My husband left me for another married woman with 2 children under the age 3. We have two childen together, aged 6 and 8. It has only been 4 months and the children are still reeling from it.
He now wants them to meet his new partner. I have said no because of the situation and I think it selfish and unfair to bring our children into this horrible affair.
Even though I have told him I don't want them meeting her, he will do it behind my back.
Have I any legal rights to say that my husband can only see the children if I am present?
I am assuming from your question that the children live with you and that legal divorce proceedings have not yet been started.
As the children’s father, your husband almost certainly has Parental Responsibility for the children in legal terms. This means that he has a right to have a say about the children’s upbringing and welfare. Your husband is entitled to see the children and it is not really up to you to say how those meetings should be conducted.
By stipulating that he can only see the children while you are present, you are obviously affecting the relationship he can have with the children. If he does not agree with your demand, you cannot force him to comply. If you prevent him from having access to the children at all, he will have to go to court and apply for an order which forces you to give him access. Alternatively, you could go to court and apply for an order that sets conditions on the access your husband has to the children.
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Try our Parental Rights Checker free, here on this site →To prevent your children meeting your husband’s new partner, you could apply for a Prohibited Steps Order under the Children Act 1989. You would have to convince the court that it is in your children’s best interest not to meet your husband’s new partner because she would have an adverse influence on them. Your question does not mention any specifics in this respect other than your natural unhappiness about the circumstances. Going to court is not a decision to be entered into lightly and will almost certainly add to your children’s distress.
It does seem that your husband is not being very responsible and is rushing things by wanting the children to meet a new partner so soon after the end of your relationship. How does he know that this new relationship will last? Is it fair on the children to introduce a new person into their lives while they are still trying to come to terms with the huge upheaval they have experienced?
Although I am sure that it is hard for you to talk to your husband calmly, perhaps you could encourage him to read some guidance on introducing new partners to children. If you can persuade him that you are only thinking of the children’s best interests – and not stopping them from meeting the new partner out of spite – he might be prepared to listen.
If you cannot reach an agreement with your husband, you will almost certainly have to consult a solicitor to discuss the legal options open to you.
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Young mum to make sure my baby always feels happy beautiful and confident, her saying this broke my heart. The dads girlfriend and her friends are anonymously texting me abuse and the girlfriend herself doesn’t even bother to block her number.. she just sends abuse and then blocks me, whilst my daughter is in her card. It’s been 2 years of complete and utter disrespect from this over grown child woman and I’m stressed as my daughter is in her company every other week.
I need help. I need help deciding what is best for my daughter, and I need to know what the boundaries are on 1-2-1 contact as I don’t want her around my child. Do I have any jurisdiction?
She has laughed in my face, tried to intimidate one of my sons, she is now putting things on social media before my children were told by there dad he is with her. Her and my husband were all over each other outside my house with my eldest son there and my youngest son watching from his window. They both did not care what this was doing tk my children. I have a five year old daughter who I do not want to be around her, because she is young enough for my husbands girlfriend to mentally control and abuse, to also do what she done with her ex children and get on her head. My husband knows all this about her but now he is sleeping with her he doesn’t seem to care and wants her around them. I’m now under mental health, anxiety and depression and become very ill due to the calls I got from her and messages I had received from her, the being around my property so I can see her, just pure mental torture. My two eldest boys want nothing to do with her because they know what she is like and have seen and heard stuff for them selves and they also don’t want there sister around there dads girlfriend. I’ve now filed for a divorce and this is the only think I have asked for and that is for her to never have contact with my children.
If he has my children around her before we end up in court can I stop visitation untill court?
It has been my suspicion my child has been verbally, mentally and at time physically abused by this man but without Evidence it was my word against theirs. Today these suspicions have been confirmed and I want to do everything in my power to keep this man away from my child.
I need to know exactly what Route to take to make this happen legally and indefinitely, because with my son being abused I feel if I try to handle this myself I will end up in trouble. What do I do know to safeguard my son and stop this man being around him, considering the complication of my sons step-siblings and his right as their farther to be around them.
I want to stress my ex has informed me she has every intention to support me with this, and I feel I need to move fast before he gaslights her into thinking this was all her fault as he has in the past.
His ex who is now his partner is nothing but a compulsive liar, she is toxic, she is an unfit mother as I have seen situations with my own 2 eyes for example when we use to pick his son up his son was basically neglected, his nails were always thick with dirt, he has nits every single time, I’d get rid of them and the following weekend he would have them again (he wasn’t in nursery at this time). His clothes were never clean and she’d turn her phone off when it came to the day of getting him back also on one occasion his bottom was that sore it was bleeding and cut. My ex sat and told me absolutely loads of things about his ex but now that he is back with her he is saying that my daughter will have to be around her also she is saying the same thing. I don’t ever want anyone like that around my children also I don’t want strangers around them either. I will go to the end of the earth for my children. Each and every time I am trying to get somewhere with this and explain to him that she won’t be present in my children’s life he jumps the gun and threatens me. I feel like I am constantly going around in circles. It’s frustrating and draining for me.
I read your comment, never send your little one with the stranger, it is your right to know who is she, and what is she before sending your baby with her. I'm happy for you, keep up the good work, sure you will be a very good and special mother to your baby. Take care of your self and your daughter Bella.
Regards
Khadi
She is a well known alcoholic and drug addict. She's been told that one more drink will kill her. So we were hoping she'd sort herself out. But every time we see his son he's dirty, smelly and this last time he was infested with MONTHS worth of nits. Which he transferred to all of us, including our 4 month old baby! She knew full well he had nits but didn't tell us. She also knew full well that my baby was born with a thick head of hair.
She has been involved with social services for worrying behaviour reported by the school, her own father and countless anonymous reports. So I know if we wanted full custody it wouldn't be a problem. But we don't want to go down that rout unless absolutely necessary.
I wanted to know how visitation rights worked. Obviously she has no right to stop him seeing me as I pose no threat or detrement to him. But wanted to know, if we went through the court, would we have to do it each time we wanted to see him or is it a one time thing? Also, how is it upheld? Can she refuse after a court has made a decision? Its all really messy and I just want to know what our options are. Also, is it expensive?
Looking for some advice,
Little background- my ex emotionally abused me many years ago, I finally had the courage and strength to leave. Four years we have been split we have a 7 and 5 year old. He got into a new relationship was with her almost three years, however their relationship was very very toxic, they were toxic to each other, violence, verbal abuse, financial abuse, emotional abuse which had a detrimental affect on my children’s emotional and mental well being as you could imagine.
She left him with his child best thing she ever did my children started to become more happy n relaxed n chilled out etc. then he decided to work his way back to me I told him no. I fear he has gone back to her which is fine but I can not have my children around them two ever again.
And advice on this would greatly appreciated.
5months later I find out that this new woman has been in contact with my eldest s school.
Should school be speaking with her ? Can I stop this happening as I still do have parental responsibility for my child?
Can I stop them moving in with her?
I dnt know who she is .
This is surely going to effect my son and other children .
What can I do ?
Hes been with her 4 months and wont stop pestering me to introduce his daughter to his new girlfriend, I have said to wait until 6 months but hes making arrangements that I dont agree to and feel like I'm being backed into a corner. Is there any legal advice I could get? I'm not saying never, just not now.
Many thanks Sharon
On a very brief return to "try and patch things up" with my daughter, he told my daughter that his mistress had mental problems.
He has gone back to his mistress and has now started involving her in the children's lives. We are very concerned about the influence this women will have on the children.
Do we have enough grounds to be successful in gaining a "Prohibited step order" to stop her ex allowing their children from associating with this women?
In the last two weeks they have both started new relationships. His new girlfriend has had some personal issues and involved with a suicide of her partner last year. As a family we know my daughters boyfriend as he is a family friend. He has been wonderful with the baby and made my daughter a very happy person.
My daughter has asked that her ex partner gets to know the baby before introducing him to his new partner. He know believes that we are preventing him seeing the baby. This is not the case as the last time he saw the baby, the baby was very distressed as he did not know his father as he has kept away for 3 months. he doesn't accept the fact that we are trying to ensure the baby doesn't get distressed and he enjoys his time with his father.
The baby spends time with his fathers parents (grandparents) on a weekly basis as we want to ensure the baby grows up with all his family members.
We have thought about self referring to a contact centre for supported contact.
TIA
Any advice?
Thanks in advance
My husband wants to take our two young children to see the relative, but I think this would traumatise them and have said 'no'. Both out children are autistic and thus are of a delicate composition. Seeing someone they knew who now has a serious disfigurement and who is likely to 'blow their top' will, I think, cause them undue anguish and pain that they needn't suffer.
However, my husband has done things to/with the children in the past when I have said 'no', so I suspect he'll go ahead behind my back anyway.
Is there any legal way I can prevent my children from being taken to see this person without my permission?
My partner was abusive with me and finally hit me so I called police and they took her arrest and after relaeased on bail
Now I have a my nearly one year daughter with her who have birthday soon in a few weeks time
This woman don’t let me see her any more not even on video call
And I m scared that what if she don’t let me celebrate her birthday also
Any suggestion which can be quick help for me?
I did try to ask her yesterday to let me see her but she refused
Also in back ground
My partner already been divorced and have 2 kids from there
Elder kid was 11 and small was 9 she was not right with her elder one so her dad took away from her
Now that child is totally spoil too
Kindly advise me some one how to tackle my situation as I don’t believe this woman that she will treat my daughter right I m scared what if she take my revenge from her
Thanks
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1. Wants the address
2. List of people who will be in the house(living arrangements) while his children visit. Including my ex’s name as he drops my children off occasionally!
3 she doesn’t want them left alone in a room with my children, strangers (people she doesn’t know clearly) my partner should be present at all times.
4 that she wants to be kept up to date during visitation of their well-being
Allowed to talk to children as and when she wants and likewise they can contact her.
What is your advice?
My mum is divorced from my dad, I have a good relationship but I considered Peter to be more of a father to me than my dad ever was.
Peter had no will. He had no children and had never married. His parents are dead and he was an only child, it also appears that both of his parents were only children.
His estate is worth roughly £500,000. Am I entitled to anything?! help
Then after 3 months went by he came to me again saying how he made a massive mistake and loves me so yet again like a fool I gave another change we have a little girl I just wanted my family back but then to find out he had slept with thq and girl again and been lying again ! My little girl had seen me and her dad spending time as a family it has affected me so bad I can’t habr my little girl around this women just yet what must be going through my baby’s mind seeing 2 woman with her dad ! Well me as her mom then another woman ... what can I do ?
Thank you x
So just to clarify if he wants to remarry she can't use the children i.e. Say that she won't let him see them if he does??
Thanks
I have been seeing someone for almost two years who is divorced however every time he tries to talk to his ex about moving on with his life she threatens him with her not letting him see the kids or taking them abroad.
I know he has access rights and has them every other weekend. I have told him to speak to his solicitor but have been told he already has and they say there is nothing he can do.
As I am not aware of the law is there anything to stop her? Or am I being played like a mug? Surely an ex cannot influence what you do in your personal life and certainly not use the children in such a disgraceful way?
I really hope you can help me
Regards
silva
I feel this is to much up heavel for kids especialy on school nights
Have i got rights to limit visits to only when he is available ?
her husband for about a year and a half.
And have separate homes. I have been friends with her for several years prior and they have 2 kids together.
He has moved on and has a girlfriend who she herself has two children. All of which spend time together with her kids and theirs.
He has recently found out that me and his ex (mother of he children ) are dating, he has banned me from being allowed anywhere near their children or having any contact with them at all, he has been able to give no reason for this other then he just doesn’t want me to, me and the kids get on and never had any issues other then when he has told them they will be in trouble for even being at the same event, park or anything to do with me so they get scared to be around me.
My partner and mother of them has tried to reassure them that they are not together and he has no reason to say what he does , that I am not a threat and they are not doing anything wrong in wanting to play a game or say hello or be at the same place as me.
I have never tried to get in the way of their parenting and have always kept in my place within that.
I hate that the kids are being used against me and that they are the ones getting hurt I’m this, especially when my partner has been ok with him and his new partner and the other kids all spending time together and has no idea who the woman is.
Where does she stand on this, what can be done, I know it’s not fair that he has involved other kids and a new partner and does what he likes but I who have been a friend and known by the kids for a few years and they know I am safe is getting banned and being spoken about so badly that they kids don’t know what to do.
What is right and wrong in this ?
Now he continues to bring my daughter round her, who she once knew as her auntie. My daughter often comes home saying they have told her ‘I’m a liar and a bad person’.
I’ve tried talking to him and her about not having her around her but they keep going against my wishes.
What would be the next step?
Is there a legal way to keep her from seeing my nephew? My sister has tried everything, but cannot seem to find a legal way to do so.
Now that she has been with me for a few days she says she doesn’t want to go home and I don’t blame her.
Is there anything I can do?
Do I have to send her home or can she stay with me for time being until everyone calms down?
Is there anything she can do to stop the kids spending time round former mutual friends when he has them. She is worried they are having a negative impact on the kids. It is apparent in their change in behavior towards her.
My partner has children of his own and is a loving father, there are no reasons why he should not be around our daughter.
My husband says he will get a prohibited steps order to stop him if needed but I don't see he has any grounds.
He admitted to taking our child (between the ages of 2 and 3) with him regularly to this woman's house when he was visiting her to conduct their affair. He has also admitted that this woman uses cocaine recreationally although he doesn't believe this is a problem but I do find it a problem.
I do not want this woman to have further contact with my child or my unborn child once I have delivered later this year. Her cocaine use concerns me greatly and I do not want my child(ren) confused (My husband has said several times he would rather be single than with her or anyone so I don't believe this relationship would last anyway).
Are these reasonable grounds to apply for a prohibited steps order to prevent this woman being around my children? Thank you.
Do I have any legal right to stop this happening?
In 2014 my wife embarked on an affair.
Within days she had brought the man in the house. He was very jealous of my kids mum having a relationship with me , they had a very volatile relationship and would split up every couple of weeks.
On one occasion he stalked her to a friends house , and burst into the house to find me .he then followed her home and insisted searching the house where my kids were to look for me, ( my kids weren't home at the time) after searching once, he then tried to kick the door in , and was subsequently charged for criminal damage. Another time he attacked me at the front door of where my kids live and I got arrested for attacking him, 3 months on remand and found not guilty ( I don't have a criminal record).
After the court case he tried to attack me in , whilst in my car with my 7 year old son.this was reported to the police.
Another occasion, he wasn't in a relationship with my kids mum, but one evening I picked my daughter up at one in the morning from a concert and took her home, just after we walked into the house my wine started receiving abuseive and threatening texts, we called the police to report this and they spoke to him in and told him that if he was seen near the house he would be arrested.
10 months later my ex wife had got back with him. Can I stop this man being anywhere near my children
I separated from my partner coming up 4 yrs I have since moved on and my ex partner is making things hard she had always dictated I can only have my son 1 night a week but that took well over a year to get that allowed I have 6 months took a job that I have to work away on a weekly basis I still have my child once a week lately he started wanting to go home to his mam cause he says he misses her...we both agreed when we moved on we wouldn't introduce our child to a new partner untill we had been in a steady relationship for 6 months I have now been dating my partner for over 6 months now she saying he can't meet her or her family because he started wanting to go home to her the nights he was ment to be stopping....tried reasoning with her and after a long back and forth process I get a message that she makesaid all decision in his life I don't get to choose when my new partner meet my son because he lives with her she will tell me when it's can happen....what can I do about this
We moved from Germany ( after the divorce) to Scotland, with the fathers permission and in the divorce papers it is said that they live with me.
My ex ( because of work) moved to England 4 years ago. For 3 years he hadn't seen his daughters. He now has a new family ( as said on social media it is great to be a first time dad).
21/2 years ago my new partner and me were thinking about for him to adopt the girls. Sadly did we have a few difficulties and now live separated but work hard on our relationship. The kids see him as their daddy and not really want to talk or see their birth father. HE was rather nasty to them also saying he'd rather go on holiday then seeing them.
He also left it to his German sister to tell my oldest daughter ( in front of a shopping centre) that she had a half brother now.
To make a long story short.
I needed to apply for a passport for the girls as theirs were obsolete. My ex is making things as awkward as possible as I need his signature as well on the forms. We only want to visit my and his family ( my daughters grandparents) and to be able to leave the borders we need the passports.
Would it be possible to receive sole custody or something similar which makes it possible for me to make these decisions on my own?
IT is pure spite that he is not granting me this. He enjoys as he says that I still have to ask his permission to go on holiday.
We're are both part of a parenting group called sps were other single parents and there children was there and yes I am a single parent to my now 2 yr old son who I won full custody of in July were a section 37 was completed and all went in my favour.
I have a daughter from a previous to my son's mum she is 10 and mother has stopped contact because we can't agree on the amount of time I should spend with her so it's in court but at present I see her every Sunday for 4 hours.
Now my partners ex is saying I am a danger to his children one lives with him who has very complex needs and the other with my partner I have never meet the child with special needs or her ex partner.
The other son was introduced to me through a single parents group we did it this way to make sure our kids get on and with each parents we hit of straight away and the kids did to we did a few more meets before we meet alone together with the kids the bond has grown to were my partners son is saying this is how a family should be.
Now my partner is in court with him saying I am control abusing his son and controlling his ex ? So he is asking for a prohibited steps order to stop me seeing the children Is this possible plus me and my partner and son are moving into mine and we are engaged to be married in 2018 July plus he has reported his concerns to social services in my area and my partners in my partners are they did an assessment over 2 months to where they came back and stated they have closed it with no concerns in my are I received a letter from lado SS stating they are melicous lies and no action to be taking he has had Clair's law done on me and Sarah's law both came back clean I am gd single farther and supported my partner through this she has doctors and councillor letters stating she received mental abuse from him and I have a crime number for harrassement against her ex this about breaking us both up and having control of my partner could someone advise if we should break up for children and should not be together we are so happy and so are the children but this man is putting everyone on edge please please advise
I have been separated from my ex partner for over three years he had an affair with a woman almost twenty years younger with a son a similar age to our son we had together. I am in no way bitter about the affair or our relationship ending.
My concern is purely for the welfare of how my child is being treated when he is at their house, he has come home over the last three years with injuries, the worst being a smashed tooth, a full bruise to the whole of his cheek and side of his face and recently a cut and bruised eye. The injuries are from his dad's partners son hitting him.
My ex sometimes lies or dismisses the injuries as accidents but my gut feeling tells me he is being picked on and his dad and partner call him names when he is there, my son is loving and caring and he is a little withdrawn or angry when he comes home from being at their house. But I do know on the rare occasions he's had any time alone with his Dad or his Dad's mum he comes home happy.
I haven't done anything about it as I know the law is I have no say and my ex can take him where he wants to when my son is in his care but I am so afraid that my son and her son are not being supervised or my son is just being allowed to be hurt.
I don't want to stop my son seeing his Dad but the thought of him getting hurt more seriously and me not having a say or being there to protect him is making me ill.
I have asked my ex to just have Dad and son time together (he only sees him twice a week for a few hours by choice) and keep him away from his partners house and her son, he says I can't stop that and it's none of my business, I am so concerned for my sons safety
Is there any advice you can give me please, my son is just six years old.
Thank you
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I've been with my partner for nearly two years now and I'm currently expecting a new baby that will be here in April. My partner has two children from his previous relationship and the woman despises me. She has never met me but has made mine and my partners life hell for the past two years with continued lies and horrendous hate campaign. She has never allowed me to meet the children and has ensured that my partner only has his children every other weekend at his mothers house. Things got so bad with her behaviour that he picks the kids up from her mums in south London. He drives from Portsmouth (where we live) to South London to collect them from her mums and then on to Kent to his mums to have them for the weekend. He then drives back from Kent to London and then on to Portsmouth back home on a Sunday. We would love for the kids to spend the weekends with us as an extended family, for them to know my daughter and for them to be involved In the pregenancy and to be a part of their new brother or sisters lives. It's heart breaking because she has told the kids that daddy has chosen me and a new family over being at home with them, when it was actually her that had an affair and made my partner move out. She has also got her mum, who mediates between my partner and herself to say that's it's unrealistic to think that his children will ever be a part of our family or play a role in their siblings lives. The kids are 7 & 11 but as far as I'm aware he is not on the birth certificate as she wanted to claim benefits as a single person when the kids were born to financially benefit herself. I feel like I'm at a complete loss, the kids should be able to enjoy the prospect of a new sibling, not be prevented from spending family time with it when it arrives. As a family we should be able to spend our weekends together without the segregation. I feel like we have seperate lives all because this woman had an irrational hate for me. I do everything thing I can to support my partners relationship with his kids, from arranging trips away for them, driving him to events so he can see them, organising their birthday, Easter, and Christmas gifts, helping him financially with the costs of supporting his children but I'm still shut out, so is my daughter and now so is the baby I'm carrying. My partner is scared to stand up to her because he is petrified she will stop access or use lies and blackmail as a way of preventing contact.?its been going on for so long now I just don't know what to do? Any advice would be greatly recieved, Natalie
There has been a plan to introduce them to the new partner for months and has now staled as and I quote 'Know to much'. I have said no because of the situation and I think it not in a best interests of the children in this horrible affair.
Even though I have told her I don't want them meeting him, she will do it behind my back as she already has.
Is there anything I can do?
I am already filing for adutery.
All make it short as possible
He we go me and my ex movers in about 5 years ago and we have 2 children
My son has Learning difficulties
And my daughter is just a chatterbox lol
Anyway what has happened it has come to light that she has been mental abusing my kids so I have stop all contact altogether but my question is can I get her arrested for this !!! Thanks in advance
I believed we were in a very good happy marriage and recently just bought a new house together. She says I just didn't make her happy anymore.
Many thanks, advice is more than welcome.
I am sure that my husband will not want this and will try and stop this happenening. I would like to be able to do this with his blessing and hope that he will accept I have a new relationship.
Can my husband stop me from introducing my new partner? Is there any legal stipulations? My new partner is no risk to the children and it would be a gradual introduction. As I am still married I didn't know if it could be stopped?
Me and my husband have been very diplomatic in the split with sharing the children 3/4 days each one a two week rolling basis. The children are happy and understand this.
A previous relationship. I have developed a good relationship with the children. My partner wants to apply for custody of the children at their request. Will I be involved in anyway in the courts decision of so what will they look at?
should I keep the relationship like this?
Thanks.
My husband was very controlling with me & gradually took over all the money, all the shopping & all the cooking, but would only come home when he felt like it to do dinner then back out again, one thing he would never do, which was my job was the children.
Well he left me end of dec & had got a private rent & moved his young girlfriend & her 18mth child in by jan, feb.
While doing this he saw his children a few sats saying 10 til 2 but making excuses about running late and turning up 11
he then got all furniture for his house but nothing for his children so I said inless he put them first & got beds for them he wasn't having them (social workers that are involved with us because I went on a dating website once (which didn't work out) after he got with his girlfriend, so social workers decided to pay for bunk beds for him , even though he works, has is own taxi business, new drivers, taxis he boasts about but doesn't pay anything financially for his kids.
But I gave it a go & he had the children a few wk ends every other weekend, but he would leave his girlfriend looking after the children, while he went in & out taxiing, on phones, laptop ect, when there he was giving more attention to his girlfriend & her child (not his) more than his own children (they would come back & tell me this & on one occasion as I suffer with depression this did upset me especially as my daughter had took a video which showed my 9 yr old son playing up while his dad was out, the girlfriend ignoring him & my 13yr daughter having to hold him & try her best to control him, the girlfriend saying he could not go there again & my husband when back saying he agreed & calling my son a spag & spastic.
I showed social workers & they said they would sort it, the next time the children went there way of sorting it, knowing full well I try my best to give my children pocket money but cant afford much because of being alone with 7 children, was to let him do a supposedly sticker chart where in 2 days my son that had played up had apparently earnt enough stickers for a £5 note So obviously he was good this weekend but came back saying he needed more pocket money.
I have now stopped contact because I think I have every right & said if my husband as them for a while on his own so they get all the attention with out bribes then that's fine but if not contacts not taking place. Apparently because my husband as said no to this im being selfish with my children because his new girlfriend is family (social workers words)
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Since may 2015 he has another girlfriend, but still texting my sister to which she has ignored.Then my sister has met someone which she sees when she does not have her daughter. One morning it came appparent to the ex that my sister was seeing someone and he grab my sister, head butted her and pushed her into a fence demanding to know what she is up to. I have had word with the ex telling him this is not acceptable and this is his one and only chance to sort him self out also that he needs to leave her only to get on with her own life. He apologised to my sister but still asking if she wants him to cook for her etc (playing minds games). Myself and my family are going away for two weeks and my sister and neice are coming with us. i stated to my sister to ask her ex to see if he wants to see there daughter more before they go away. He has now come back with that he is moving in with the new girlfriend he has been seeing for 3 months and that there daughter will be meeting the new girlfriend. My sister is not doing this out of spite she just thinks that because she knows what her ex is like in and out of reletionships and cheating she does not want her daughter getting to know all these different woman. What would she need to do to put something in place to stop this from happening so soon??? Hope you can help??
Also I have no direct contact with my 9 yr's daughter , I have been given indirect contact after my daughter made decision of wish in family court .
Please could you give me some advise on this, and on what rights I and my ex have? I want to do what is best for my child without being unfairly treated and without having my daughter unhappy in the process. Thanks very much
I have a beautiful 6month old by a european who is abusing me on every level. Threats emotionally, mentally, and verbally. Im scared he will take my baby and I will never see her again. Hes on the Birth Cert as he was ok 6months ago! I have her passport - hidden. Is there a way I can get some sort of order without his knowledge so he cant take her? Is there a way I can put an alert on her passport just in case?
Pls help - im so desperate
I have had 2 seizures in 4 years, both times when trying to cut down on medication through doctors advice.
My ex wife wants restraints on how and where I travel with my daughter. Only use buses not trains and not travel to big city.
Is she allowed to do this or am I free to look after my daughter as I wish ?
I would like advise on stopping my children meeting their dads new partner at Christmas.
After a stressful year for the children, I do not agree that the children should be introduced to a new partner at Christmas. Both children are coming to terms with understanding their dads decision and this does not need to confused the children further.
I have no issues with the children meeting his new partner in January or February. Unfortunately he has not mentioned anything about his partner, I cannot look after the childrens safety, which is my priority.
I have tried to discuss this with my ex but he is very unwilling to talk about his new partner and has not even discussed her with the children.
Thank you.
He is now planning on coming back to this country as he says he wants to be in his kids lives, he has 2 children from a previous marriage and a 5 & 2 year old with me.
As he has not kept up the relationship with them, i.e not asked them how school has gone and generally kept up with the life, I feel a limited access is necessary! and certainly not one with his partner who knew he had young kids when she went after him as a single person!
She her self has got grown up kids she abandoned her son at the age of 11 and never saw him again for years!
My question is, because of the lifestyle they lived when they were abroad drink drugs late nights am I in my right to allow access to the father but under supervision of another family member!
I have no confident the relationship will last, I have no confidence they can stay drug free and sober in the care of my kids!
So under no circumstances do I want my children who I have raised alone for the last 12 months be in contact with a woman I would not allow into our lives!!
My arrangement to see the kids are every weekend at my mothers house during this time my new partner cannot be present . I have spoken to my ex on many occasions to allow my partner to not feel left out when it comes to the kis. We will be moving in together soon and I'd like my ex to give her blessing before I introduce the. My little girl understands what's happening she has meet my partner once before we started dateing. She's a primary school teacher and loves kids ver much. To be apart of my life but not be able to meet my kids hurts , do I continue in hope that 1 day my ex will allow my partner to be part of there life's or let her destroy us , the effect of this is now causing heartache for us all even the kids. What do I do about this anyone plz
My partner left his wife over 4an half yrs ago her boyfriend who she is still with moved in with her an the two kids. I met him after this an we have been together ever since, I met the kids an since we moved in together we spend every 2nd weekend together with them, they share parental responsibility! She applied for the divorce which he gladly agreed to! She is now being incredibly difficult about the kids an myself saying I may not b left alone with them for more than 2 hrs I may not text them an when I speak to them on the phone with their dad she tells them to get off the phone. She has expressed to him she wants me to have nothing to do with them, the kids and I get on beautifully, I am 42yrs old not a youngster so I don't understand the problem other than her insecurity about me trying to take her place which I have tried to reassure her many atimes won't happen. She has become very controlling any harrassing with phonecalls an texts even though we have expressed comunication only through emails via her lawyer. She is now saying she is going to stop the divorce as him an I are engaged have been for 3yrs but she doesn't want me to b their step mum! Now threating to take the eldests phone away if I contact her which we bought for communication so we have to go through her to speak to them. The kids are 8yrs and 4yrs. Please help me, I don't know what to do, I don't want to upset the kids by saying I can't see them as we get on so well an they r always telling me they love me an send me texts, how can I not answer for them then to think I don't care. Do I have any rights. Please help I can get legal aid and will whatever I can to all b happy again.
Please help.
Regards Simone
Eventually he said that his dad was telling him to be naughty at home and not to tell me and my new partner (well, we've been together 3 years), and that my new partner didn't love him as much as he did and that he wasn't his real dad and would never love him as much as he did. My son told my mum this a few months ago, but we let it go and kept up the visits until 6 weeks ago when he came home and wouldn't speak to anyone and was very grumpy with his little brother.
Eventually he confided in my new partner that his dad had told him to be naughty again and 'keeps putting bad thoughts in his head that he can't get out' (my sons' exact words).
I stopped the visits after that and told my ex that he can visit at my house but that our son will not be staying at his house again.
He has said that he won't visit at my house and is now telling me that he's got a solicitor and is going to go to court over this.
How will this play out??
Will my son have to stand up in court and be interviewed?
I can't see what he hopes to gain from this as I haven't stopped him from seeing our son, I only want our son to be protected from having his head messed with by my ex.
Am I right in asuming that I have every right to introduce my Daughter to my new partner regardless of my Ex's wishes?
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