As a general rule the mother will always have what is referred to as ‘parental responsibility’ for her children regardless of the father’s presence or absence. This is something that many think needs to be addressed by the government and legal institutions of the United Kingdom.
What are My Rights as a Father?
You have rights as the father of your child if:
- If the child was born on or after December 1st 2003 and you are named on the Birth Certificate as the child’s birth father
- If a Parental Responsibility Agreement is signed
- If the birth certificate for the child held no father’s name but was later renewed to show yours
- If a Magistrate or Justice of the Peace (JP) at the Family Court has granted you parental responsibility or an Order Of Residency

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If you want to have a say in your child’s upbringing, then yes, it is a good idea. It is unfortunate that sometimes relations between both parents become so strained that the children will become the unfortunate tools that parents use to hurt each other.
If both parents can enter into such a PR agreement, it should ensure that both parties have a say in how their child are brought up. This does not necessarily cover the day-to-day living arrangements but it certainly includes larger concerns, such as what school their child should go to, the medical treatment they receive, what religion they should be taught, etc.
In some cases, the parents’ split is an amicable one and there will be no need for such an agreement. But often it is a necessity if a relationship has turned sour and neither party can agree without the intervention of the courts.
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Financial Responsibilities
You have a financial obligation to help provide for your child’s upkeep. If a relationship breaks down, you have to expect that you will be required by law to pay something towards caring for your child and providing them with what they need.
This can be done by mutual consent between both parents – and if this is agreed upon it is important to have something written down so that all parties know exactly where they stand. If no agreement is made, or if you simply prefer it, Child Maintenance can be handled through the Child Support Agency.
The Child Support Agency requires that you pay 15% of your net income towards your child’s care and this increases to 20% cent for two children, 25% for three children and so on.
Visiting My Child
If you are named on the birth certificate as the father of the child, you have a legal right to see your children. This is sometimes tested to the limit if parents split under less than agreeable circumstances, and it can ultimately mean the involvement of the courts and family services to help mediate towards agreeable visiting rights for the father.
If you are in any of the above situations and feel you need advice, it is wise to contact the Citizens Advice Bureau or your local family services court for more information and support. It should be noted, however, that it is best – where possible – to try to resolve any issues between both parents with resorting to courts and solicitors as this can be as traumatic for the child as it can be for the parents. Read up about parental responsibility.
I am now a Grandad of two with a serious illness who wants to be re-united with his daughter before he dies.
My ex-wife has since 2007 denied me & my sons all contact with Lucy.
There has been no falling out as dad,brothers, sister have not met or been in the same room since 2007.
I have tried everyting to see my daughter, sent Birthday & Xmas Cards & up until 2016.
Also sent many letters & always made my CSA payments.
I also involved the Salvation Army & the Hospital Chaplin after my second triple heart bypass operation.
My ex-wife either ignored the letters or did not pass them to my daughter. I need advice on how to make contact with my daughter.
I now have a second serious illness & know I`m running out time.
I separated from my ex when our little one was 7 weeks ago (he decided to end it and kicked us out) he still had FaceTime with her as covid was just kicking off wnd didn’t want to risk anything. He then went quiet and found out been on dating apps. He got back in touch and threatened me with court wnd wanted us both back. So I agreed we’d go back. When we moved back in with him she was 5months. He was working, always helping his friends out and never bothered with us. I remember asking if he’d spare me and our little one 2 hours a week for me to start running again, he refused saying he’s too busy wnd to get our parents to help out instead. September he felt ill and asked for us to go to my parents house, which he did. He then finished it a week later, ( and went on another dating app) and then didn’t speak or whenever he did it was he’s taking me to court. (I never denied him access I said it needs to be built up as you haven’t been around and our little one doesn’t really know him) he finally agreed to building it up (once in week wnd once on weekend) it didn’t last very long as things would come up, or he’d want me around and to come back earlier to pick up. He’s kept his distance for 10days as he came in contact with someone who tested positive for covid. He asked if we can keep in touch and do FaceTime regularly, I said that’s fine, it’ll be good that our little one still recognises him. He didn’t bother, he didn’t check in on her once. And now he’s messaging me and I feel it’ll go to “I’m taking you to court” as I’ll say time needs to be built up as you haven’t kept in touch. She’s now a one year old and very clingy for me as I’ve been her prime career. Anyone else been in a similar situation?
Now my son wants to.meet his father ,what is the process
Maternal grama being an illegal resident was able to adopt my grandchild being mother of who my granddaughter should be protected from. Maternal had a 2 bedroom her husband 2 children and her other daughter along with husband and grandchild reside wth her. I had a townhouse 3 bedroom and was told my house was too small.. why were they In such a rush to put her for adoption if she was with family member? Why wasnt my son given the opportunity to be a father to his child? What can i do now is there anything I can do to have contact with my grandchild.
Our dad died a couple of years ago and its been a struggle since for all of us but shes going through a break up with her new partner so shes pretty low
Can he do this
My issue is, her dad goes away for one week every summer with his friends. He tries to trick me into dropping our son off on the normal days and and doesn’t tell me he’s on holiday, however in the past I have normally found out before the date from other people. He expects that our son should still goes to his house on the normal 3 days in the week to be looked after by his wife. The way I see it, is that it’s an opportunity for us to spend a weekend together - which we rarely have due to the arrangements. I have made it clear that it’s no reflection on her (quite the opposite that I’m thankful of everything she does for our son who is 10) however when he goes on holiday he is my responsibility and I will keep her at home for most of the time with me. I have suggested that he can still go for dinner and maybe stay over one night in the week if that fits with his wife, however it turns in to a battle every year because he wants to control the situation. He says legally she has to go there because that’s our agreement however with all due respect my agreement is with him, not his wife.
Legally am I in the right to stick to my guns here? Am I being unreasonable?
Thank you in advance
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