The Laws on Dependency Leave for Parents

The Laws on Dependency Leave for Parents

Dependency leave is time taken off work in order to deal with an emergency involving a dependent.

Who is a dependent?

A dependant is someone who relies on you for care. For example:

  • Your spouse (wife / husband)
  • Your child
  • Your parent
  • Your grand-child
  • Your civil partner

What is an emergency?

An emergency is a serious and unexpected situation requiring immediate action. For example:

  • An injury or illness (e.g. a car accident, or simply an elderly relative falling in their home and requiring A&E medical attention)
  • The sudden worsening of a pre-existing condition
  • A dependant, who is reliant on you to take them to hospital, suddenly goes into labour
  • If childcare arrangements are suddenly disrupted (e.g. your child's nursery closes unexpectedly)
  • If your child is involved in an incident at school (e.g. a playground fight or expulsion from school)

An emergency situation is not something that you know about in advance (e.g. a hospital appointment, or school holidays, or if your childminder tells you a few days before that they cannot look after your child etc).

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How much time can I take off?

You are entitled to take a reasonable amount of time off to deal with an emergency. The amount of time required will depend upon the nature of the emergency.

Example:

Your child has suddenly come up with chicken pox overnight and so is turned away from nursery. You can take time off to attend a GP (if required) or make alternative child care arrangements. If you then want to take several days off to comfort your child during their recovery, that is no longer an emergency and so your employer may require you to take annual leave or parental leave to cover that additional period.

There is no limit on the number of times per year that you can take dependency leave. However your employer may become concerned and take action if this is becoming a regular occurrence and affecting your ability to carry out your job.

How much will I get paid?

Your employer doesn't have to pay you during dependency leave. (You may therefore choose to take paid holiday if you can't afford to lose pay.) However check your employment contract or employee handbook for your employer's policy on dependency leave pay.

How do you request emergency leave?

If you are dealing with an emergency situation, it is often not possible to let your employer know in advance that you will need time off. However you should let your employer know as soon as possible what is going on and how long you will need off.

If you are dealing with an ongoing situation you should keep your employer updated with your likely time off.

Example:

Your husband is in a serious car accident and his medical condition / whether emergency surgery is required is currently unknown. You might ring your employer from a taxi as you dash to hospital to say you won't be in that day. Once you have seen your husband and the hospital has decided that emergency surgery is required overnight, you should at an appropriate moment again get in touch with your employer to let them know that you won't be able to come in the next day due to still being required at the hospital.

Will taking dependency leave adversely affect my career?

Your employer is not legally allowed to treat you unfairly as a result of you taking dependency leave. For example, they should not refuse you promotion or choose you for redundancy on that basis.

If you feel that your employer is/has treat you unfairly as a result of taking dependency leave, speak to:

Your trade union representative
ACAS - 0300 123 1100
Your local Citizen's Advice Bureau

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kelly 24 Nov 2020
my 14 year old daughter gave birth to a baby boy on sunday we didnt know she was pregnant and neither did she , her and the baby will be coming home to live with us, i work for the nhs, am i entitled to any paid time off? i cant leave her on her own with a new born many thanks
Sj 1 Dec 2019
I am a single parent and have worked part time since my daughter was 6 months old. She has just last week been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and an under active thyroid at 14 years old. Already I am struggling with the enormity of her day and nightly needs and I would like to know if it is possible for me to leave work and what i should expect applying for benefits. I have been told i cannot apply for DLA or carers allowance until 3 months after diagnosis. My daughter needs me now and the sheer thought of juggling all of this for 3 months terrifies me. If may be worth mentioning that i work in a different area and on average it would take me a minimum of 60 mins to get to her if she has a hypo no matter how flexible and accommodating my boss is. She needs me.
Nikki 9 Oct 2019
If the amount of dependent leave was frequent (i.e 15 times in twelve months) would it be dealt with under the disciplinary procedure? Thank you
Kk 9 Sep 2019
I have a disabled child and am a single working parent. At the end of last school term my son had a decline in his mental state which meant my sons school needed my support to help him access the building until he was settled. This lead to me being late into work on 6 occasions during that month loosing around 4 hours combined. I subsequently received an improvement notice and threat of further disciplinary action leading to dismissal. Is this lawful on their behalf and is this circumstance covered by emergency parental leave.
Flid 7 Aug 2019
Hello can I be disciplined for having time off for a dependent
Cam 9 Jul 2019
Recently my son has came down with scarlet fever, starting the Friday he was sent home from school, I rang up work and explained what had happened and that I wasn't sure if I could come in for my night shift as I started at 7 but arranged for someone to cover if I couldn't go in but my lb was meant to be staying at his nans, however when he's poorly he won't stay with anyone except me. I work every weekend due to my partners work hour whether it be Friday sat Sunday or 2 days out of them. I went into work the saterday as I was on antibiotics and the virus wasn't able to touch me, I had been taken of all my Rota for the whole month as my deputy manager had said I hadn't rang in when in fact I followed all protocol and rang with reasonable time (as soon as I got home with my lb) the messaged wasn't passed on to the night team although this situation was easily sorted due to miscommunication , this weekend he's been horrendous with his asthma and I had to leave early hours just past midnight on sunday to be with him as his dad leaves early hours Monday for work, so today I have training 10 till 12 but can not make it as I don't have childcare and he doesn't go school till 1 anyway which is what I told them in my interview, just wondering where I stand as I feel I'm being punished for this, my lb is 4
NS 27 Jun 2019
What happens if you have no other childcare options when your child is unwell. As a sole carer it has to be me who is with my child. He has frequent eczema related infections/ illness. I am being threatened with disciplinary action for my dependants leave. Which I've taken unpaid.
carissa 20 Feb 2019
does this cover snow days and inclimate weather or just health??
axp23 11 Jul 2018
Hi I took one day off because of my partner. She gave birth 2 weeks ago and now she has back a severe depression ( she got also depression during pregnancy ) my employer knows about her situation but now they told me i.ll be fired if i can.t sort the things out. Mental health doctor advise me not to leave her alone with the baby at the moment ( after the treatment is kick in again she will be able to stay alone ) what should i do in this situation if they will disssmised me ?
LawAndParents Editor 5 Jul 2018
Had you previously booked planned time for the birth. The time off for dependents rules are for short term emergencies but parents are entitled to parental leave for this kind of eventuality....take a look at the governemnt advice here. You should also be entitled to paid paternity leave.
DanG 2 Jul 2018
I am on paternity leave at present. I have 2 children. My newborn is on neo ward on oxygen as he is struggling to stay saturated. My eldest is a 2.5yr old dependant. Due to newborn not coming home and mother breastfeeding i would have nobody to care for my eldest during the times she must go into hosp to feed newborn. We only got told the newborn would be staying in today and i am supposed to be going back to work in 2 days. As i think it is unreasonable to expect a mother to breast feed and look after a 2yr old on a hospital ward on her own, would this warrant me taking TOFD to look afyer my eldest until baby is out of hosp? Thanks Dan
Poodle 7 Jun 2018
Can your boss stop you from seeing your poorly 3 year old child in hospital if you dont live with the child due to relationship break up but share parental responsibility
LawAndParents Editor 5 Jun 2018
This is your employer's choice. They may be willing to offer you the extra days as unpaid leave but it's their decision - they're not obliged to do this as regular counselling meet the criteria for dependency leave.
Mag 4 Jun 2018
I have asked my employer for 1 day off a week so I can take my partner to counselling for personal reasons. I do not want to disclose the personal reasons as my partner is not willing to tell everyone that she was raped. I have been told to maybe look at using my leave but feel I will not have enough annual leave days to cover the lengthly process of healing that my partner needs and wants me to support her through.
LawAndParents Editor 30 May 2018
Yes dependence leave doesn't have to be paid and is not normally given by employers for a period as long as 7 days. If you were already off sick, you should still have been paid statutory sick pay for the period of sickness.
Toddlermum94 30 May 2018
I have worked for my current employer for 9 months and my son is going in for an operation on a Friday. I usually work all weekend but have requested to take the weekend off to look after my son. My manager has said she can give me the Saturday but not the Sunday. My son won’t be recovered by the Sunday and I don’t feel comfortable leaving him. Because I’ve not worked here a year I’m not entitled to parental leave what am I entitled to as it’s not an emergency? The operation coincides with Eid and other colleagues have requested this time off for that but I don’t feel comfortable working 2 days after his operation. Do I have any rights?
LawAndParents Editor 29 May 2018
Do you have alternative child care arrangements for times when you child is sick?
Leo 29 May 2018
Can my employees stop me going home to look after my 3 years old and 6moth old baby as my partner is looking after her I’ll mother
Cc 28 May 2018
Hi, I messaged the other day about taking dependency leave unpaid however after a 2nd meeting with my manager he has advised me that I can not take this as my child was just ill and was not a life or death situation. I had 1day off due to her being ill and he has put this down as sickness and advised me that this will go against my sickness. What would be my next step? He has spoken With our HR and they have said he is doing the right thing. I did say it’s my right but in his words I am demanding to take it unpaid so he said holiday or make time up but then agreed unpaid against my sickness. Thank you
Nicci 26 May 2018
Hi I was off with the flu but within that time my daughter fell ill and was admittied to hospital. She had to have a major operation so we where in hospital for 7 days. I was told that there was no such thing as dependence leave and was told to take 6 days leave and 6 days sick. When this was brought up in a meeting I was Informed that this was incorrect and I should get my sick pay back that was took off me. I sent an email to have this looked into and now they are saying that dependence leave is unpaid. Is this correct.
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