact, saying she raised concerns about her daughter and asked for too much information which undermined father's position as "primary" carer. When lockdown came in contact was changed from face to face to video contact but reduced from three hours to thirty minutes and an email every other week. After only three video contacts Children's services reduced contact to thirty minutes every month, a big reduction1 The grounds they used were that my friend's emails to her daughter upset her and again the content of the emails undermined father's role as carer even though they edited the emails before sending to fathers computer,and they also claimed that my friend's daughter was not even reading the emails! What can my friend do to combat such illogical behaviour from Children's services?

Bless 18/09/2020 at 1:42 am

Hi my son was taken out my custody and put into my at the time partners care who quickly became my ex I was granted monthly visits to start with and build up from there but what I wasn’t aware of my ex was seeing the social worker who took my boy he was spoilt in my care he had everything but they said I couldn’t look after him as I suffer depression n had a nervous brake down I was accused of neglect,physical abuse mental abuse and wasn’t allowed to see him at all at first then at court due to being in the middle of a brake down I wasn’t in sound mind so I didn’t get a solicitor I just stood there I couldn’t get my words out I was awarded a monthly contact with my ex partner supervising my contact the visits only happened about a dozen times now I still suffer mental health n severe depression depression it’s also effected my both sons I have also but there not at risk it was just the baby they took once I found out of the social worker n my ex having an affair I took it to the social services and was told I’m not normal I talk to dogs that’s best suited to me and that I’m making it all up n lying I printed all evidence out that I had and still faced with don’t lie so much and try be normal the social services worker quoted her job soon after n now she’s a class room assistant it kills me everyday

Tom 11/09/2020 at 3:48 pm

If anyone needs advice speak to Gerry at Parenting Together, its a charity.

Jen 01/08/2020 at 6:09 am

My daughter had a little girl and unknowing to me she had been caught 5 times with drugs in her system.so when her due date came she came out of hospital with no baby. She told us she was sick then she had a break down and told us social services while pregnant said she had to sign temporary custody to them untill she sorts herself out.its been 3 month now and my granddaughter is still not with her family I need to know if I have rights as a grandma to get my granddaughter back or is it to late

Snappa 10/07/2020 at 1:58 am

Hi my 4 children were taking into foster care over 2 years ago because social services said we were not capable of looking after them even though we always made sure they were well fed, clothed, and at school on time. This was because a so called friend of ours was found guilty of raping his daughter which we knew nothing about until they came & told us that we had stay away from him & have no contact. A few weeks later my daughter took really ill & there was no time to phone for an ambulance so being desperate & without thinking we asked if he would rush us to hospital as we thought she was dying. Now
Because of this they all ended up in care & lost my house,my job, & my wife. All i want now is to see them out of care because only seeing them 6 times a year is not good enough. I really need some advice on how to do this as my last solitor i had (although good) lost the case because social services said i wasnt capable to look after children as i have other children from previous relationship it was the mother who actually took the children and ran off with someone else. I just dont know what to do anymore or where i can go for help.

Mama bear 18/06/2020 at 5:00 pm

Hi my name is lisa and my children have been in care 2 years from tomorrow. I have done everything I have been told to do by court. I have jump every hoop but no matter what I do it's not good enough to get my children back home. My son as be abused by his care staff and my daughter is self harming smoking and sleeping with men that are older than here. But social services are not doing anything about it. I can't even find a solicitor how will take my case on. I dont know what else to do. I feel like I am letting my children down. Can someone please help me.

Kel 17/06/2020 at 10:17 am

I had my children removed bk in 24/6/2014 my daughter was placed in a foster placement we’re she was neglected for 5 years physically emotionally she would come to contact with holes in her clothes and shoes ever time and she was very unhappy I would go out on contact and bye her new shoes and clothes and report it to the social worker time afater time my son and Foster carer would make complaints and nothing was done for 5 years it come to a head on a sibling contact were they see wot I see and they said she was very sarcastic and no interaction with my daughter that they want down to the social worker and had a meeting with them they made a visit and the out come was my daughter was removed for her care and a investigation was made on the Foster carer and she is no longer able To foster any longer that’s all they will tel and that some people foster to care for children and some do it for the money they said she clearly done it for the money with everthink that happened I didn’t won’t to put her anymore stress but I now feel I need to apply to the court To have a care order discharged As a feel am her mum and need her back with me I’ve go to ever contact never missed one But I do feel that am in the place we’re she would get all the support she needs I think it’s the best place for her

coleybby24 13/06/2020 at 2:40 pm

Hey my name is nicole stout my kids have been away in to temp foster care the social workers never show me paperwork and i never signed any so can they do that

samo 13/06/2020 at 3:32 am

Why do social workers what youre children? why they so much involved bcz of theyre pay rate, its horrible to hear stories makes me friightened. Some workers r nasty women, some are the nastiest they do lie just to get there ways, and they do mess up youre childrens lives.

bernie 13/05/2020 at 4:35 pm

Iv had a long dealing with social workers since 2002 iv had my 6 children removed eldest child allowed home 3 in foster care and 2youngest adopted in 2005 then 2007 I had my youngest daughter born with heart condition 10 days old she had her first heart operation three months in hospital and court followed hospital advice and my daughter was allowed home with full care order was allowed in 2007 the judge said as long as I continue to provide my daughter the care I have showed that the care order would be revoked in 12 months now in 2008 I moved property I saw no social workers I only saw family worker on the 21st June 2012 my daughter was removed from my care my solicitor wrote a few times and I had a break down more to the case but over all points

Syeda 09/05/2020 at 10:57 pm

Hi my 3 girls wear taken from me long time a go thy live in Glasgow thy wear put in the social Services care and I never missed any contact and never missed any meeting now thy are grown up and I really missing them but social worker said thy don’t went talk to me I don’t know what to do I will do anything for them because I love them very much

elle 09/05/2020 at 9:27 pm

i am a foster child , its not just you that is hurting , most of us are hurting bc of are perants , think about whta you have done. its just selfish.

Christy 23/02/2020 at 12:46 am

Hi I have 3 children and they age is 16/15/13 and they where put in frost care because my social worker said I was an alcoholic and her doggie I've had the testing done and it come back all clear yet and it's been a court and I think it's unfair what they can say to Peopleand get away with it what rights do I have on getting them back cos I see them 3 times aweek

Em 15/01/2020 at 7:37 pm

Hi I'm wondering n the court process and in court on the 25th of Jan, I've had a real hard past 5 years with as involved on and off I have 7 children but others are older the 2 little ones I'm fighting for as previously had a mental breakdown with my older 5 10 years ago I asked for help from as worst thing I ever did but needed to put my kids first when I could not cope but I ended up with a 3 year battle and didn't get them bk 3 went to fosteres and other 2 ex's family which the ex moved me 300 miles from family isolated me with the kids and he left to go London I suffered 12 years DMV from him hence mental break down but was used against me I ended up moving bk to Devon near family and met the 2 girls dad I suffered much worse DMV from him in the end he became drink and drug depended he'd raped me beat me mental torture emotional abuse he's described by many as a narsasist which he is I did not want the girls to suffer or witness all the times he'd turn up at my home smashing doors in abusive aggressive just all round abuser so I had to leave my home go in to a refuge 5 months pregnant and a 2year old to keep them safe from him and his enemy's too that does alot to a person anyway I had no support I had my baby while in refuge, my ex got ss atention due to the trouble he brought and now 2 years later I'm at court my girls are with his parents, previously when I had my 4 yr old I was put in a parenting assessment unit from hospital for 12 weeks I was monitored and recorded 24/7 cameras and audio 9 weeks in their dad my ex joined but I found out he couldn't join me right away as he was drug using cocaine mdma and drinking he did not pass drug testing so they agreed for him to join but he went cold turkey doing so then they placed us in a parent and child foster placement after that we were allowed to move in to our new home social services would pop in every now and again they were happy but then my fears became true my ex was disappearing to pubs ect but there was order from court conditions that noone under influence or illicit drugs were not to be around my our child at the time after 2 weeks I'd had enough and had to call police on him then he was removed he could mo longer be around us but me doing that social services got involved again :( he was frequently turning up at the flat and drug dealers after him also came through my door after him it was then I had to go into refuge to keep the girls safe, now I've finally got a home in a town closer to my family but I've had hell from as some newly qualified that tools dad's side which is unreal we've had so many different social workers too which all had different views which actually let's the system down if I'm honest I've dealt with so many and I think it shouldn't be the workers opion and personal view it's not fair it should be child focused they are using my health against me I have fibromyalgia and arthritis so they think I'm not going to manage but I was up unt

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67 11/11/2019 at 5:00 pm

My boys were taken from the school they are 8year and 6years old, on the 5 November 2019. After returning home just months ago from when they were taken before, i was given section 20 to sign i refused, i was sent out of the school building while my boys saw me leave makes it so much painful but am glad they understand becos its not there first encounter, it is because of a slap on my 6 year old cheeks, who ran off away from me i was so was trying to tell him off its dangerous better to stay by mummy so you will be save from harm, n now they taken its 6 days i could not see them n the social worker won't even pick my calls, but the school safeguarding team do answer my calls n tell that they fine, am coping with the pain but the most powerful weapon here is prayers and patience

Port 22/10/2019 at 10:45 pm

My daughter was taken of me and my husband by social work she was placed with two different families as they weren’t working then Sw got a permanence order and I lost my parental rights but was granted visits every 3months and she was moved to Edinburgh from Greenock for two years never missed a visit then that placement has broken down and she’s now back in Greenock in a resatencial kids unit she’s been there 8 month social work haven’t been to court yet to change her addres and who now holds parental rights but now the Sw is moving my daughter again to the top of Scotland to another unit and she will be moved in next 2days he told me this over a phone call surely all these placements that keep breaking down can’t be good for her and can I take Sw to court as I’ve been the only consistent person in her life the sworker doesn’t like me and I feel he’s doing things not in the best interest of the child I need help

Louise 23/06/2019 at 5:49 pm

reading these messages makes me deeply sad, my little brother was taken into care 3 years ago, 12 with autism, they say working with social services will help you, but trust me it doesn't, it's hard very hard but in every county and borough, they are corrupt, advice would be start saving for a very good lawer and never ever let them forget who the real parents are to your children, they want you to give up so it's easier for them, they'll make it as hard as they can for you, DON'T GIVE UP. my family never will, we see him 6 times a year, still fighting

Loulou 18/06/2019 at 4:03 pm

My son was born with a congenital defect( Talipes Equinovarus) and had to have both achilles tendons cut(twice one foot, once the other) to help straighten his feet. I had my benefits cut to just £55 a wk because an "authority figure" called the dwp to say that my son was'nt in my care and I was left to fend for not just him and me, but my daughter who also has a heart condition. This made it nigh on impossible to both feed us, and to make all his necessary hospital appointments and as a consequence the "anti-social work" then took my son and placed him in care to "help" me cope. This has caused me severe mental health problems, and I have no idea what to do, nor who to turn to. Please help me as I don't know what to do.

S4m1i 28/05/2019 at 3:32 am

Social services are all corrupt most lawyers work with the local authorities and when they offer you a guardian 9x out of 10 they are also on the pay role of the local authorities. Do not trust any of them one way or another they they will take your children because each child they put into care is an extra bit of cash in there pay packet. To us they are are children to them they are £ signs.

Savage 20/05/2019 at 2:48 pm

Can anyone help me? I have 2 children on an sgo ( special guardianship order,) I now have 2 more children whom live with me but the sgos have stopped the contact with me and my boys can i call the police?? As I have hf pr and there's a court order saying I have rights for contsct please if someone can help me

Amy 02/05/2019 at 7:45 am

Hi my boyfriend had his kids taken away from him due to his ex partner taking drugs even though he was in a fit state to parent his kids. Few months later she died. His kids was taken by social services and he is urgently trying to get them back what can he do to get them back into his care and find out where they are.

Louise Smith 23/04/2019 at 12:46 am

My son was 4 weeks old when my husband had a break down while holding our son who then showed bruises I called my enhanced midwife but no answer the next day I asked my parental nurse what to do as while I was pregnant I was diagnosed with PND but instead of rejecting my son I was so paranoid he would stop breathing or be taken away of course I took him to hospital but it was too late ss came and took my son I have done everything they ask even left my husband but I keep getting messed around like getting told I can take pictures but then I can to then I can then it’s yes you can take your son out with the contact woman to now you can’t but she tells these things to my aunt and uncle but not me she tells me I’m a good mum and she l knows I would never hurt my son but still is messing me around I feel like I have no rights and have been told that I still need to take Parent assessments and do parent classes in order to get him back yes I have depression and anxiety Issues but that’s no reason to keep my son away from me as most mums have these and still have there baby’s I just need some advice as my solicitors and barrister are not help at all I’m missing all my sons firsts and I have a mentally unstable husband who they are refusing to help yes he hurt or son but I know him he would never hurt anyone or anything when his in the right frame of mind but he is no longer him and that scares me I just want him to be helped with or without me and I just want my little boy home to me even without his dad can anyone help me ?

Jen 04/04/2019 at 11:02 am

My child was taken away 3 days ago after she told school i was hitting her. On the morning she told the school about the"hitting" i caught her lying again. Very frustrated as it wasn't the first neither the fifth. I was very crossed with her. Lots of shooting but definitely no snacking happened that morning. Previous smacking was for discipline, i was raised that way too.its our culture. But she added a lot of lies that made me look like monster, uncaring and abuser. Cut the story short.. Social services is not that helpful at all. She said she will do her best so that we can be back together but my gut saying not. She kept changing her stories. Yesterday she told me to go the doctor and she will phone me lunchtime. Lunchtime came, no phone call.And when we meet up in the afternoon,her first word was why didnt you phone me, i was waiting for you. I was shock bec she told me she was the one who will contact me at lunchtime. Anyway another incident. I asked if i can see my child. She said no. I asked if i could speak to my child. She said she will ask my child first tom. I then said to her if i can call my friend(whos is looking after my child) and ask if my child is ok with that, ss said yes. And this morning she told me i shouldnt had made contact!!! Wtf !!! I told her that i asked her permission and yet she was denying that . I was straight forward to her and said that from the very start i was compliant to whatever she asked me to do and will not do anything to comprise the situation. She backdown then. Im in turmoil now. At the beginning she said my child can come when she said she wants too. I spoke to her lastnihght and was asking me to take her home. Told ss about that and know she tell thats not the case. Have to finish all assessment and whatever is needed before they can see if she can come back. Three days and I'm so close to nervous breakdown. I don't think i can go forever with this drama. Its breaking my heart.
This experience will forever haunt our life Im telling you all. Its gonna scar us permanently.
I don't what lies ahead but I'm praying it too be a good one

Maz 29/03/2019 at 10:44 pm

My grandchildren have been wrongly taken into care and have been placed for adoption,not even a supervision order,none of us have criminal records,never took drugs,don't drink etc.
They took them through my daughter going through a violent relationship last year in May 2018 and she has learning difficulties and adhd,bipolar and they have treated her like a criminal with no support nothing.we want them kids back before they go to strangers and we loose them forever.

corsican 15/11/2018 at 5:59 pm

My wife at the time was a VICTIM of Dr Marietta Higgs as in newspaper story who was guilty of taking children from families accused of abuse ,found to be wrong in 99% of cases ,my wife was a child of 12 at the time ,for some reason social services believe the abused become abusers (WRONG) but there must be a marker some where ! as every child has been removed ,mostly by filthy tricks by so called Professionals ,they love to call themselves or we are the Government ,they don't like it when you tell them they are public servants .I was stepdad to a happy lovely little boy,who used to light up when i came home from work I had a good job well paid and new company car ,Until a social worker turned up at my home while i was at work,my wife phoned me on my company phone she was Screaming and crying because the social work had turned up with the POLICE ,the officer refused to take him his comment was he does not look NEGLECTED to me ,social worker came onto the phone and said i need your permission to take (-------) I replied get out of my house. ,I was on a day of workout visiting my customers with my sales Director at the time ,he heard everything that was happening at home ,he said it was not good for business, I told him where to stick his job . My wife and i decided she should change area ,I lived alone but kept in touch daily ,she started another relationship ,but was being beaten, so i got her out of it . I found a new home ,spent a fortune on making it nice ,we had just got settled in ,Knock at the door another social worker ,this was the mother of all that was EVIL ,my son loved having his breakfast with me after i finished work (17 hr night shift) as a security guard ,she walked in lent over the table and lifted my son from his babychair in the middle of his breakfast ,this really got up my nose . Next visit by her she noticed a tiny mark on his cheek ,not a bruise ,no broken skin,less than 1/4 inch blemish ,nothing to worry about . It happened as he was just finding his feet and could walk around furniture for support ,he was in his playroom/bedroom ,safety gate on the doorway ,mum was in the bath both doors open and she was less than 8 feet from him ,I came home calling his name as i climbed the stairs,he pulled himself up but was more interested in looking at daddy than watching what he was doing that's how the mark came about. Time to go to work at 17-00 , at 19-00 my wife phoned me at work saying that the social worker had taken her and my son to the local Hospital its well known as MISTAKE LANE ,real name Rake Lane ,she said they are giving him a full body check ,I said what the F--- is going on,this Asian male voice came on saying his ANUS is dark,you should look after your little boy ,I could hear a nurse in the background telling him to watch what he was saying. Next day i was in bed during the day ,unknown to me she had asked my wife to meet her at the local Community center ,she was there with 2 female Police officers

Genevieve 31/10/2018 at 2:30 pm

Hi yes I'm a mother of 3 a boy that's now 10 and I have 2 daughters and would like to get my baby's back because they taken my kids away for nothing just because someone says I was selling drugs and they don't have proof of anything I've raised my baby's since my son was 3 and daughter was 2 and now I've raised my baby girl since she was born she never left my side I totally hate babysitter's I could never leave her so please I would like to get my baby's back asap mommy loves you my baby's

LawAndParents Editor 18/09/2018 at 2:28 pm

You could try the family rights group

My baby's. 17/09/2018 at 4:39 am

My children was made subject to a care order in may 2018. Me and dad are devastated as you can imagine. It started as lack of appointments and bad routine as my second son was born with a blocked airway.. which was missed at birth and led to him having a tracheostomy at 3 months. We was blamed by the NHS and social services for this. Even though we took the right routes and was ignored until it was to late! However the backlash from this made it impossible to move on and led me and dad into quite a rubbish place. We was hounded by social care whilst trying to look after our son and our disabled baby.. bugged at daft o clock in the morning .. told how to look after him when they their selves wouldn't have had a clue if they was put in that situation. And given awful advice. As the saying goes 'too many cooks' my sons and me and dad are desperate to so anything in our power to get them home. We just have no idea where to start. We have tried to speak to the local authority who are adiment on finding a family. Any advice would be massively apriciated

Sara 03/09/2018 at 9:30 pm

Hi my kids went in jan 12 18 and I wondering how to get them bk can some one tell me there on care order

Nic39 07/08/2018 at 4:39 pm

I have had my grandchild living with me from birth for the last 5mths up until yesterday when social services took her away from how family home leave us all in bit this most be wrong any advice out there for me please

Bitch 06/08/2018 at 10:37 pm

Hi my kids have gone to foster care on the 12 January and I just want them home but they say I have leaning disability and low iq61 and high neglect and lack of appointment s to am really so stressed with out them it getting me down and need to no more how to get them bk quick way

LawAndParents Editor 06/08/2018 at 2:36 pm

It might be worth talking to an organisation that can offer you individual support such as Family Lives or Family Rights Group

Kat 17/07/2018 at 10:42 pm

My son was care order placement with parents.everything was good I was getting good reports on my parenting we was waitron for court date for care order to end. But 2 weeks before xmas my sister went of rails an social worker asks me if ide look after em till holidays finished. January came. Next thing there social worker came to visit asks me in front of the kids can they stay with me I couldn't believe it I really wanted to say no. But how could I. The family stops talking to em coz they moved in with there mum there dad didn't talk to em there mum rejected em 2 weeks for xmas there big brown eyes lookin at me to help em so sadly I said yes in front of them they had problems they'd made lot allegations bout brother father my sister partner so I asked social worker to say I wasn't allowed to have them. Coz my son was care order she promised me my son would b okay. Sadly the eldest made serious allegations bout me although I did mess up that night I took drugs but still that's dose not mean I was guilty of what I'd bin accused of anyway police came took girls away including my son I was treated guilty straight away I don't no what happened to innocent till proven guilty anyway my social worker said to me sign contact saying I'll stay away from my family home till police finished there investigation I didn't want to sign it straight away but she made me think if I don't sign my son wid stay foster care if I sign now my son can come home now stay with his dad she said she'd have him home weekend this did not happen she also said in front of witnesses they'd help me get some were else to live she did not so I lost my son my home my partner in 1 night also police took to long 18 months it took to prove I was innocent what gets me the fact she made me holmeless with no were to go no help now they taken my child from his dad he's been getting good reports he gets new social worker new managers she never came every month like she was suppose to gave him no support just takes my child from him now they satin I can see him once month obviously I started taken drugs again after all this ide like to no can I get my son back I've started to get clean I'm in process of getting property I have meetin with her to do risk assessment but ide like sum advice on what I can do to get my son

LawAndParents Editor 29/06/2018 at 2:17 pm

If your daughter has given up her parental responsibility rights for your grandson, it may be that you can make an application for legal guardianship, presuming you had regular contact with him before the estrangement. Children's services should be able to support you as it's usually peferable for a child to stay within the family than be taken into care.

Bella 27/06/2018 at 7:14 pm

I am a grandparent, and recently discovered that my 5 year old grandson was taken into care last December. My daughter whos is his mother had estranged her self from the family and would not let anyone see the child and had no contact with us. I called social services to see if I could get contact, I am still waiting to hear. They have apparently got in touch with her to tell her that I contacted them. And she is now causing problems with the rest of the family trying to find out who told me. Is there any way that I can have contact with the child or do they need her permission as she has apparently given up parental rights.

LawAndParents Editor 26/06/2018 at 1:54 pm

CrystalWillow - Your Question:My 3 children - 2,3 & 4 - were taken from me after my violent and controlling ex partner gave him a severe black eye and swollen cheek. I was worried about it and took him to hospital for a check up. They called the police and social services and they were removed "until I had sorted myself out after filing a complaint against him. Now I have been told that, even though the police investigation is ongoing, they are taking it to court to see which parent or adult guardian could foster them or if they are to be put up for adoption. can they do this and how do I go about getting them back? I love my children and want them back and I am working hard to get straight, arranging councilling to help me with the mental issues caused by my ex. I am capable of caring for them and desperate to get them back.Our Response:Try contacting a legal advisor, Citizens' Advice will be able to help you fine one. There is also lots of advice and a helpline at the Family Rights Group

CrystalWillow 25/06/2018 at 4:48 pm

My 3 children - 2,3 & 4 - were taken from me after my violent and controlling ex partner gave him a severe black eye and swollen cheek. I was worried about it and took him to hospital for a check up. They called the police and social services and they were removed "until I had sorted myself out after filing a complaint against him. Now I have been told that, even though the police investigation is ongoing, they are taking it to court to see which parent or adult guardian could foster them or if they are to be put up for adoption. can they do this and how do I go about getting them back? I love my children and want them back and I am working hard to get straight, arranging councilling to help me with the mental issues caused by my ex. I am capable of caring for them and desperate to get them back.

Stano 02/06/2018 at 3:15 pm

my ex’s parents have my child and are refusing visitation even though is been granted what can i do legally? What are my rights? Can I bring this up at my final hearing? Can she get into trouble for this? I have proof of his mum telling me I can’t see my daughter also she was not going to let him see her unless he quit his job I also have proof of that aswell. I have my final hearing next month we’re on an interim care order and my solicitor doesn’t seem to be helping with anything at all I feel like I’m doing this on my own I need some advice!!!

Davina123 30/05/2018 at 11:46 pm

My stepdaughter is 18 in 3 months, she is currently living in supported lodgings with her previous foster carer. The social worker will only allow her to stay with me once a fortnight and I feel this is really affecting her wellbeing, they won’t give me a good reason why she can’t stay more regularly, she wants to live with me when she’s 18 and that has been agreed. I work for the local Authority so have had all the necessary checks done, can anyone advise me on this please? It doesn’t make sense to me at all!!

LawAndParents Editor 29/05/2018 at 2:58 pm

You could try the Family Lives Helpline for some advice. Are your children school age? Your Job Centre might be able to find some work for you that you could fit in around looking after them so it's worth asking there too.

Desperate 28/05/2018 at 4:26 pm

Mt children are in Foster care, I'm in and out of court fighting for them but now I've had my money stopped as they left 6 weeks ago and I'm about to loose my house as I can't afford the rent. A 1 bed is the same price as my house but the min I loose my house social services will say the kids can't come bk as I've hot no where to house them. Helppp

LawAndParents Editor 15/05/2018 at 11:43 am

You should seek support for an outside organisation like the Family Rights Group. Do not try and tackle this alone. Citizens Advice might also be able to help.

kez 11/05/2018 at 1:32 pm

hi I'm after advice I got my son back 3 yrs ago. in February this year the local authority were going to discharge the case from a care order to a child in need order. because of the way the old social worker wrote the statement that never happened. which in turn had an impact on my mental health. the past few weeks my son's behaviour has been quite bad. I had an iro meeting a week ago and asked for help with my son like restbite but the social services haven't helped at all. on Wednesday I went to collect my son from school and told the teacher how I was feeling and why I cut myself which I've only done twice. and that I needed a break from my son. they rang social services now my son is in foster care. I've not signed anything and have been kept in the dark with what's going on. I want my little boy and I never intended this to happen I k ow he is hard work but I can and I'm more than capable of looking after him. all I wanted at the time was help and no one listened

LawAndParents Editor 11/05/2018 at 11:17 am

We can't really give advice on this - social workers and the courts should have all the background information they need in order to make a decision in the best interests of your daughter.

Crissy 09/05/2018 at 6:38 pm

Hi I would like some advice as to what I need to do... last year my daughter was removed from my care because I protected myself against a man who made me feel uneasy. Her dad removed her whilst i was in the police station. I got released, no caution. As i went home to collect my child she wasnt there. Social services dont have a problem with the dad.. i was with him 2 years ago and he was so violent and controlling it was unreal. So i left and got into anther relationship where it was bad and thats where he intervened. Whilst he has had her he has gone to jail for frued, so he left her with his mum. I have changed my life around, im doing well. Social let me.see her once every two weeks for a hour n half. He gets released next month. Social havent made a decision as to where she will be going. What would you guys do?? Thanks

Krissy05 19/04/2018 at 2:13 pm

Hi how do you get a Judge Recuse due to her being Bias and I know she is not being fair and this ruin my out come in 21st May.I went back to court to ask for more time with my two young sons who were made subject to a care order last November and the social services only give us an hour and half every two months which is disgusting I also have three of their sisters who reside with me but we're also taken in June 2015 but I got my three older girls in April and August 2016 after a long fight.They haven't seen their brothers since December.Social services refuse me Mother day call birthday calls for siblings.Every time they refuse my sons can't see cousins aunts uncle great granny no one.And I have done nothing wrong and I am trying so hard to work with them but they are making it impossible.Now this Judge is the same one that made the order last November and is being really difficult so far and had said stuff she shouldn't say.I went back in October last year just for extra time and it's still going ,now I have to go on the stand again and they are trying to change everything including cutting our time to 4times a year and the venue where our contacts used to be even though my sons have always asked for mor time and to us more and their sisters too but they dont care.I know the Judge will go with what ever they she has so far since she took the case because she knew who I was so I feel I will never win this Judge but what can I do before it's too late.Any advise would be helpful.Thank you

LawAndParents Editor 04/04/2018 at 3:29 pm

You could try contacting the Family Rights Group for more help on this, or Become - the charity

Simple 02/04/2018 at 5:50 pm

My daughter was taken away by cps and put with my father and stepmother, because of some exhaustion and stress i needed to go to a first level simply put just locked unit which was embarrassing as ever! Im working on getting her back i see her once a week, i have ti find a plave to live keep a job go to counceling, and the biggest thing g keep a clean house!! I dont feel loke cps needed to be involved simoly out she could have stayed with my dad if tgey spoke to me till i got on my feet, but at least im still going to get her back im hoping by.july at the latest!! Any hope or siggestions or questions she is 2 years old just turned, i have no other kids , the only.thing is they have more money and bigger house and she goes to a bigger nocer daycare which makes me nervous for how my case looks vs. Them even though they can. NOTt adopt her

Jr18 24/03/2018 at 8:25 pm

HI my child was removed in November 2016 due to dv and drugs and alcohol abuse...I've just had a new baby who was born on the 11th February my final. Hearing for my oldest is in April and I'm worried she might not be returned home because the gurdian says it's too small can the courts not return her due to the size of my accommodation?

I Need My Son 23/03/2018 at 1:09 pm

Hi my son was taken from me yesterday where CPT stayed he had bruises on him and that he had been egregious abused, I don’t know what to do, he is now in foster care and I want to know what I need to do to get him back ASAP!!! He was taken from me in school I made the mistake of disciplining him to hard!! I rarely ever spank him and I did not know that an extension cord would do that, when my brother was growing up that’s what I seen my dad spank him with because he would not listen, I did not know that I would’ve hurt my son like that, I don’t know what to do, but I’m willing to do everything in my power to get him back please help me

Key88 21/03/2018 at 11:17 pm

My kids were taken off me because social believed I hurt my youngest. I was arrested but never charged. Would I be able to get my kids back

LawAndParents Editor 19/03/2018 at 12:04 pm

See if you can find someone else to support your case, are there any organisations like homestart etc in your area who can help? You could try calling the Family Rights group helpline for more information.

N/a 17/03/2018 at 7:28 am

My 4 and 1 year old have been in foster care since September I've completed everything they have asked of me never fail a drug test and I still am only getting a once a week visit that last from 2-3:30 I haven't been getting any response or help from my caseworker and she is so rude to me even when I ask the most simple but important to me things regarding my children and my case . what options do I have please I'm at a loss for the future of my family

LawAndParents Editor 13/03/2018 at 10:28 am

You're doing the right thing by seeking help for the depression and drinking. It's also worth looking at organisations in your area which can help you, such as Alcoholics Anoymous, MIND etc. Keep up the contact with social services, ask them about parenting classes (even if you don't think you need them), places you can go with your baby to help with his/her development/play and so on. Make sure you focus on looking after yourself too, it's easy to neglect yourself when you're suffering from depression, but maybe you could ask your family to make sure you get out for a long walk or swim each day and eat healthily. The benefits of this are much greater than you'd think and social services will look on this as a good sign. Family Lives is a great organisation with a helpline and Family Rights Group advises parents when social workers are involved in their children's care.

J1 10/03/2018 at 12:54 am

I was arrested for neglect as I was drinking while looking after my 2 month old baby. I suffer from depression and had rang the dr to get an appointment to restart anti depressants but couldn't get one that day. I explained to police and they said ss would work with me to try and keep the child at home but with help and support. I still intend to make an appointment to get the anti depressants and I also have already made an appointment with a local charity to see a councillor for support to give up alcohol. However, when I saw ss they seemed negative and mentioned foster care. It seems my babies father has told them I'm violent (which I'm not) and that I throw things and break them. This is referring to when I pushed a small table (not threw it at him as stated) and the glass top came off and broke, and when I threw a crate in frustration down the stairs, and he's saying I threw it at his head (which I didn't). However we had already discussed that and agreed that nobody should throw or push anything, and it hasn't happened since, but he seems determined to keep dragging things up and try to make me look bad. I certainly never was and never will be violent towards the child but he's making it look like I would. What will happen? Will ss work with me as I was lead to believe by police and the solicitor? or are they going to try to take my child. It's Friday and I'm not allowed to see my child over the weekend and will have a meeting with them on Monday. I'm staying with family while he stays at home with the child. I am beside myself with worry not knowing what will happen. Ss were contacted in January as I had another episode of drinking due to post natal depression but they just offered support and left it after that. I am totally willing to work with them to make sure this never happens again, as I said I already have an appointment to help cut out the alcohol. The solicitor said that video footage of the incident shows that my partner was winding me up and was just as much to blame for doing that instead of looking after the baby. I will do anything to keep my child with me. I've already decided to never drink again but have the appointment with the councillor anyway to make sure I have the support I need.

LawAndParents Editor 06/03/2018 at 2:06 pm

You should talk to social services about this. Let them know that you want to improve in order to be able to look after them. They may be able to direct you towards parent classes and organisations like Home Start where volunteers help you etc. The Family Rights Group helpline might also be a good place to try - the family rights group supports parents whose children are in care or who are at risk of being placed in care.

Laceymae 04/03/2018 at 3:11 pm

Hi my kids have gone in to foster care in January 12 .2018 as the said they were nelegct and that I couldn’t look after them as I’ve got lowbored iq and I lost my house to will I get my kids bk if I change the ways

LawAndParents Editor 19/02/2018 at 10:39 am

Sorry we really can't comment on indivual cases where we don't have all the details.

ukdad 18/02/2018 at 12:50 am

Hi, my daughter was put in foster care then went to live with my mother. She's been with her for 4 years, she's coming up to 10. Will social services try take away another child of mine if I had one with a different woman?
Also I'm not allowed to see my daughter :( what age can she make up her own mind and see me as I know she wants to.
The social services feel me being in her life is a danger... but she loves me and I love her and I feel me and her mother not being in her life will effect her childhood.

Sara 16/02/2018 at 2:30 pm

Hi my kids have gone in to care round the 12 January and am wondering how do I get them bk

LawAndParents Editor 12/02/2018 at 2:07 pm

You need some individual help which unfortunately we are unable to give. Try your local Citizen's Advice or the Family Lives organisation which also has a helpline.

Pixie 10/02/2018 at 4:07 am

Social services sent my daughter to her fathers for three weeks saying that I needed a break as I had broken ribs from a neighbour assaulting me. It has now been over two months her father has changed her school and social services are saying I won't be able to get her back as I can't keep her safe when I know I definitely can. How do I get my daughter back I didn't sign anything or have nothing in writing. My daughters father has stopped all contact with me and my daughter I'm only allowed supervised visit for one hour a week at her school. I think this is really unfair

Duck my grandkids wa 06/02/2018 at 3:01 am

My grandkids was taking from my daughter and place with me.5 month later she came to me saying she homeless I let her stay for a week Dcf found out a remove the kids now all six of them are not together they want let me see them are Talk to them how can i get them back.i Know i wasn’t wrong need a good lawyer

LawAndParents Editor 30/01/2018 at 10:45 am

Unless this arrangement has been formalised, there's nothing to prevent your wife having contact with her eldest son. If the other party is refusing to allow contact, she may need to consider mediation/the family court for a child arrangements order.

Johnson 28/01/2018 at 3:33 am

My wife and I have temporarily separated to work on the problems we had in our marriage as our marriage was volatile at times. my wife had a mental breakdown and left for 3 weeks and I have had residency of the children for the 3 weeks and my wife has now returned. Her eldest son has resided with his grandparents on his fathers side. They have told her that he won't be going back to her. My wife has attended meetings at the local mental health clinic and is currently working extremely hard to put right the mistakes that she has made as am I. I wanted to ask what would be the correct path to my wife getting custody back of her son now that she has been improving in health and is rectifying the mistakes she has made.

Tasha6666 23/01/2018 at 9:09 pm

Hi I have 3 kids my oldest is 6 in April she live with my sister got take of me because I could not cope my other daughter has just turn 1 n she got take because I failed a parent assent but they think she said about me was not ture I just had a baby boy who is a week old n Ss took him of me I want to try n get him back so dose my boyfriend but just need some help how I can get my baby boy back n my daughters x

Olga 17/01/2018 at 11:29 pm

Hi please I really need help I want my new born baby back his Gona be nearly 3 month the social workes took him sway from me they think I can't keep him safe as I had.my past when I was 13 I got raped and they think I'm mental please I am devestrated is my first baby please give me some advice How to get my son back

Amber 08/01/2018 at 5:08 am

Hello to whom can answer my question, I am currently in the middle of dealing with Dcs an they took my two children that are the age 2- an 4 months old. For they thought I was neglecting my son witch I wasn't because he was under weight cause I couldn't breast feed for a month do to be sick an had to take meds for it. Anyways they took my children an took my rights away (temporarily) so what is my rights to try an get my children back home from Dcs as soon as possible An how do I go about doing so? Please any information is helpful. I'm so devastated an over whelmed with out my babies
- thanks

LawAndParents Editor 03/01/2018 at 2:15 pm

Unfortunately we can't offer individual help. You could try contacting: British red cross Family Lives (offers online chat support which might help with the language barrier) or Citizens' Advice

LawAndParents Editor 02/01/2018 at 11:10 am

Without knowing all the details of your case we can't help you. Please try the Family Lives helpline

N/A 30/12/2017 at 6:07 pm

Hi .I have friend the ss take her 3 children's. We are not English talker and we are refugees.we don't know rules and our rights here..I need your help and support so so so much .my friend heart is broken. .help help help

danni 23/12/2017 at 4:48 pm

i had my son in feb 5 of 2014 after i had him i went to jail for 6 monthes so i sign a power of a attnorey paper so when i got out i tryed to get him bk but they went to the courts and told them i abbandon my baby and they got coustdy of my son and i still have vistion rights but they wont never let me see him i need help i dont know what to do

Kellyboo 20/12/2017 at 4:08 pm

Hi I have three children with 2 fathers social services got involved due to my mental health and suffering domestic abuse the fathers have taken the children off me and refuse to give them back social support them due to mental health and domestic abuse only I have left my partner and in a refuge now and I engage with my mental health team I also declared I was using speed but have stopped and told social truth whole time I reported myself to them to get some support for my children now it is in child protection and going to court what chance do I have of getting my babies home

LawAndParents Editor 18/12/2017 at 3:12 pm

Speak with your social worker. Ask them what you can do to try and get the children back into your care. You could also try Citizens' Advice who will be able to tell you whether you're eligible for legal aid to pay for a solicitor to help. The Family Lives website also has a helpline number that you could try.

Samurai 15/12/2017 at 11:35 pm

Hi I have two boys in care 11-5 year olds .in separate placements. What can I do to get them back removed under neglect as me and there dad had arguments

LawAndParents Editor 22/11/2017 at 3:09 pm

What did your boyfriend do? They can't take your baby away on the basis of actions of someone who doesn't even live with you. Try ringing the Family Lives helpline for some specific support.

Smiley 18/11/2017 at 6:03 pm

Hi, I was in care before with my son, did anything, managed to get him off ss list, moved away, started a new life with the baby's father! Didn't see as for 2 years but now they showed up coz my uncle phoned police on my boyfriend/ex! And now they want to take me court to take my son as they think I can't keep him safe!!/what do I do

Charlotte 11/11/2017 at 1:26 pm

Can any 1 help me I have a 4 year old daughter that has been put into temp foster care I'm fighting to get her back I have left the farther and my other daughter has moved in with me I have contact with her twice a week I don't do drugs or drink I just had dv with her dad . I'm asking if she can come home for Xmas and spend it with me and her sister can this happen? The guardian doesn't no if she can support me in having my girl returned home to my care l.a don't want her back with me what can I do

Sarah19791 02/11/2017 at 1:06 am

Hi hope this help they said i had alcohol misuse and mental health my children are placed with my dad got a new sw i showed them i dont alcohol misuse and saw a pychtrist there stating i have traits of bpd that means i could get it by law should they return my childre

LawAndParents Editor 30/10/2017 at 1:50 pm

A social worker/support worker will be able to tell you this more accurately than we can. Or try the Family Lives helpline

Confused 27/10/2017 at 10:44 pm

Hi I need some advice if possible...
My son was taken into care age 3 his on a long term foster care order on the grounds of neglect.. alcohol misuse and mental health issues.. I wasn't in a state to look after him and his always been happy with his foster family. I've left it at that and haven't asked for him back as he was happy and settled.. 6 years on
His now 10. I've moved local authorities and now I have a 3 year old and a 2 year old living with me was assessed by new LA when my 3year old was a baby due to other child being subject to a CO and case was closed 1 week before me 2 year old was born no involvement since...
My son is now asking to come home.. where do I stand with reunification? What will the assessments entail and where do my little ones stand if they fail me? Please help if possible

LawAndParents Editor 25/10/2017 at 3:27 pm

Family lives helpline is a good place to start

K 23/10/2017 at 2:58 pm

My stepdaughters 11 week old daughter has been taken by social services on an epo. The reasons behind this are to do with the babies father. My stepdaughter is the best mum in the world and has already signed a document to say she would never let him near her baby but 2 days later they come with no warning and removed our beautiful baby from her mother’s arms. Please can someone help us. They have kidnapped her baby and are holding her to ransom till the father hands himself in which is never gona happen as we have already told them he doesn’t care what can we do to get her back

Sam 19/10/2017 at 11:19 pm

I have two kids that is in foster care and I am needing some help I have leaning differently and that why they was tock off me is they anything I can do to get them back out off care

Noodles 15/10/2017 at 2:09 pm

I singed a agreement with social services on 11 of April its ran out on the 18 of April does that still stand or what happens then

socialworker 12/10/2017 at 8:50 pm

I have wrongly put two boys in care and i personally would like them to go back home tomorrow with there mummy

Emi 08/10/2017 at 11:36 am

I'm on a full care order but I want to live with my nan but I live in a care home and my social worker said it's not Likely what can i do

Nicky 04/10/2017 at 3:21 am

My 3 youngest girls have been in foster care since July 2016,all separate contact is once a week for 2 hours supervised, social work have said at a permanence planning meeting in April 2017 it has been agreed the girls will not return home,I have not heard or saw any legal documents in regards to this,I feel the situation has just came to a stand still, is this the normal procedure, x

LawAndParents Editor 19/09/2017 at 12:22 pm

We can't really advise if we don't know all the circumstances. The courts will usually order an investigation into the background of any one who would potentially have care of your children though. You can try contacting the family lives helpline on 0808 800 2222

P 17/09/2017 at 3:54 pm

Hi need some advice please my children have been taken into tempory care until court decide weather or not children should cone home or to put temp with a family member, but this family member has had involvement with ss before and had her kids took off her but this was a good few years ago but as she has not told them about this can my children be places with her if can't come home need some advice soon many thanks

LawAndParents Editor 08/09/2017 at 12:04 pm

You could try seeking some individual advice and support on the Family Lives Helpline

Krissy 07/09/2017 at 12:03 pm

Hi I need some help please.I got an appeal for more contact with my two young sons who are in foster care since June 2015 as at the moment we only get one hour and a half every two months they have three sisters also who I got home last year after a long fight but because I have a child with disability my eldest daughter who just turned thirteen they said I couldn't cope with all five which was a lie so my sons remained in foster care which is not right.I was told by my solicitor there would be three judges,when i got to court this Monday 4th September on the board it was the same Judge that took my sons away and ordered they remain in foster care till my sons are eighteen.This Judge is not very nice and will never go back on her judgment so should she be allowed to do my appeal?She has now ordered I do a statement saying why I want more time and to prove I'm not trying to get my sons home then come back to court and go on the witness stand be questioned,I just don't understand and I done loads of statements last year and had to be in the box twice we just want more time and I will never ever give up to get my sons home I will do whatever it takes.They don't make it easy and social services are so awkward and never listen.Is there anything else I can do?Can I ask for a different judge?Any help i would be grateful.Thank you

LawAndParents Editor 05/09/2017 at 12:23 pm

Can you speak with social services in the area where your daughter is living? Alternatively, apply to the court for contact etc?

Chedd 03/09/2017 at 5:42 pm

Hi

My daughter contacted me last night she is in foster care. Her mother ran away with her 14 and a half years ago. I have not been able to find her. What can i do to help her or be involved in her life. I am not happy I was not contacted. I want her with me.

Please advise what I can do.

LawAndParents Editor 09/08/2017 at 12:23 pm

Talk to social services as you'll be on their register anyway. They don't want to take children away from their mothers and will re-assess your situatiion, acknowledging the fact that you are older and have a job etc. Hopefully they will support you in bringing up this next baby yourself.

AMY 07/08/2017 at 6:54 pm

hi there i am 25 and just found out i am pregnant i have 2 children who are in care because they said i neglected them they were 4 and 2 when they went i call every few months to talk to the social worker about they took them 6 years ago i have moved got a job can they take my child off me

surferchick. 22/07/2017 at 12:02 pm

My daughter is with my Mum, Who I have never got on with.My daughter is 13 and hormonal. She is also v stubborn. We have been arguing for months and 3 weeks ago the arguing turned physical.My daughter won't speak to me. I phoned yesterday but my daughter refused to speak with me.and the social worker said I couldn't speak to her. I have had no paperwork or information from anybody. What is likely to happen

Jessica, her childre 05/07/2017 at 6:40 am

My daughter has bipolar and was using Cocaine as a coping mechanism, her 13 and 2 year old daughters were placed with their paternal Grandmothers whilst her medication was ujusted, and her children were place back with by order of the Court, she had a still birth 11 months after her youngest was born , she had periods throughout this pregnancy and has irritable bowel syndrome, which was when she started using. Because she had a relapse the paternal grandmothers decided to go for special Guardianship, I'm the paternal grandmother and was positively assessed to. However tHe Court Guardian almost threatened myself,my daughter and my Granddaughter saying if we don't except the special guardianship and Supervision order at the pre hearing and continue myself seeking Guardianship, they would fight a bloody contest with.usI have a severe degenerated disc in my neck and was prescribed a heavy dose of Pregablin and Morphine , the Morphine I did not take in case of dependence, so used Cannabis for pain, my Pregablin was weaned up over time and has now reached a very good pain management, therefore I have not used Cannabis for six weeks of which I informed Child services , can they do this to us, LA was supporting for Special Guardianship, but now only the older child, can they do this awful thing to us. My eldest Granddaughter has been living with me since Christmas 2016.We need help and advice quickly.

LawAndParents Editor 13/06/2017 at 12:04 pm

The Family Lives Helpline or the Family Rights Group would be could places to start for individual advice.

Sonj 10/06/2017 at 2:27 pm

Hi I'm trying to get my two children home .portsmouth social services took my two children away as my youngest son had a breakdown after his dad overdosed and self harmed in front of him.everyone else was asleep so I didn't know what was going on.I am separated from the kids dad and I have redecorate the whole house.I've been on parenting courses.I really want them home.we have been punished because of the kids dad.he got away with all of the abuse and bullying of my two boys.portsmouth social services have bullied me and my kids.they have stuck up for there dad it's disgusting.how can I get them home

Jose 08/06/2017 at 9:18 pm

My friends son aged 6 has been fostered & the legal guardian appointed by the court has told us that she is telling my son the reasons why he has been fostered and says she has the right also to tell him that my current partner is not his biological father altho my son aged 6 has only known my current partner frm birth to present can this not be our decision thank you

Haq 19/05/2017 at 6:50 pm

HI, can any body out there advise me how can we (wife and my self) get back our grand children from social service? my son is a drug addict and he has been convicted for violence for few times, whenever he was short of money to buy drug he used force to his wife to get money but he never laid finger on his wife and children and police were called number of time.
my daughter-in-law is a really good mum never drink, never smoke, never go out without her children,whenever she need any help always get support from my wife(mother in law) they were very good friend.
The social service put the restraining order against my son, after about 4 months of this order once he went by the house and was waiting for children to come out, he knew that this is the time for children to go to Arabic class and children come out of the house and they ran to father mum could not stop the children and he took them to the class and police saw it and arrest him, in the eye's of the social security mum allowed it.
social went to the court and court order was made for children to be taken from mum, its not only mum. mum, my wife and myself become a dead body almost every minutes we cry, can't think of any thing else, can't sleep in the night or day, I don't think one can ever describe the feeling and mental suffering we are going through, my wife and I were so closed to our grand children, for us it is like end of life, it is been about 15 days and we cannot forget them for a second.
social only allow mum to visit children although we were very closed to our g children social service did not even answer my phone call or my text so far. social should understand that, we believe we are human being, we have a feeling as well, how a mum, a g father, a g mum even a addicted father can feel when 3 of their children have been taken a way, this can't be the law for human being we respect the but when 3 children were taken a way by some rude people, some polite people should come to us and explain the situation and some expert should be with them to council them to over come the different kind of pain not many people experience, instead social told my kind and very much loved daughter-in-law to complete cut the relationship with us,
now I have been to so many places they all make me hope less, until next hearing the social service not going to allow mum to get her children back, is there anything as we grand parents can do to get our grand children back to us?

LawAndParents Editor 17/05/2017 at 11:57 am

Were you told this might happen before the birth? You might be better talking to someone in person. If there is noone in your support network to help, try Citizens' Advice or the Family Rights Group which has a helpline.

Jen 15/05/2017 at 11:45 pm

Socail workers went to court with out telling anyone and took my baby when was asleep getting c section I haven't seen or holded my baby is this right ?

LawAndParents Editor 12/05/2017 at 12:50 pm

It might be worth giving the Family Rights Group a call. Their helpline number is 0808 801 0366

Krissy 11/05/2017 at 10:05 am

Hi can I take the social services back to court and revoke their long term foster care plan?It will be six months on the 25th May 2017 since the final hearing and order was made.I desperately want my two young sons home.My three daughters were returned to my care last year and everything is going really well their twelve months supervision order for my two younger daughters is finished my eldest daughter who has special needs her order runs out soon.I've done domestic violence course,I've done five parenting programs and due to start another in the 24th May.I am trying so hard and doing everything I can surely there must be a way to have my sons back at home.The judge made an order for foster care till my sons are eighteen but I did nothing wrong and was proven innocent I did nothing but have a little struggle and asked for help and they took all my children.My sons are both so sad and it breaks my heart.The social services have the order but why won't they let my sons come home they could send them home anytime but I know they never will.How can they just kidnap or however you want to say it and that's it.My sons have the right to grow up with their mother and siblings.Please there must be something I can do anything just let me know.Also I have already made formal complaints against the social workers and right now the legal omnibus man who I had to also go to about them is dealing with some of my issues which I'm so glad I went to.But thanks for advice.Any advice on court orders and if you can take social services back to court and ever have my sons home would be appreciated,thank you

LawAndParents Editor 09/05/2017 at 11:50 am

This page gives details of how to make a complaint regarding a social worker or care organisation (local authority).

Krissy 07/05/2017 at 5:06 pm

Hi my two young sons were taken along with their three older sisters in 2015 June after a long fight I have my three daughters home the judge ordered that my two sons remain in long term foster care on the 25th November 2016 I lost my appeal I didn't even get heard.We get 1hr and half every two months and I have to send my daughters some where after an hr,this can't be right.I have tryed and tryed speaking with my sons social worker but she is rude and never listens and now says because I made a complaint against her she can't meet or discuss my concerns or change the times I have to wait till the 16 th March to discuss anything and only today got a letter from social worker saying that my sons have a new social worker now and her name and said I have to now contact her if I have any matters.This is just wrong and frustrating.They have not stuck to any of their care plans they have just changed my sons school which they have attended for a year and were just settling to,my eldest son who is only just turned eight which I didn't even get to see on his birthday tells them and me he's unhappy and his foster carer is horrible to him and shouts and tells him off for nothing and says things to him no foster carer or anyone should be saying to him but no one listens and the social worker calls him liver this is in unreal.Can I take them back to court and revoke the care order?Is there something I can do?I just want my sons home where they belong and with their sisters .It has been six months since the court order.Please help.Thank you.

LawAndParents Editor 19/04/2017 at 11:35 am

Just ask them! Sometimes they'll be able to do it, but if not, they'll certainly know of places that can help. Try also, your local Citizens' Advice, local Facebook community pages and charity shops in your area...they'll all know where you can find good quality items that people no longer need. You might also have a toy library in your area (where you can borrow toys/books etc)

Jemz 16/04/2017 at 6:22 pm

Hi, so my partners children has been taken off their so-called mother and put into foster care, long story short social services are now putting the younger child with myself and partner and I'm so nervous and excited, but we have nothing i.e. Bed, toys, things that she will need, does anyone know if social services will help with any of that? It's just that it will be happening in the next two weeks, and we have nothing yet!!! Thanks

Hw 15/04/2017 at 4:24 pm

I have 2 half brothers of whom I don't know as I have no contact with our father. I have just found out they have been taken into care and am now wondering if there is anything I can do?

Lyd 06/04/2017 at 11:00 pm

My 3 children have been placed on an interim care order because the local authority lied to the judge and said that I was drink driving my car when I prooved later on that it wasn't the case. I was not drink driving but didn't have paperwork that day. My son has disabilities but their trying to say I've made that up. My son told me that his foster carer had picked him up and thrown him onto the bed. They have also said that the carer shouts a lot. Please tell me who I contact about this? I'm very worried about my children and so Broken.

LawAndParents Editor 27/03/2017 at 12:32 pm

You will need to contact the agency that recommended the foster care (often social services - so try your county council) and ask them if they are able to pass on any communication.

Donna 25/03/2017 at 9:30 pm

Please help my 5 cousin was taken in to long term foster care about 5years ago and 2weeks ago their mum past away. None of her family gets to see the children only their father mother and the children dad. We would like some advice on where to start to get contact with the children i foster care. I want them to know even know they not going to see their mum any more they do have other family that care and love them. Please help

Mandy 24/03/2017 at 1:05 pm

My 6 children was put in to care by the court it been over 4 years and my oldest daughter is 14 she want to come back home and spend more time but she got no social worker and apart of the order made by the family courts what can I do to have more time with her as I want her home what can I do

LawAndParents Editor 16/03/2017 at 10:50 am

Sorry we can't work out what's happened from your description. Could you try calling the Family Lives helpline on 0808 800 2222 or the Family Rights Group helpline 0808 801 0366

Ruby-leigh 16/03/2017 at 9:28 am

My daughter got took of me when she was 1 and half I've been through hell and back to have her back in my life.. Yeah I got pregnant when I was 16 had her when I was 17 couldn't change her for the world but right now I don't get to see her No letters.. there all like we keep family together? It's all lies I don't get support of anyone? Now I don't trust anyone coming into my life

LawAndParents Editor 14/03/2017 at 11:32 am

Keeping a child within the family is often the preferred option for a child. Are social services in touch with you, or even aware that you want to take your grandson into your care? Make contact with them first. If that's unsuccessful, you could apply to the courts for guardianship.

Loren 14/03/2017 at 3:48 am

5wks ago 3 girls taken I signed s20 but my eldest is 12 and refused she has remained with me all the time, I was to to attend all these programmes and have hair test done which I agreed to and still not 1 thing has changed, 4 and half hr supervised visits I have had I in 5 weeks, with3 visits from social work to my home and not once was eldest at home, how am I meant to get. Girls back I can
Desperate pls help

Nc 11/03/2017 at 8:18 pm

Cut a long story short, my grandson was put into the care of his other granny, after a year social put him with a foster family as the granny failed her health assessment, we were never considered to take him, the foster care is temporary so can me & my husband apply for custody to keep the child in the family, cause he is wanted by family, or would it be too late

Krissy 06/03/2017 at 12:31 am

Hi,thank you for your reply.I wanted some advice on this,my sister and her husband had an SGO for my two young sons last April but just after two weeks returned them back to the local atthoritys care and back to the old foster carer as her young son was not coping with the change.Now my sister and her husband want my the SGO back is that possible?In November 25th last year social services won to keep my two young sons who are aged 4 and 7 and I tried for an appeal but on the 17th Feb I didn't get a chance.Is there any way of my sons being able to return to the care and what would they have to do?Thank you so much for your help.

LawAndParents Editor 24/02/2017 at 11:16 am

There are several support organisations that may be able to help or advise you individually (they each have a free support line): Keeping Families Together Family Rights Group Family Lives

Krissy 21/02/2017 at 5:32 pm

HELP!I lost my appeal last Friday to stop my two sons going into foster care.One is aged 4 the other 7.All my five children were taken in June 2015.I have three girls and two boys.My eldest daughter has Cerebral Palsy and Hydrochalus.After a long fight I got first my two youngest daughters last April 2016 then my eldest in August 2015.I have done everything and more but social services gave me no chance and in done nothing wrong to begin with just ask for their help when I needed some now this is what's happened.I get six times a year so far once last week for just an hour and a half how can they do this.There must be something else I can do.I am not rich on benefits this would not be happening if I had loads of money but I haven't and they are distroying my little babies lives forever all my boys want is their Mummy I don't know how they all sleep at night.All my five children were and been abused in foster care and it has to stop for all these poor children's sake not just mine.Its because of what they do poor Baby P and Victoria Columbia suffer and do millions it's heartbreaking and sickening.Please help there must be something I can do I can't lose my sons for ever it's breaking my heart.Any one

shelly 20/02/2017 at 7:19 pm

Hi am the Aunty of to beautiful girl they have been taking into foster care for now not that there mum is bad from other people they have been there for a week had one bath they smell theyy were dairty when we saw them they haven't been out the foster people showt all the time they said they had a little dog when they got 5 my girls unhappy they were late bringing them to us so we only hat 30 mines with them little one had her nite were on under coat every time we get in touch with her worker she's off all on holiday this is wrong were do we go from here x

Tasha 17/02/2017 at 11:14 am

My son has just turned 13. And is in a long term forster placement. He's been there 5 years now. At are last contact he said to me when her turns 13 that we could swap phone numbers and that he could have a Facebook account and add me on to this. Is this ture could I have my son's phone number now he's 13. Would love if someone could help me to understand thing that could happen now he's 13. Just I don't no if he is just saying this.

LawAndParents Editor 20/01/2017 at 2:38 pm

Don't wait to hear from them. Contact them and let them know about the changes you have made. Seek advice/help from a support organisation like Family Lives.

Uniuquebeauty89 19/01/2017 at 4:42 pm

My son who is 9 years old was taken into foster care a year ago in December I was asked to get my own property with my long term partner and to have Councelling I have done these and not had anything back from my sons social worker.
I don't know what elce I can do please help?

Goodgirl 06/01/2017 at 5:45 am

Social services so far have done a lot wrong to us families. With me they took my nanny into a nursing home and she was dying when her wish was to die at home with my uncles with her. Then they took my older son put him into mental hospitals where staff nearly killed him. Then my daughter got raped fell pregnant and social worker took her first born child from home then stressed my step dad out which he died a week later. Then social worker took my daughter again because she had another baby and same again wrongly adopted out . Then now they have took my youngest son now who is getting picked on at the school and with foster carers bullying him as well as the school and he asks to go home to us. And the judges at the ipswich court decided to keep on social services side and not family side.

Monique 29/11/2016 at 10:28 pm

Hi social services saw a bruise on my son a few weeks ago and they kept him in hospital for nearly a week doing a child protection medical ( we've had social since I was pregnant due to my age and recently got my son off the CP register ) they had a legal meeting shortly after and decided they wanted my and Cody to go into temporary foster care so we did , I then had an 8 week parenting assessment with my partner and they've now had their second legal meeting and are deciding to take us to court to get him put into care , their concerns are mine and my partners relationship ( were too dependant on each other ) the attention given to my son , the emotional bond between us all and my partners mental health , what are the chances if I fight against their decision? And how likely is it that my son could return home with me?

LawAndParents Editor 25/11/2016 at 12:08 pm

A court would make a decision based on the all the facts. There are no specific laws relating to age etc.

lucy 24/11/2016 at 9:31 am

I'm 21 years old and have a partner that is 29 years old. His kids are in care i was just wondering if it would make a difference with him getting them back knowing he had the support of me now but knowing i'm only 21 i don't know how the law stands as his eldest is 11??

Vh123 17/11/2016 at 5:59 pm

Hi
My eight year old little angel was taken by social services as she scratched her face and said I did it to her unknown to me and her father my girl was restrained by teachers the same day so at the night I had to restrain her this is when she self harmed her beautiful face school have apologised for not informing us as I feel we could if dealt with things a lot different when she arrived home from school also her big sister spent a lot of time at her nanas house and my girl missed her so much I have a stamtement off there great grandmother that Rihanna (my baby who was taken) stating she knew she would get to nanas but now misses her mummy and daddy no charges have been brought against me and Rihanna does have anger issues.. social services was in my life for a while due to me having a massive nervous breakdown and used alcohol frequently as a coping mechanism I know this was wrong but I didn't know how to deal with life and became very anti-social I went to see psychiatrists to help me through and on various occasions the police was called out to my home due to me arguing with my partner because he left me for two years whilst I had a breakdown and needed him more than ever . The reaso police was called is I kept going on and on and on at my partner wanting answers in why he left and why I was hearing about him having affairs during this time.. my heart is aching every day I wake its like someone stabbing me in my chest and stomach Rihanna has stated she misses mummy and daddy and wants to come home I'm in court on 30/10/16 can I fight for her to be placed back with us it's been four weeks now and I want her home can I fight for this I have proved that I'm getting support with my issues and me and my partner have now resolved all issues and I realise now it was very wrong to argue in front of her but we have been together 21 years and I feel arguments do occur what are my rights how should I address the courts how do I show them how much I've changed and become more focused could they tell me on the day how long before I get my angel back she's never left my side for eight years now and I feel like I'm grieving I just want to know what to expect will I win her back .... please please help .. her heartbroken mother and father

Bmm 02/11/2016 at 10:07 pm

Hello I need some advice my baby was put in to care in August 13/16. My wife took our baby out for her appointment that's where she got in to trouble with the cops. and that's when are baby was put in to care just over night. And I was back home keeping are 6 other kids and when I heard about my wife and baby I was going to fly out to go and get them. I was told its out of their hands that shes in care. And now everybody is back in the same town but our baby is still in care we have her during the day and take her back at night. We keep on asking when were getting her back but they just give us the run around talk to her or talk to him, Me and my wife are drug-free and don't drink.

LawAndParents Editor 02/11/2016 at 2:44 pm

The courts will make a decision based on the interests of the children - they'll consult with all the parties including social services.

K 31/10/2016 at 7:28 pm

Hello, my sisters children were taking into care over a year ago. They applied to court and a care order was made. Since then I have said I will look after the children as it was made clear that she would be able to get the children back if she made significant improvements. She was all for me taking the children until she recently moved out of town and has spoken to another relative (who's children have been adopted) she said they would be better off in care and my sister has now changed her mind saying that she doesn't support them coming to me. We believe she still wants the children (she is on the understanding from her cousin that she will never get them back. Social services have never once said this to her) and the children want to go back to her. It is going to court soon and I'm going for a child arrangements order (I've read up on this a little) is it correct that it can be overturned and she can get them back or is it different with a care order being in place? We are unsure whether she has signed away her parental rights as she is severely dyslexic and has a poor understanding (social services took the children without anyone else there to explain anything to her)

Channie 24/10/2016 at 6:13 pm

Hi my daughters was taken into foster care on 13th may 2016.. On the 3rd October LA won care orders o have them put up for adoption I'm absolutely heartbroken... I currently have just over 4weeks left before I give birth again... Can they take this baby for the same reasons they took the girls even though I have changed my circumstances massively??

luckie 21/10/2016 at 9:00 pm

My sister is 10 years old and shes in foster care; we had contact today and she was really emotional and wanted to come back to the family home, i need some advice as to what i can do to bring her home? Is there anything i can do?
I am 21 years old currently a guardian for my 17 year old sister, could i be a guardian for my 10 year sister too?

di 19/10/2016 at 9:54 am

iam a mum ov twin boys they haven't bin wi me for 6yrs on a care order but lived at home s s tricked me saying it was respite I wasn't copeing were still imbo the boys were3 separated and still are after all this time both bin moved different towns why I don't no contact was every two week ive never missed once last month I was told my boys didn't want n contact anymore or phone calls thers no way I I its true bin to9ld to send cards etc like that is it over fo good I need help as its killing me is there anything I can do????

LawAndParents Editor 04/10/2016 at 2:28 pm

Social services will investigate if they are already involved.

Jlh 03/10/2016 at 7:45 pm

Hi social services been involved and my Brother has now got my niece of her mother otherwise she would gone in care
Her mother rang my brother and said he can have full custody of her but her have wait until she got money to go solister to sign her over what I want to know is it illegal to do that when social services are involved

LawAndParents Editor 30/09/2016 at 2:45 pm

You should give the Family Rights Group helpline a call. They will be able to advise you individually on your rights and what you can do to keep up to date on your children's wellbeing.

Jojo86 30/09/2016 at 11:10 am

Hey the court granted my kids go into foster care on 9th aug this year I know I got wait till January to try appeal so I need advice on what I have to do? But I also help my child's social worker isn't telling us anything about or children like how they are how they settling into their new school things I would like to know Its like they took or children and keeping us out of their life's and it's not fair we saw them few week ago was hard for me but now we won't see them till Nov I want and need more contact with them anything I can do to get this? Even tho that's what court decided and they won't let me have phone contact neither I feel so alone like I failed my children has their mum I feel a failure I don't know how long I can carry on without them it's breaking me mentally they my world and now my world been ripped apart and it's like no one cares and no one will help

Smiley 03/09/2016 at 6:26 pm

My nieces mother' had moved them to Texas a few months ago with notice. I've been calling and texting her non stop about talking with them. I got a tip from a private source that it's possible that they have been taken from her custody. How can I find out if this is true. I'm just a concerned family member trying to keep my family close. Please help me.

n/a 03/09/2016 at 2:05 pm

I lost my home when my mama died so I've living in differents house's (freinds).I have 2 children (girls) the older one is living with her grand mother and the other was taken by the social worker.My boyfreind is building us a home is there any chance I can't get my child back? Please help me

LawAndParents Editor 24/08/2016 at 10:40 am

There are a few different avenues you could try for support. The Citizens' Advice Bureau may know of local support or groups that could help (certainly with the cannabis addiction). Both the Family Rights Group and Family Lives offer help to parents and those whose children have been taken into care - they both have helplines which are detailed on their websites too.

LawAndParents Editor 22/08/2016 at 11:37 am

Try the Family Lives helpline on 0808 800 2222. They may be able to direct you to some free legal help.

jarded 20/08/2016 at 1:16 am

I nipped out to the corner shop (s) whilst my 5year daughter was asleep and the police came around to the house for a different matter which involves my friend's 35 year old daughter who has issues with the police.
My child was found all by herself and taken into custody and since Monday i was able to see my child in hospital yesterday as she has been placed with a temp foster carer and i will be summoned to court some times next week.

What do i do as i can not afford to loose my daughter and can not afford to pay for legal representation as am not working presently.

scooby 14/08/2016 at 6:47 pm

hello there, i suffer with mental health issues, i have personality emotional unstable disorder and i currently have a nearly 9yr old son who is in care.....they social services took him off me due to bascially apprantly emotionally abusing him......also his dad at that time was carrying a large hernia and was unable to look after him to, the social services said that because of our mental and physcial disorder at that time we were unable to look after him! He has been in care now for 8months under a irtrim care order by the court.....please could i get some advice weather now as the father has had his hernia op and recoverying well weather he could go to the court and be able to get his son back!

Boss Lady 01/08/2016 at 2:51 pm

Actually I have a question. I live in Mississippi & CPS had taken my daughter and placed her with family. I'm now about to have another baby and I have been told by work of mouth there is a possibility that CPS can take this baby from me at birth because I never regained custody of may other child. Is there truth to this and if so what do I do to prevent this action? Baby is due in a month..... I'm scared.

Struggling 26/07/2016 at 8:44 pm

My brother had a child with his gf(now ex) he has special needs mental not physical, long story short social services pushed them into seperation anyway they refused to place the mother into a mother and baby unit the social services lied to get an interim care order they told the mother they would consider and ask about a baby unit however they returned to their office and instead of mentioning the baby unit they told management the mother refused to co operate so the child has been placed with the mothers sister, i as the fathers sister was assesed to possibly care for the child however they twisted everything i said, reported that i said things i never and end result they said i was a risk because they feel i wouldnt co operate with the social services all this was tailored because me and my family do not get on with the babies social worker as he is a liar and he knows we know his game anyway i was told i was no risk in seeing the child i could contact the mothers sister to see how the child was getting on and i could even meet the mothers sister in town centre to see the child however she has completely ignored my messages asking how the child is. Im confused does she have the right to do that afterall she is my niece as well as hers this is so frustrating do i have visitation rights or is this just gonna have to be brushed under the carpet until the child reaches 18

LawAndParents Editor 08/07/2016 at 10:58 am

You may have to seek legal help on this one. Citizen's Advice might be able to tell you if you can get any help with legal fees if you let them know your circumstances. You can also try the Family Lives Helpline for some advice on how to remove children from care/foster care etc.

shazza 06/07/2016 at 10:25 am

I have been trying to get my kids back from July 2014.I went into refuge away from my area to sort things out and to stay away from x partner done this voluntarily. Stayed there a year got a new tenancy which is brilliant big enough to get my children back everything is fine .I have found a new partner who is brilliant. He wants to see kids.its taking forever still getting supervised.1cant talk to my kids the same.Never got copies of papers I signed.want to take them to court.Help

yvonne 02/07/2016 at 2:31 am

my ex partner was convicted of domestic abuse,womans aid said in order to help me I had to I inform police,social services appeared 9 days later ,after 2nd incident.and told me I had let him see kids,which I did..but due to things he was saying to kids I stopped it.for 10mth I had home support morning and night.and had to basically jump through hoops,which I questioned every time.i was admitted to hospital due to a disability ive had since birth for 2 nights,the day after I was admitted they awarded him temporary custody for 1 yr..I have been told this shouldn't have happened whilst I was in hospital..he still has kids,and I am only allowed 2 hours supervised acess.they didn't even get supervision order till day they took my kids....any advice would be appreciated

ginger 23/06/2016 at 1:25 pm

hi id like some advise please
iv got 3 kids aged 5 4 and 3 social services have been involved seens july last yeah. my 5 yeah old is now living with his granddad an my 4 and 3 year old are with there farther iv done every thing social services have asked of me and more I now have another baby under a different social services an they have no concerns with my youngest they are on the child protection register but haven't explained y an now im going to court for my 3 an 4 year old social services have said if I fight this there going to takes my kids into care if the court let me have them back.

are the social services aloud to take them away after its been to court
I would be very grateful for a reply

LawAndParents Editor 16/06/2016 at 2:29 pm

We really can't say. It's probably worth talking about it with social services, they may be appreciative of his attempts to overcome his problems and be able to give you some good advice.

Emmzie22 15/06/2016 at 3:01 pm

Hi I would really appreciate advice. My partner and I separated 20 months ago due to his violence towards me. Services were involved and police. He has since completed a BBR course via probation and has really turned his life around. He is a great father and completely different towards me. I live a normal safe life and he has never shown any signs of controlling behaviour at all since.
Do you think I should contact social services to let them know we are working things out?
I'm really scared as I don't want my kids to be taken if it is a choice I choose them hands down.
The children never saw anything as it was always when no one was there.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Jadeydoodle 30/05/2016 at 9:07 am

I am an ex drug user I asked social services to look after my son for a week while I sorted myself out and came off the drugs I have been off them for ages now my home is clean and safe for a child and I am emotionally stronger and ready to have my son home. He has been asking me if come and live with me how can I make this happen? Do I need to go back to court? He is fostered by my parents but my mum is unwell at the moment and is finding it hard to cope with my 5 year old son if I just let him stay with me like he wants to are social services able to take him away again if he is no longer at risk?

LawAndParents Editor 27/05/2016 at 10:42 am

Special Guardianship Orders can be discharged with the leave of the court by a child's parent and the court form you'd need use form C1. The courts will make their decision based on the best interests of your son.

CHARSTAR 25/05/2016 at 7:45 pm

Hi there I had my first son at 17 years old I suffered domestic violence with my partner this was logged down with the police for many cad reference numbers, I handed my child to my aunt who now has guardianship of my son.
My son was not safe at home with me and my partner.... in the end my partner committed an offence to someone else and he was arrested and put in prison.
I brought my son up for 6 years before i gave him up to my aunty.
I now have had time to self reflect and can see I am in a better place now mentally and physically.
Can I get my son back now? and what type of forms do I need to get from the family court to make an application, I am now ready for him.

LawAndParents Editor 18/05/2016 at 2:21 pm

Ask about applying to the courts for a special guardianship order so that the daughter can live with you (this allows contact with the original parents).

HAZY 18/05/2016 at 2:07 pm

Hello everyone, I need as much advice as possible Two weeks ago my brother dropped his 6 week old daughter out of her car seat whilst slightly intoxicated so by right social services have become involved. The mother was allowed to keep hold of their daughter as long as she didnt allow access to the father whilst they investigated potential risks etc last friday the mother came to liverpool where the father was staying, social services have now removed my neice and placed her into care with a foster family. No family or friends where considered in the temporay care conditions and yesterday social services where awarded an ECO (Emergency care order) on the grounds of 'child abuse and neglect' The courts have award by brother and his wife 2 hours a week under supervision at a centre of social services choice to be assessed, Social services have not provided them with any documents such as a carE plan etc is this something that is handed to them on the first visit. The other option that we have looked into as much as possible is if both parents were to hand over their parental rights on a temporay basis to me (mother of a 10 and 8 year old) how would we go about doing this, my biggest fear is the family will never be allowed to be together again and we loose my niece for good. If parental rights where passed to me then at least she would be able to stay within the family, we would know shes safe, where she is and at least grow up with her relative so she would know who she is.I havent got a clue what to do in this situation as its never been something I have had to come across at all, I cant sleep worrying about the baby and what I can do as her auntiePlease give me as much info as you can, am hoping to go the visit they have scheduled tomorrow so I can find out what the plan is. as much as I want to believe my brother and his wife with what is said I would rather hear the information from Social Services

Yazi 12/05/2016 at 8:01 pm

A loving mum of 3 boys and 1 girl. After nursery contacted social services about bite marks frommy youngest son towards my. 2nd eldest son.nursery saw the bruises that my youngest made and I was to take him to hospital were they said he was perfectly ok and confirmed that they were bite marks from my youngest.social services was involved. Having my husband in prison and myself having. A drug. Independence problem.it snowballed out of control. And was given no choice than to sign my children over to family members 3 boys are with my father in law and my daughter is with my brother and sister in law. I'm left with not knowing what to do or who to contact
My social worker was contacting me all time before and now hardly anything. Need support and help getting my family back together please help
( bit vague with details as I'm a friend of whom I've just written about) she deadly wants support...

Chatter box 12/05/2016 at 6:48 pm

My son was taken away from me in court illgly Thay admitted there masstake but because it took 3 years the judge said David's settled and for that reason he carnt live with us it broke our hart wot legal age can he have a say to live with us

Karen 12/05/2016 at 3:59 pm

Worried Grandma . My son's and his girlfriend look like they going to lose there unborn child to social services . They have asked me if I would consider taking on the baby when it is born . To date no actual assessment have been done but the girlfriend has already had children taken off her. She says rather than go through the pain of losing another she and my son would sooner I have the baby reside in my full time care . How would I go about doing this . Any advice would be welcome .

LawAndParents Editor 11/05/2016 at 12:59 pm

We don't know enough about her circumstances, but the Family Rights Group helpline 0808 801 0366 might be a useful place to start.

Liz 09/05/2016 at 10:54 am

My friend is in a refuge after fleeing from domestic violence and even tho she is in a refuge ss are still going to court to remove the baby at birth, is their anything that st can be done that yout aware of please? X

LawAndParents Editor 04/05/2016 at 10:40 am

You'd need to seek legal advice if you wanted to pursue compensation against the authorities or the foster carers - it's not something that anyone can advise about on a website.

jamie 01/05/2016 at 6:09 am

my child was taken from me and my partner from future neglect. this took 9 months through the courts, the judge's verdict was to be reprimand the whole of social service for the treatment and meantal and physical abuse of the perents ( the judge demarnded an formal appoligy to both parents and to return the child back in my care)
this investigation took 9 months and seven foster homes four social workers and £120k later, the first foster home my 3 year old was at was physically abused causeing evedental bursing to her face. both me and my partner are acquitted of all allagations. the guardian back both of us from about the third meeting.
were does my child stand with a criminal compensation hearing for the abuse from the foster careers.

pricey 10/04/2016 at 4:08 pm

My girlfriend just had a baby 72 hrs ago just had a letter saying she got to stqy in hospital til the court date in 2 days social servies wants to.take the baby of us can they do.that we got solictos involed

shorty 08/04/2016 at 10:39 pm

My children was removed from my care in October 2015...due to slipping home conditions & my mental health & suspicion of neglect because my children are develepomentally delayed (not on target for age) however social services dont want my children returned to my care an want there nana to have sgo & my eldest boy on a childs arrangement order... However guardian wants them returned home within a six month period... Whats my chances?? All positive assesments done more than whats been askes of me etc ....if ss get there way what contact am i allowed, am i entitled to overnight contact??

LawAndParents Editor 29/03/2016 at 11:17 am

There is some advice on what you can do if your children have been removed by social services on Family Lives - here. You can also call the Family Rights Group helpline on 0808 801 0366

Stacey1982 26/03/2016 at 3:57 am

My 6 children werebtaken off me by local authority and 3 of them got put with my husbands sister on an sgo and 2 of them are in temporary care at the minute but social services are looking at long term placements for them and 1 was with my neice but she going back into local authority what are my rights on fighting to get them home as a parent as nobody as told me when i can go back and fight for them again

di 11/03/2016 at 5:02 pm

I am foster carer to a 12 year old, he is one of 5 siblings , his oldest brother is 15, he( his 15 yr old brother ) asked me the other day if he can return home to his parents when he is 16, he is on a full care order.

Samantha 04/03/2016 at 10:14 pm

Hi, hello I hope I can get some sort of feed back as I am age 35 and 17 weeks pregnant, not a day goes by where I'm not worrying about the children's services because of what happened to me10 years ago. I was involved with children services when I had my first baby boy i was 25 years old and sadly was naieve and stupid and got onto drugs.
Understandably they would have concerns due to this fact.
The partner at the time was casual and also had issues. During my pregnancy I changed my life around and got clean
I was so proud of myself to have done so much to improve my life style for me and my son, I know I was a great single mum as the father went to prison soon after when social signed me off their records, with no concerns after several weeks or so.
I was such a proud mum and the love felt was amazing.
Anyway I soon met up with another guy through a friend, who seemed nice and treated me nice I soon became close and l got pregnant again.
My son was nearly seven months!
I decided to go ahead with the pregnancy as I felt my life was good and I was happy, and was meant to be.
However things soon spiralled out of control with the father to my 2nd child and things got violent, drugs came back into my life and before I knew it social services were back involved...
The day I had my baby daughter was not the best due to complications due to stress and mental and physical violence throughout my pregnancy with her.
The guy was a phsyco, I dicovered he was doing amphetamine on daily basis and had physcotic episodes of being so nasty!
He had violent history, but he kept pursuading that we stick together. No matter what.
I was not allowed to leave the hospital with my daughters dad, it was sprung on to me that I go to a family member.
I was extremely upset as I had already worked hard to keep my son
Looking back now I no my life is on a much stable level and I let him walk all over me and control my life.
Domestic violence, threatening behaviour and I was back to square one!
I tried so many times to leave this nasty man but he just kept on, and I felt there was nothing I could do.
I could go on, but both my children got put on at risk register and had to reside with family!
It was decided that both my kids were adopted, I never got to know or bond with my daughter.
It was a hard period! I felt so trapped and alone!
Now I been told that I will be looked at with this child I'm having later into my pregnancy and work with me.
I am with a great guy, I've spend time incarcerated which changed my whole perspective of life.
I believe I been given a second chance but I'm worried they will find a way of taking this one!
I could not handle it!
Can social services take my 3rd child away for battling drug addiction and my past?
I feel I can't talk to anyone because I felt judged for being different.
I just am so worried, I have anxiety and depression and would be lovely to know I will finally have my happy ending of having my own littl

Cantlove 20/02/2016 at 11:26 am

My son is 4.5years old and I hate him. I don't love him I dont have any feelings for him.I shout at him everyday. All day! I have never wanted him since the day he was born. No one wants him. I feel like killing myself

ness 15/02/2016 at 11:05 pm

I need some help my kids were taken out of there mums care due to the older one telling myself and other professional that she had hit her the police were involved. I have had them from 8th Jan Socile serves say she can take them back any time but I said no as I worry for them. the mother went to the police to get them back but they said they will not have any involvement in it. can she just take them back can I go to court to get a order put in place? I really don't know what to do next. we have CP meeting soon. thank you for any help.

littlemo40 03/02/2016 at 11:53 am

Hello good moring i have lost three children in to care 18.05.2011 but did get one back to hard work and alot of help from friends in surport and no problems but she was 17 sothis helped to but finding hard to getiing my 16yr and 10 yr old home i have tryed to have ss done for slander for the lies about me been in prison witch is a lie but all i got told if ss are saying it then it must be true and i dont no what to do i would like to no if i can go in to court with out a solictor

Gypsy 31/01/2016 at 8:34 am

My gran children was taken from my daughter social services was no help the court give them to the foster cararas long term one is autism I was fighting for them my daughter never neglected them but was willing for me to help with them the court let them go on imotionall neglect we are deverstated we want our children home can we fight to get them bag social severcis was not helpful to us at all contact could not belive why they was taken isobel x

Nate 14/01/2016 at 1:29 am

I have evidence that shows the local authority are removing children under false pretences should you require any help. Also search project mk make of that what you will

Shelly 22/12/2015 at 6:54 pm

Hi

I was in the "system" from the age of 6 until I was 18, by then I had 2 children ( I regret my age but not my children) well since I came off my children went on! Long story cut short, I had 4 children with a very abusive "man" was mixed up by the abuse I suffered and did a lot of things I regret, however I since married and had 3 more children, due to the abuse of my ex partner things between my husband and I wasn't always great! Since 2012 ss had been saying we're going to court, no we're not etc.....so was living on a knife edge, of course things deteriorated at times, we had 7 children one with ADHD which was hard at times to deal with, not blaming him though, blaming those we begged for help but got nowhere only threats of court! Well we've just been through the court system my 3 youngest on forced adoption orders and my son with ADHD full time residential care and eldest 3 ful care orders including my 16 year old. This was mostly based on the report of the psychologist from court saying based on 2 meetings with my that I had in her opinion an emotionally unstable borderline personality disorder! So getting over the shock of hearing that I am now under the cmht! Who've told me " it's unfair and wrong to even suggest something as serious as an emotionally unstable disorder, having only met me twice for a few hours! They also said whilst I did and do have traits of this its completely understandable and say in their opinion it's more CIRCUMSTANTIAL than a disorder.

So my question is how do I get this back to court asap as ss have already placed my baby with her possible adopter's! Also my 16 year old what rights does she have?

Best wishes and hope to hear back soon.

Shelly

Nece 20/12/2015 at 4:55 pm

I would like to know my son was taken in his dad mother has him in anyway can my mother get him instead

Kerry 16/11/2015 at 7:54 pm

Hi. I have sgo for my granddaughter. What would happen if I returned her to the care of her mother?? She was removed from her mum due to cannabis smoking but this has ceased.

LawAndParents Editor 11/11/2015 at 2:06 pm

You should approach this via the correct procedures. Simply removing your daughter from the home will not be the right thing to do. Contact social services and ask them what the procedure is for obtaining care of your child. If they are no help try Citizens' Advice or a support organisation such as the Family Rights Group helpline
Telephone: 0800 731 1696

moomoo 10/11/2015 at 1:10 pm

hi I want to know know if I can remove my child from social services care there is a care order but she wasn't taken from me she was taken from her father I I am trying to get her back home but since she has been in care they have shipped her about and now she is in a childrens home and also she has been raped since being in care . I just want to bring her home but will it scupper my chances of getting her back or will I get arrested for removing her please help

saraj 09/11/2015 at 8:07 pm

My 1st born is already in my mums care and I accept and know why he is. He's been in her care for nearly 2 years now. I am currently 36 weeks pregnant with my 2nd kid. Social services are saying the baby should go in my mums care under section 20. One social worker is saying I should go to court and fight for my unborn coz the alligations there saying is not true. But I'm also getting told if It goes to court and I don't get custody that the court will then not let my mum have custody. I want my son with either me or my mum. But scared to fight.

LawAndParents Editor 21/10/2015 at 10:11 am

You might find it beneficial to talk to someone at support organisation like Family Lives , the number is 0808 800 2222

saz88 20/10/2015 at 7:53 am

My partner and I have been having domestics and police have been coming out I was released by pf I phone social services and got no where only they were safe at aunties when can I have my kids

yaya 19/10/2015 at 8:28 pm

I have had my children removed, its been a year now and I have jumped through hoops for the department of children services. My case is still not in disposition stage and it seems as if there is a new request of things for me to do on top of that the department is trying to close out the case as far as my oldest children without giving me the fair chance like all the other parents to get my all the custody of my five children back. What should I do in this case? my worker is a family preservation worker and has not attempted to at least help or refer me to any programs to help get me on my feet and into a stable environment. I need help they are destroying my family.

LawAndParents Editor 13/10/2015 at 12:38 pm

We don't have the full details but you should raise this with a social worker if you are concerned.

Garfield 12/10/2015 at 2:14 pm

Hi I know somebody who has had their children taken away by social services one had died and another was taken at birth the other two in-between I think I was told, I was also told she is allowed anything to do with them so is it right that someone she knows who stills sees one of the children is sending her photographs of one of them.

LawAndParents Editor 07/10/2015 at 1:54 pm

You should speak with social services/the police to establish this as they will have all the details of the case.

Sadblossom 04/10/2015 at 9:56 am

My baby was placed on a cpp after she was born due to her fathers fault. We moved away outside the country and she was removed from the plan.(my father signed papers to say where we were going to live etc)
Would we be able to return for a week to a town 400miles away from her father and my last home?

kel 30/09/2015 at 4:05 pm

My 16 year old wants to come out of care can social services stop him as now theyve moved him away from the area he was living and stopped all contact that i had with my kids i dont know what to do as im in tears since i found this out today can they do this?

LawAndParents Editor 25/09/2015 at 12:30 pm

No you should not just take them. It would be useful to find someone who can act on your behalf if you have not been assigned a key worker yourself. In the first instance try calling 0808 800 2222, the Family lives helpline to speak with a family support worker.

Scaredalone 24/09/2015 at 6:21 pm

My children are on a child protection plan due to past mental health difficulties and I agreed with social services that they could stay with a family member for a short period of time whilst I gave birth to another. I have never signed anything. I now want my children home but social services are saying no. Can I just take them? What will happen if I do?

Sall 24/09/2015 at 2:30 pm

Bethany the same has happened to me, could I ask has she got her kids back yet?? Just wondering as I'm in exact same position as her thanks x

LawAndParents Editor 21/09/2015 at 12:26 pm

No if a baby is under the care of social services, you'd need a court order to take the child.

Corinxox 20/09/2015 at 10:57 am

Can I take my child out of social services care if I have half pr?
Also If I could and went to Ireland could I get into trouble and can they still come and take my baby?

LawAndParents Editor 08/09/2015 at 11:11 am

If you feel you can offer your daughter a good life/support at home, then you could try the courts. It would be in your interests to find a good family law expert to you help you with your case.

gemba 05/09/2015 at 2:07 pm

My children were taken into care & were placed in Forster care long term however through a lot of hard work I've managed to get my son home but recently my daughter has been have behaviour issues due to wanting to be home with me and her brother she's only 8years old & the social workers are putting her into a children's home can I go back to court & ask for her to returned back to me I just feel helpless I don't want her put in a care home please I just need some advise because when I ask the social workers I don't get any answers they didn't even tell me about the children's home my daughter did they don't tell me anything in constantly ringing going into see them no one is ever available to speak to me & I'm at my whits end don't no what I can do

gina 26/08/2015 at 1:32 pm

can my daughter remove her children from my care when eva she likes there is no care order only socialservices say so

clferguson 09/08/2015 at 12:43 am

im 22 this year im a single parent to two young boys aged 1(july) and 3(in september) and due my little girl in december. my kids al have diffrent dads that are not involved. ANYWAYS due to my oldest.childs dad i.have social work involvement (MY KIDS ARE NOT ON THE RISK REGISTER) (also to point out im from UK/scotland) MY oldest has been going to cdc clinic child devolopment clinic, they.have been really horrible saying they dont think i can cope cause my oldest is hardly speaking and such but personally i think its autism even social work think he has a health problem social work has informed me that child devolopment clinic are good at saying crap that ive not to let it bother me, i just feel like im getting judged for being a young mother for looking young, i dont drink i dont smoke i dont go out with friends, i have homestart worker my kids and myself attend a weekly group for pre nursery group i keep a clean home im with my kids 24seven hours, im worried that they will try take my kids off me cause of the child devolopment clinic report of one assment which they had cheek to moan to my social work about not being able to do proper assesment as my toddler was too busy playing with toys any advice?

heldie1978 17/07/2015 at 11:36 pm

Can my 17 yr old be forced to go back in to care even though he refuses to?

LawAndParents Editor 16/07/2015 at 10:14 am

@Bethany. We don't have all the details but social services should have explained everything to the children's mother. If she takes all the details to a Citizen's Advice Bureau, they may be able to help explain or understand what is happening.

Bethany 12/07/2015 at 12:06 am

Hi, my three little cousins aged 9 months, two years and four years got put in temporary foffoster on wednesday due to my aunties ex boyfriend coming out of prison, he got just ov9 months for attempting to lob a brick at me and my grandma, breaking my uncles aarm with a brick and also hitting a police officer he got out of prison on Friday, social services said he's a danger to the children, bearing in mind my auntie did and gave the children everything... She was great single parent and they told my auntie to sign some paper work theyn didnt fully explain what the paper work were for and didnt give her a copy abut they took the children, I could only say bye to two of them because they took the other one straight from nursery, why would they take them if my aunties ex is the problem? Why couldn't my auntie just move away from him? Also theyve arranged a court day for the 24th of this month what would that be for? They also didn't explain. Thanks x

joan 27/06/2015 at 4:49 pm

Maybe try a tactic of prevention and education, write a book "how to raise your children successfully" and then make it a prerequisite subject in schools cause there's no way its possible, nor would any one ace it if it was achievable. It would probably be a great eye opener into life skills 101, The state could issue fines then but at least there would be understanding of the order, and second chances, cause the snatch and grab method can be recipicated, example of do what I say not what I do? Amazing how a public servents can have little to no public relation skills, and no tact, understanding or compassion. Yes there are people out there that probably are not fit to be parents, so go find those people or help children in a third world country that are dying, instead of the buirociy and making up lies about people who have been through bad times and just need a helping hand and some compassion?No just worry about the bonuses received for each child placed in care, a greedy and disgraceful exploitation of humanity, not a game when peoples lives are at hand. No wonder my confusion as to which country we reside in, cause this is not living, completely unAustralian!!! As for legal aid lol the devil that works for the devil is not going to bite the hand that feeds it. THE LAWS ARE A JOKE AND IF THEY DONT HAVE TO ABIDE BY THEM, NOR DO WE!!!

joan 27/06/2015 at 3:36 pm

Its about time we all stood up together and lodge a class action against the department. We are supposed to live in a free country and have consituitional rights to raise our children with the values and religious beliefs we choose, not have our children stolen from us with unsubstantiated claims that are based on hear say, and appear in a court that condems without proof, not decides, that's not a court it replicates the gallows where they just hang you out to die. No wonder they can't understand the trauma and mental damage they are creating in our children's heads, cause most if them are NOT parents themselves. A bunch of university students who are still studying whilst practicing to know more about being a better parent than us. No one is perfect and there isn't a handbook "How to raise a child successfully", because we all make mistakes its part of being human and learning along the way, the things you can't learn from a book, and you won't understand until your a parent and live it. We need to band together and send as many emails as possible to every parent you know, cause it may be us today, but it could be you tomorrow, in a court where they are judge, jury and exicutioner. We all band together outside our local courthouse on the morning of 4th July, and demand our own independence and freedom of rights!!! So is this a new communist country or a free Australia?? Together we can conquer.

LawAndParents Editor 24/06/2015 at 11:51 am

@Chris. A lawyer might help. Try your local Citizen's Advice Bureau first of all.

chris 19/06/2015 at 3:41 pm

Please help I just had my children removed due to my boyfriends disciplining getting out of hand. It happend once it hasn't happend since that incident and he hasnt been in the home since they made me ask him to leave . We were told he would only have to be out of the home 1 night which was a lie from the case worker than when I asked if they could help him find where to go since they didn't want him back in the home for a week all of the sudden they started saying i was putting him before my daughter as i was talking to the first caseworker another case worker rushed in my home without permission while the first case worker distracted me than got my kids and tried to take off with them without saying anything to me is this right? Also what should i do since I was told nothing by them I wasnt even given notice of removal I found it once I came back in .do I need a lawyer?

LawAndParents Editor 12/06/2015 at 12:25 pm

@Chell. Yes there's nothing to prevent you applying to the courts. You'll need to be able to provide substantial evidence of the changes in the environment you'll be providing for your son. The courts may ask for social services or CAFCASS to conduct an investigation before making a decision. Good luck

chell 08/06/2015 at 11:17 pm

My 2 children have been in foster care 6 yrs.18 month ago my son asked to move as he was not happy. That move took 3 months now my 15 yr old son is even more unhappy and asked to move again I have just been allowed home stay visits with my son and I am now living a normal life so can I apply to the courts to get him back home with me they were taken due to domestic violence but i have moved 300 miles and not seen my ex for 4 yrs I was using drink and drugs to cope with the violence but been clean 5 yr I don't no what to do and social services are useless and just don't care

Kez 20/05/2015 at 7:51 pm

Need some advice my ex and his girlfriend has had there kids taken into care but I have 3 kids with him can he still have my kids once a week still?

LawAndParents Editor 12/05/2015 at 11:13 am

@Bonnie. No if they are under care orders, you should check with social services before moving anywhere.

bonnie 06/05/2015 at 1:32 am

Both my children are on interimcare orders living with my mum .can I just take them and move away .

LawAndParents Editor 22/04/2015 at 10:24 am

@anone. Yes, changes were introduced early last year to allow this. Her foster parents should check with the local authority to find out what local provisions exist.

anone 19/04/2015 at 4:45 pm

I'm 15nearly16year old grand daughter is in care and is doing a levels she wants to go to uni and was told she can stay with her foster family till after uni and government will pay for her is this true ???

dani2015 18/04/2015 at 5:37 pm

I need some advice asap please! Im 8 months pregnant and have mental health problems i am mentally well at the minute but as soon as my babys born they want to take her away from me! They are trying to get me to give her up vouluntarly and if not threatened me with an emeregency protection order so they can take her in to care! Iv 2 other kids 1 of which in care and other with his father. I feel i should be given a chance in a residental place but they are saying its not suitable im in northern ireland. Any advice?

LawAndParents Editor 16/04/2015 at 12:30 pm

@Frustratedandconfu. Yes, until this is resolved in the courts, the local authority is responsible.

frustrated and confu 15/04/2015 at 4:05 pm

Hi my 14 year sin whi had a full care order granted in nov 2014 with only supervised access to his mother. He has now walked out of his foster placement and his staying at his mums. Bioth social services and i wont him in foster care for his own safety. She has now put claim for maintenannce through child maintneance options but he legally remains a looked after child wih a full care order. My understanding under the hikdrens act 1989 sectiin 22 b is that the local authority remain financially responsible for him unless they go back to court have have the care order resinded, is this correct?

LawAndParents Editor 16/04/2015 at 10:18 am

@dre96. You should get in contact with social services and ask them for their assistance in this matter. Usually they will do all they can to ensure a child has involvement from both parents.

dre96 15/04/2015 at 7:29 am

Hello,after my girlfriend falling pregnant to my child we were moved into thorndale a family assesment center,I had never had any involvment with ss and had a privlaged life.. So going into this (jail) as I called it was a huge eye opener for me as is the following.. My partner (16 almost 17) and me just tured (18) moved in the day before my little girl was born.. Long story short we had ups and downs and she was in and out of hospital our relationship had already been on the edge and the pressure of being parents got the better of us.. We broke up and I was forced to leave after and aledged assult witch she later admited to have lied about ina order to have some space(I understood this as I know being a mother can get quite hard even harder dealing with depression.. I got contact once a week witch lasted for 3-6 weeks after witch my ex parter couldn't manage on her own became depressed and gave up our daugher.since then I have not seen my little girl.. Admitedly I felt the guilt,pain and hurt knowing that even even tho I fully gave my all,was there more I could of done ? My ex partner has regular contact and for months I was afraid and ashamed to contact ss also became verry depressed as I'd literally lost everything ,tho consistantly enquiring about my child.. For the past while I've put my mental problems and life aside and have weekly meetings but yet havint had contact.. I've found out that I'm bi-poler.. Will this affect me getting contact ? My daughers now 9 months old I last seen her when she was 3months.. I love my daugher and I just want to be a father.. What can I do I need help!! Anyone ?

LawAndParents Editor 13/04/2015 at 10:57 am

@dodger. No this does not seem like the right form. Applying to the courts may not be the correct approach. Try to find an advocate who can negotiate with social services on your behalf. The Family Rights Group can sometimes provide this advocacy service...call their helpline - detail are on this page.

dodger 09/04/2015 at 8:38 pm

Hi there, my partner and I are trying to get her daughter out of the care of social services from a long term placement order. We have been told to fill out a C110a form to stop the order but cant find any help on how to fill this out or even if it is the right thing to be filling out as the questions on the form do not make sense for what we are trying to achieve. PLEASE HELP!!

LawAndParents Editor 01/04/2015 at 11:39 am

@Dutis. Sorry there's a lot of information for you to explain here and we can't really make sense of it. Have you been to a Citizen's Advice Bureau?

Dutis 29/03/2015 at 3:16 pm

Hi. Now I'm in a very complicated situation and much more anxious about it. The story is: I have a son who's 6 years old from my previous partner and daughter who's 19months from my 'husband'. My son has been recorded to social services before due to domestic incident with my sons father but everything has settled after they only paid one visit to my house and never came back. Afterwards I got involved foolishly with my so called pakistani husband and got daughter from him. Now when I contacted social support services for an advice about my so called husband a she's threatening me they asked me how he was treating my son while living together because he's gone since 2013 back to his country. Well I've told the truth that I was blindly in love and I know he used to be abusive towards my son and brake his toys and he used to say he's a bad man etc etc . Now after that she start asking me a lot of information, my address, school which my son attends, my GP practice etc I think I've got myself I to trouble while trying to bet an advice and protect my daughter from her being taken away by her father Incase he decides to act upon it. I've told that health visitor said I need a support and safety and that the past couple years I've been worried and anxious about my daughters health ( which she obviously has ) but medical system is different over here than in my home country. I've told that my daughters father is accusing me of being abussive and being blind etc and I've said I'm worried about my daughters protection due to him asking for an invitation to come to UK.
Now she advices me to go to the police and tell them all the same plus she said I will need to see a solicitor.
I've been bery anxious afterwards as I am too honest person at the times and this way I get myself into trouble.
But who could advice me what will happen now, will they investigate and could they be considering to take my children away and will I get informed about everything in time or what should I expect? I've been very anxious last few years due to my daughters husband putting extra stress, psychological abusiness and anxiety on me. My GP records are not the best due to me being anxious about her, doctors and health visitors already had concerns I believe
Plus school records of my son atendamce are not the most perfect too. I'm worried they will take my children away now, what should I do and how to find out what's going to happen??

Thanks in advance

sarahloo 28/03/2015 at 4:47 pm

I need some help. I have been involved with as for 3 years now. My oldest son who is now 4 was taking into to care on a volunterly basis as my partner was concert about my mental health. Cut a long story short I was diagnosed with depression and as then got care orders contact orders etc I was also 6 months pregnant at the time. When my daughter was born as got an emergency care order the day she was born I was giving a 12 weeks assessment out of my home town in to some restentsial place and that fell through. My daughter was placed in her fathers care and I no longer she her at the moment. I was then giving a second chance to be assest to have my son back. As months and months went by I heard no more Bout it till I have my consent to have a DNA test carried out the he was placed in his fathers care I am now at 1 hour once per month unsupervised. I then came pregnant again and ss done the same thing took my baby away from me. I done another 12 week assessment and all the reports were positive on my behalf. When the ground where esblished last year the judge said this was all planned before the baby was born that as was going to have my baby adopted and he said that he does not want that to happen and to make sure I get more contact and to return him back home asap. At the moment contact is 1 hour twice a week one at the contact centre and the other in his family home. I have been giving feed back sheets and they are all positive I have a panel coming up and the recommendation is contact to be for 45 mins once per weeks at centre. I have tried everything I have a soliciter and legal aid. I need and want to back as to coirt. Can I really do this????

ka11 26/03/2015 at 10:42 am

Also she's been in forster care for 3 years when can I get her bk

ka11 25/03/2015 at 12:23 pm

Hi, 3 years my little girl of 6 was abused by my eldest son's, mates,brother in my home when I was sleeping, in court yes I admitted I was drunk fell asleep, I was wrong. Ss took her from me 2 weeks later, I see her still every month and have done for 3 years and still do.
My eldest child has now moved out as his 20 years old, I live with my new partner, just found out I'm 9 weeks pregnant will they take this one from me.

LawAndParents Editor 20/03/2015 at 2:17 pm

@sabs. You need to communicate with social services, ask for counselling etc. The Citizen's Advice Bureau may be able to find you some support.

sabs 19/03/2015 at 12:27 am

Hi there my babies have been taken by ss but we have not done anything wrong i am a victim of rape and abuse for nearly 20 years but been scared to tell anyone and now they have taken my babies what can i do i need help please my babies should be home with us x

sammie 17/03/2015 at 6:57 pm

Hi I need help my daughter got taken of me by social services nearly a year ago I am with a different man now and I am 6 weeks pregnant and I'm realy scared that social are going to take this baby away from me aswell I don't have any contact with my little boy and only have 1 contact a month with my daughter both are living with there dad can someone please help me as I'm worried sick that social are going to take this baby away from me aswell thanks x

steph 10/03/2015 at 9:39 am

Hiya, I realli need some advice. When my daughter was 1 year old she got took into foster care due to unexplained bruising they said that either me or my partner had causes this and the other had known (which is totally untrue) at this time my daughter was mobile and received a bump on her cheek which resulted in a bruise when we went to Tha doctors they didn't believe us so we were reported to social services and they came and took my daughter that night. We fought through court to get my daughter home after a very lengthy process she was allowed to come home if we underwent a rehibilitation scheme which we did but that got cut short due to my then partner getting arrested at a football match and not disclosing this with Tha scheme, they then went to court to try to get my daughter put in fir adoption but the judge declined and granted my daughter to return home straight away that day as Tha social worker and the scheme admitted they did not follow the right procedures. I was just wondering where I standing on being pregnant is there a chance The social will come take my new baby once its born? Please someone help

LawAndParents Editor 26/02/2015 at 10:58 am

@NeedSupport. This would be for the courts to decide. They'd take all the circumstances into consideration including the opinion of social services and would also listen to your son's views. The final decision would however, be based on your son's best interests rather than one person's views.

Need support 23/02/2015 at 8:57 pm

Hello my son who is 12 is in tempory family foster (my abusive ex family)care the SS want to make this a permanent foster care what right do I have as his mother? When can he legally say he wants to live with me as I know this is what he wants thanks

LawAndParents Editor 19/01/2015 at 12:20 pm

@Sara. Sorry your original comment does not appear to be asking a question?

Sara 15/01/2015 at 11:22 pm

Hi lawandparents how come youve not given advice for my comment. I really need advice from someone

Sara 14/01/2015 at 1:09 pm

Hi maria i would try and speak to you but dont know how there is a way to on here and to other mums in the same boat it would be great if we could as i know how you all feel. My son is now 15 months old and still in foster care. This has been going on since he was 2 and half months old. I think the social services are just out to ruin peoples lives now

LawAndParents Editor 15/01/2015 at 2:17 pm

@Marie. Social services should be able to help you with this - contact them initially to get the ball rolling. They may want to try a few supervised visits to see how you are with your baby etc. The courts may be the ones to make the final decision.

Marie 14/01/2015 at 12:37 pm

My son was taken away from me in november 2012 at the age of 6 months and placed straight into foster care.

I took him to the doctor on the day i discovered that he had something red over his eye and a small bump on his head he was also still showing signs of a forcep delivery on his head, the doctor said everything was fine and sent me and my helper away, the reason i had a helper was because i didnt have family around me as my mum has bad legs and couldnt come to the hospital also the social worker thought i couldnt cope with him.
That evening i was changing him and there was a knock at the door the police had turned up then a few minutes later an ambulance came, i asked them if i had done anything wrong? They said no but unfortunately we will have to take your son away, when they went i called my mother obviously destraught.
That same evening the police returned and said my son was absolutely fine and gave me a ticket showing the reason for his emergency custody the ticket states "precaution due to history with social services concerns".

During this time i had a very abusive partner who was also violent but was not violent when i became pregnant however the social workers took his story that i was violent and abusive to daniel, i was nothing of the sort he had concocted the whole story no one would listen to my side of anything, i was helpless.

During the time he was being fostered i attended every contact meeting and court hearing however i couldnt face the last hearing fearing the inevitable i was so upset and so angry i didnt want to show my emotions to the court.

Now i have a new partner he is wonderful he also works and is willing to take on my son as his own, he works very hard.

Now my circumstances have changed for the better is there any way we can get the ball rolling as i am constantly worrying about daniel and desperately want him back and dont know what to do next, your suggestions would be greatfully appreciated.

Thank you
Maria

LawAndParents Editor 15/01/2015 at 11:10 am

@Smurfet. We're sorry but we don't have enough information about your case to be able to help you. We wish we could say that social services might help, but clearly they are already involved. Do you have someone else who could support you in a professional capacity such as your GP?

smurfet 13/01/2015 at 2:20 pm

hi I really need help I have cystic fibrosis and other health problems I need advise I was married to a man who use to hit me I was giving ivf and I had a baby but he got removed from birth and placed in foster I have got my husband sent to prison for it and I got a divorce and went to a safe place but they took my baby and it is 5 month on and I still don't have him back the social workers are trying to use my health now and I cant understand this in any way as I was giving ivf and my doctor had to sign the form to say I was fit to go a head I am so hurt with what has happened why did I get giving ivf and then for it to be taking it has ruined my life and my babys I had 3 attempts of ivf he was the 3rd and I lost 2 before him he is all I wanted and I would do anything for him I thought social workers were meant to help people they have not helped me in any way I have to drive 4 hours 5 days a week to see him is this right

LawAndParents Editor 08/01/2015 at 10:15 am

@Shanny. Go in and ask for a copy of the original document you signed.

Shanny 06/01/2015 at 12:26 am

Hi my 5month son is in foster care socail worker said I need to sign a form for my rent I asked to look at it and she said she was in a hurry I had a not good day that day I went to court about my ex I couldn't see my other son cos he didn't want to I think it was about my baby I asked her to send me a copy she said she have sent it out on 24 December I haven't received nowt apart from other mail but I have recorderd the conversashions and housing Wat can I do that was fraud horrible

daz 05/01/2015 at 9:29 pm

hi i was wondering if i cn get advise my daughter is involved with social services and they are maby taken her out of her mums care because she isant bringing her up right looking after her etc i am getting contact through social services atm if they decide t take my daughter of her mother is there a chance she can come into my care instead of going to care i am not on the birth certificit... thanks

gazelle 25/12/2014 at 11:48 pm

My kids were taken 5 months ago by social work in not giving up untill I get them back and do you think its right that they have split my kids even my twins and is it right for foster parents to tell my kids that they are going to be with them for a longe time and getting ma kid upset let me no thanks

LawAndParents Editor 19/12/2014 at 2:01 pm

@lora123. Sorry we cannot advise you on this as we do not have the full information but you did the right thing to report any domestic violence incidences to the police.

Sara 16/12/2014 at 11:48 am

Hi my son was taken off me at 11 weeks because of a cut to hia nose from a mothercare bottle
as being a new mum i didnt think straight away to take him to the hospital it happened at 4 in the morning when my partner was feeding him. I waited till thw monday as it happened on the saturday my health visitor come i told her what happened all she did was shout at me amd demanded i take him doctors which i did whilst at the doctors checked the cut on his nose which matched the bottle and then apparently my son had tiny yellow bruises which i couldnt see also when taken to hospital they checked him over and told me he was fine so they let us go home and had a phone call next day to ask to take him hospital again for scans they said hw had a healed 7th rib fracture obvouisly i didnt know how it happened.my partner said he fell down the stairs as the dog pushed past him whilst carrying our son.so the social have removed him from us
And from then my son was taken off me placed with my sister and hen removed from there after 7 weeks then placed with foster carers. I feel like even when we habe explanations they contamtley paint us with the same brush as people who do drugs and alcohol, me and my partner work around seeing our son in contact centres but everytime we ask to take our 14 moth old son out we always get a NO which upsets me as other parents who do drugs and alcohol are ALLOWED. I think the social services are discusting the way they treat people
they did assesments on me and my partner and said we have basic knollege of lookin after a child but we apparently dont work together as a team and i have no self confidence. They dont aee how me and my partner are outside courts,contact centre,meetings sick to death of this now. This has been going on since january thia year weve been in and out of courts mainly for nothing at all. Our social worker is a disgrace she doesnt give us a chance to be parents. The court said that bottle was an accident but the rest they say that my partner did the bruise n fall.
they are now doing a care plan for my partners parents to be a long time foster for our son. They have never given the chance to be parents. Ive even said im willing to split from my partner to get my son back but my solicitoe said that even if i did that doesnt mean id actually get him back. Were destressed and so tired our it all. Weve even got our MP involved. All iv ever wanted was a family and i had one but now the social is doing there best to not make that happen again. Ive never been so upset. All i want is my baby back. I love him ao much its killing me being away from him. Its obvouis that we hate the social services its not our fault thwy let ao many babys slip through the system when their actually getting abused.

LawAndParents Editor 19/11/2014 at 12:23 pm

@mel. Sorry we don't know enough about this case to give you a credible answer.

mel 18/11/2014 at 8:32 pm

Hi could somebody advise me about a friends case with the social service as I don't think she's told me the full story and is constantly looking for sympathy. 1year 5 month ago she developed a mental illness and left her son with a family member for 3 months. Social services then became involved and placed the boy in is fathers care who lives with is new partner. Whilst being in is fathers care the boy was put on a child protection plan because many incident s of violence to is new partner and other adults, referred to social service by police, the mother lost her home and was admitted to a mental hospital for 3 months, her mental health became stable and her mental health nurse helped her get a new home and then the mother worked with social service to regain care of her son, she did everything they asked when the father didn't eventually the mother went to seek help from a solicitor as she felt the social services was against her due to her mental health and the child was still in fathers care even tho being put on a child protection plan eventually from the help of a solicitor she regained her son in her full time care. 8 weeks of the child being in her care the child's father snatched the boy from is mum in the street. The mother phoned the police but because of parental rights couldn't take the child from the father. 2 hours later social services went to the fathers n placed the boy in the care of is aunt because the father claimed the 3 year old boy ad a scratch above is eye and the boy said is mum did it, and the social service said the boy was very unclean. The boys mum and dad was told they wasn't aloud contact in till the situation was assesed the mum claimed the scratch and dirtyness of the boy must av occurred in time the father had him. It as been 5 weeks now since the mum last saw her son and claims the social service as said the boy is to remain with the aunt as they see her a danger to her son and she is not mentally stable. Her metal health worker is saying she is mentally stable. Could anyone tell me can social service keep a child from its mother for this reason or could she be not telling the whole story.

LawAndParents Editor 10/10/2014 at 11:08 am

@beb. This is something you'll need to discuss with your social worker. Maybe somebody else reading this will have been through a similar experience and can add their comments too.

beb 09/10/2014 at 10:53 pm

My son was placed in foster care almost a year ago for not going to school and we did everything they have ask us to do and now they are trying to kept him till he is 18teen can they do that and if anyone knows can you please anwser theses ?my son was in foster care when i got in some trouble and now they want to hold him for that reason and if haven't been charged with anything yet also can Cys bring up a case in the court room that you arewaitting to go to court on could that mass my case up since Cys talked about in court please email me if anyoneknows

izzey 27/09/2014 at 6:41 pm

hi all I have been in volved with social service im back in court soon to fight again fingers crossed ill get some were --- just wanted to add im running a facebook page for all that have been involde to join together cause were not allone we all have diffrent bk ground and love our children plz join my facebook page ( livingin silence )

LawAndParents Editor 16/09/2014 at 11:00 am

@Margaret - the courts will assess all the information and make a decision based on that. If what you say is true, then a maybe suggesting an arrangement for a third party to do the pick up/drop off (or at least be present) would help?

margaret ratcliffe 13/09/2014 at 10:22 am

Hi my grandaughter has bern placed with her other gran to keep her safe from her mum and dads fighting .
the fights hapoen becouse mum has a drink and drug problemand is usually intoxicated, so when dad artives to pick up his daughter id is oftern uoset and angry with mum.
leading yo altercations and very oftetn police being called and often resulting in my son walking away before mum rings police ..thus not seeing his daughter .
there is a meeting in 2 weeks regarding these outbreaks and the safty of my grandaughter becouse of thrm .
im worried my son and the family eill end up not sering her .
could this happen .
my grandaughter is 5 and 4 year ago my son was given a shared care order by the courts becouse of the mums drink anf drug issue's.
This court order may as well be toilet paper at the moment .
What are my sons rights .

donna 05/09/2014 at 10:56 am

hi my kids live with there parternal nan shes only alowin me to see them once a year even though there dad see them up to 5 times a year even though her was violent to me n was y lost kids my daughter struggliong at min n am concernd so i need to get to see them more can i go to court

clare 29/05/2014 at 8:19 pm

hi i have 7 children 1. of my children has cancer of the blood > A.L.L a few wk ago he decided to leave me an i found him to be meeting an 18 yr old girl next he beat me up an got done with ut till then child police an social services came it turns out they took her kid a few month ago in court hes been adopted straight away cos she cant have him bk does him being with her affect me my kids cos im sure if she had anymore they wud take them to

Charlie 16/02/2014 at 7:46 am

Just been contacted by the csa! I have been divorced since july 2003.I have now been told to pay maintenance for a child who was born in May 2003 the child has been registered with a double barrel surname! I have never known about this,the ex wife was living with another man during the pregnancy &for years afterwards,what can I do? I have never been allowed to spend any time with this child.

lovindad 02/11/2013 at 6:27 am

my 4 children were put into care after an allegation about them being physically abused at home which they have not been abused what chances have me and my wife of getting our kids back home

mandy sargent 02/05/2013 at 10:32 pm

my daughter was beaten up by her ex boyfriend 4 weeks ago she has a 5 year old son to whitch gets picked up by the boys father at weekends and drops off at school never on time now the social services want to put her son up for adoption because they think shes not a fit mother for getting beaten up they wont listen to her what should she do as the son is staying with the father and doing drugs and i dont think thats right at all can you please help

TERRIE 10/03/2013 at 1:41 am

SOMEBODY PLS HELP I SCREAM BUT NO ONE LISTENS THE S.S HAVE TAKEN MY BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER AND HAD HER ADOPTED BEHIND MY BACK EVEN THOUGH I WENT TO APPEALS COURT AND WAS AWAITING NEXT HEARING BUT THEY KEPT ALL PAPER WORK FROM NE AND SAID THEY DIDNT HAVE TO NOTIFY ME OF HER BEING ADOPTED EVEN THOUGH SHE S 9YRS OLD AND DOESNOT WISH TO HAVE ANOTHER MUM AS SHE WANTS MI WANT HER AND THEY STOPPED US SEEING EACH OTHER WHILST THEY TRIED TO INDOCTRINATE HER MIND INTO WHAT THEY WANT COZ LACK OF MONEY IN MY AREA BARNET L A I HAVEN T SEEN HER FOR A YR TO HERS AND MY DISSTRESS ONLY ME TO FIGHT THEM AND THEY BULLY PARENTS WHO ARE ALONE PARENTHEY ARE ALLOWED TO GET AWAY WITH THINGS BECAUSE WAY LAW PROTECTS THEM HIDE BEHIND ITTO REACH THEIR QUOTAS

momoffive 28/01/2013 at 1:42 pm

Two of my childern are on an intrem care order and im due in 3 weeks but my social worker hasnt told me What plan She has for my unborn child im fightin though court to get my two sons back dhould I be worried What is goin to happen my baby has im being kept in the dark Can someone help me has its stressing me out reali bad

Ducky 19/12/2012 at 2:57 am

Hi my 15 week old daughter has been in foster care since birth me and my parter are fighting to get her back I never singed any paper for her to be there and be carouse I had my 2 sons adopted 4 years ago cos I was in a violent relation ship social sevices are lOoking for her to be adopted and I dnt think that is right I used to have depretion but I dnt now my partner is on a mager come done cose of all this as he is a first time dad can some one please help us out please

concerned friend! 21/10/2012 at 12:06 pm

im asking on behalf of a friend, she had her 5 children taken into care on the grounds of neglect n is fighting for them to come home. However, she feels like shes fighting a loosing battle, she has contact with them every ................. and has never missed a session. they are with temporary forter carers at the moment and the guardian and social worker said they will be moved into long term foster care and this will result in less contact, being once every 2 months! she needs to know her rights about contact and feels the social services can not reduce her contact by so much, please can you tell me what the minimum contact is? thank you!

legal*learner444 26/09/2012 at 9:27 pm

MUMOV3 ~ Hope you get to read this, as it was posted a while ago.
Hope it went well with the solicitor?!
Not sure of the circumstances of why there were taken from you, but I hope you get them back soon.
Stay in contact with the solicitor and ask questions. Keep notes of any meetings with SS and remember that you have rights. If you have one, you are instructing your solicitor to a point, if you're not happy with anything that happens, tell them.
If you don't have one, you need mediation with your ex, so that contact can be resumed with the children. You should have parental rights, so you need to know everything that happens with them and they should not be excluding you, unless you/they have a valid reason to do so? Only you and they know that.
Be honest with yourself and make changes if you have to, you know what they are if there are any. Good Luck

legal*learner444 26/09/2012 at 9:15 pm

upset mum ~ again, not sure if you will get this as it was posted in August and what might have happened since.
Get a solicitor, and stay strong hun, get friends and family to write letters for you to state your good character. Ask your GP for help too, he will have records which you have access to which may prove your innocence and or character.
Take notes at any and every meeting you have, so you can refer back. SS should be giving you copies of any documents which they have about your child too, if you don't have them, ask for them, and minutes from every meeting you have had with them too.
You will have your day in court if they want to remove her permantantly. Never give up, even at your lowest ebb, just believe you can make changes and be positive, it's not over til the fat Judge sings hun, good luck xoxox

legal*learner444 26/09/2012 at 8:33 pm

faron ~ have you consulted a solicitor? If there are any issues that you know you need to address, be honest with yourself and sort them out. Keep engaging with ss, but you need to also keep yourself up to date on everything that is happening. Your ex-partner I presume is on the birth certificate, so may have legal rights, but in the same vein, if he has a criminal record, for whatever reason, he will have more work to do that you, having to prove that he can stay crime free. So you have an advantage on that score.
Your son is a perfect age for adoption, but it's not over yet! Keep all appointments is important, asking questions and taking notes of each meeting is also important. Keep a record of key points made in every appointment, in case you need to refer back on anything. You can ask SS for minutes of every meeting you have with them, but they are pretty scant on detail.
I am a bit saddened to see that no one else is bothering to support or even try to answer and questions on here!! Even if it's only moral support ppl, it's something, and you could talk to each other too!
Hope that helped a little Debbie, and good luck! Just never give up, even if they say you have no chance, you will still have a chance to have your say in court, so it's never too late!!

legal*learner444 26/09/2012 at 8:19 pm

lisa abigails mum ~ you have answered a lot of your own questions hun. If you were reading that from a friend of yours, you would tell them to get help, start at your gp. You are slipping back, even though you know there have been times when, with support from ss, you have been able to show that you can be an excellent Mum. That time, at New Year, when they signed you off and were confident you could be, remember that time, and that is your goal. Do what you know you have to, to get back there!!
Now, one thing I do have to say is, no child is better off without their Mum, no-one can love her like you do, no-one knows her like you do, no-one would do whatever it takes to protect and keep her safe like you would!!! Life is messy and sometimes we loose our focus, which is what I feel has happened here. Your focus is your child, she comes first, you come second and your partner comes last, because he's a man and can look after himself if he has to, as all men do at times. Re-focus and set yourself, and your partner, targets, get help, work together to sort your lives out. If you have what it takes, and you do, do what you have to do, reach out, ask for help, keep appointments with everyone. Change it around now. You are a survivor, not a victim!!! Tell yourself everyday, Abigail comes first. Good luck hun xoxox

faron 10/09/2012 at 1:00 am

My son who is nearly 19months old and has been in care since he was 12months old. He is on a interim care order and i am fighting to get him back. My ex was violent and left our alone when he was 9months old. I split from my ex when my son was only a few weeks old. My ex has stated he wants my son to stay in care. But i have been told that he now wants to get trendy recently. I have on plans to go back to my ex. I am awaiting results me parenting and physiological assessments. I have been on a domestic violence course. Having one to one work. Still social services are staying my son could be adopted. Given to his dad or he may come back to me. Please does anyone have any advice i have always looked after my child and love him so much

Debbie

loving mother 26/08/2012 at 10:57 am

my 2boys have been in my mothers care for 16mth see cares for them great but has my young brother of 6years also the social works sai because i was in a violent relationsdhip with a man not their father i was utting the kis ind anger i was aske to lace them volantery in my mothers care for a few weeks to revent them getting lace in care i i that for the kids i did every thing asked of me and they still stopped tyhe kids coming home i have been involved in a few relationships where i have now turned to drink and valium to blockvourt the pain of missing my babies ive tried taking my own life several times i am going tothe social work every day but no one is ever their to speak to me im wondering atround lost alone and crying out for help i need my i boys back my mum has also has tried telling them she will support me shes been great an also ha very little contact with social workers they have never supporte hetr either

upset mum 10/08/2012 at 11:06 pm

hi i have a 10 month old daughter who has been taken into care becuse she has been hit by her father really bad which left marks on her body and now am in frame of child neglect my ex patner baby father has been charged with child crulty and four acounts of assults on me but he has been making allegations on me...... what shal i do?

CONCERNED GRANNY 05/08/2012 at 6:03 pm

My 17 year old daughter has a 4 month old daughter who is on the child protection list as my daughter was a section 20 under social services care. When my daughter was 7 months pregant she returned to live with me ,initially she did very well providing and getting preapred for her unborn child. When my grandaughter was 5 weeks old my daughter and her parnter spilt up ,thats when things started to become worse . My daughter moved into her own property when her child was 3 months old,since then i have noticed a dramatic change in how my daughter is with her child. I am very concerned that my daughter finds it hard to provide ever day essentails like baby milk, nappies ect for the baby, spending all her dwp money on god knows what but shes always pennieless. . My poor grandughter has not one single toy, she sleeps in a travel cot ,she has no pram because my dasughter has sold it ,basically my grandughter has nothing. I help all i can by sending grocery deliverys every other week, i buy nappies and she collects milk tokens ,so my daughter has all the benefit money to herself. One day after receiving almost £200 in benefits, my daughter rings me telling me she has no baby milk and no money to get any and she has lost her milk tokens. I am extremely worried about my grandughters welfare but feel i am unable to contact social services with my concerns incased they remove the child. I have told my daughter i will take the child until she has sorted herself out but she has refused to allow me to do so . I need some advise as a matterof urgencey to prevent my grandughter being neglected any further. Please help

MUMOV3 03/08/2012 at 2:21 pm

Social work recently put my 3 kids into the care temporary care of their father, they r not keeping me involved in any decisions that will be made and threatening me with child protection orders if i request access. Does anyone know what their procedure is and mainly what my rights are? I have a children and family lawyer and have my 1st appt today. If i get any further forward i will put an update up for any one else in my position. I haven't saw my kids 6, 5 and 2 for 3 weeks and it is killing me. I think it is a disgrace how they can put the kids into his care when he has never played a proper active role in their lives, although i am very grateful they are not in LA care.

annie 02/08/2012 at 6:08 pm

My son is almost 16, he has been section 20 voluntary accomodated since 2005, his current placement is due to end imment. My son is unaware of this & s.s say if I attempt to take him out of care they will apply for a care order, as he still has work to do around behavioural issues. His contact was cut considerably some 4yrs ago in order to help him with his therapy...s.s want to tell him when another placement is ready that he is moving in order to prepare him to return home next year. I am concerned for his emotional well-being,as he may see this as a rejection by me...& given the fact that I have asked for him to return home s.s say it is not going to happen despite my sons wish would be to return home. Please can anyone help? I dont know where to turn to as care orders if granted to s.s will remain in place until he is 18. Thanks.

champ 26/07/2012 at 5:48 pm

My son found out 2 months ago that he had a son. The baby was taken from his mother at birth and put under LA care. The mother won't be allowed to have care of the baby, and now my son has to undergo SS assessments etc.
If he had known about the baby before he was born, my son would probably have been able to bring him home from hospital. But now he is in "the system" and has to prove that he will be a good father. The baby was not taken away from my son (as he was not in the picture at the time). Does my son have any rights as the natural father, or do we have to wait for the LA to complete everything at their slow pace? We do not want to have the baby adopted.

twindad 04/07/2012 at 11:36 pm

Hi, my ex and i split 8 months ago, i really didn't want her to take our two year old twin boys but she promised that she would look after them and i trusted her enough to do so even though she was diagnosed with depression. Turns out she was seeing another man at the time and ended up with him living with her and the kids. She had never denied me access and i pick them up to stay at mine every weekend. Her new partner was released on bail for drug offences 3 months ago and i have recently had to ring the police as he had beaten her in front of the kids. Found out that this wasnt the first time it happened aswell. I have not returned the kids to her as yet as i'm seriously concearned that he will be back as she dropped the charges against him and swears that it is over between them. He was very controlling and never allowed her to send me texts or calls. She never informed me that he would be looking after them on her late shifts at work which she promised she wouldn't let happen. she lost her friends and even her parents gave up on her because of her strange decisions which kind of made her worse. She has had her anti depressants dose increased a few months back which had no effect as she was drinking heavy with him all the time aswell. I let her stay with me for a few nights when she had a split from him before just to help her out and make sure the kids were ok just after christmas. The day i picked them up from nursery, i was told by a memeber of staff that the boys had been very restless and not themselves, they wouldnt even go near their grandad which i found very odd as they loved him to bits. I really don't know what to do, she can be a great mum, i just dont want the kids in that environment, worries the hell out of me. We are speaking now trying to sort out what to do, she obviously wants them back and i would like to give them back if i could trust her, but i don't. She has told too many lies and has put them in a nasty position that no child should have to see. I feel i'm doing wrong by her but i can't think of it like that. Our kids are priority and i just want them settled and happy. I have really been reasonable through the whole thing, but where do i draw the line and say enough is enough? This could be my only window in making sure the kids are settled, if they go back and she ends up with him again she would not admitt to the violence if it it risks her losing the kids.

maz33 23/06/2012 at 9:05 pm

hi my oldest son will be 17 on the 1st of july this month and has been in care in england since 2004 i stay in scotland he wants to come live with me if he just turned up at at my door would he been send back to england he has a court order till hes 18 any help would be much appricated thanx

kev 18/06/2012 at 4:48 pm

Social services have found an adoptive family for my daughter and i have got to do everythink i can to stop this as i never got my say in court they have lied and took my daughter under false pretencess.
They havent even let me see her since november last year and i need all the help to get her back as she is not a cheque book because thats all they are interested in.

minwee 07/06/2012 at 11:06 pm

hi,

a friend of mine has had their 8month old daughter taken into care. father has mental health issues and mum has mild learning difficulties. they are both loving caring people. there are no issues with either drink or drugs. father was abused by his family. social services have no said they are going to have their daughter adopted. this is killing my friends. i want to help them but don't know how. can you help?

many thanks

jennie

name adel 07/05/2012 at 10:02 am

i would like to fight custody of my kids cause social services took them off of me how do i go about taking custody while my kids have got guardianship orders i should still be able to get my kids back

Black hair 23/04/2012 at 6:09 pm

My problem with social services started last yr when when i placd my kids with my sister so far she har continued 2 make life very hard working against me at any givin turn my kids have expressed an interest in more contact over a year,s period i can only still have contact 3 hours a month how do i make my social wrker c this is a personal grudge nothing 2 do with the care of my kids

loving mum 28/11/2011 at 9:52 pm

i had two little boys with a man that i have recently come out of a 5 year relationship with he turned into a physically and mentally abusive heroin addict for the last three years i'm with another man now a loving father and we have a baby boy but when i fled the domestic violence and moved away i left my boys in the care of my ex partner assuming he would manage taking them to school and basic care needs as he had done this in my presence even with everything else going on as i wasnt really certain about where i was going to live and not wanting to disrupt my childrens school lives i made this decision social services deemed him unfit to look after the children and as i still hadn't sorted out a house they talked us into signing the children over to there paternal grandparents temporarily now they are trying to get full time residence of my children i have since got a 4 bedroom house with the help of my new partner in the hope that we can get them back our independant social worker is making a recommendation that the kids stay with there grandparents what can we do to turn this recommendation there is no risk to the children there is no evidence of mistreat by myself so why would this be happening and how can i stop it.

sare420 26/10/2011 at 6:21 am

my children were made subject of a child protection plan due to my mental health issues, they were temporarily placed in the care of my mother, this was a volutary arrangement and i have always had parental responsibility for them. My youngest daughter has now been returned to my care an my son has been told he can return next week. I want to know if Social Services can insist that my mother cares for the children one night a week because they are sayin as part of the new protection plan this must happen. I dont want my mother havin the children, can social services insist upon this or not? thanks

legs 11 09/09/2011 at 5:09 pm

me and my husband have split up 6 years ago i got full access to my 5 children by the courts but three year ago i was tormented by my ex husband and tried to kill myself with an over dose my husband removed my kids from my mothers care as i was in hospital when i came out of hospital it was said by the courts that i could see my children once every two weeks once supervised by my sister but she let me down i so want to see my children but my ex husband wont allow this to happen he is very abusive towards me and use's the children just to hurt me what can i do

concerned realative 02/08/2011 at 2:32 pm

My brothers children are on the at risk register, mainly because their mother has severe anxiety tendencies and Social Services have deemed that the children are suffering as a result of this. recently My brother has been informed by social services that the children may be taken into care as the mother is unfit and the father is unable to manage his wifes anxieties. I am trying to help him in everyway that I can, could you please offer some advice as to what course of action he needs to take in order to keep his children.
regards
Keith

proud dad 23/06/2011 at 11:39 am

i found out that i had a son last year and at the time he was in voluntary care by his mother sayin so,i have fought to get my son and of jan this year he came to live with me afta all the stuff i had to do for the social services.now there coming of with all sorts of crap and im worried that they will take him.with my son bein in voluntary care at the time has that now stopped once he has come to live with me as it was his mother who agreed to the voluntary care and i can i tell the social to get lost as he isnt in care no more and lives with me,any help on this would be great

Angry Parent 01/04/2011 at 9:36 am

My ex-partner has made no attempt to see his son for over 15 months, I moved away from the city he lives in, he does not help me financially he never has and he now wants to take me to court. I have never said he can't see our child - he just won't make the effort to travel.