Single Parents' Rights

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Single Parents' Rights

It is not uncommon these days to find parents bringing up children alone as a result of divorce or simply because the parent has no partner to speak of. But it is important to understand what rights you as a single parent have and how you should exercise them.

What Constitutes a Single Parent?

A single parent is a parent who lives alone with their children and is responsible for their day-to-day upbringing and wellbeing. As such, they are entitled to help and assistance from the local authority, if required, as well as financial assistance from the other parent.

Helping with Expenses

If a mother lives alone with her children, then the father of these children is responsible, in the eyes of the law, for contributing to their clothing, footwear and educational expenses. He may choose to come to an understanding with his partner to pay a regular amount for the upkeep of the children without having to resort to legal proceedings.

A father may deem it appropriate to ensure that his children are also living in a home that is – in his own estimation – fit for them and may contribute to the paying of a mortgage and/or rent.

Such agreements are best made without the influence of courts or government agencies, but it is wise to seek some written agreement in addition to a verbal in case a dispute leads to court proceedings being filed.

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Visiting the Children

The law states quite clearly that each parent has the right to see his or her children after a split has occurred. The only circumstances that may prevent this is if there is a legitimate concern that the parent may try to remove the children to a location where they can't be found.

If there is a genuine concern that this may take place, the court will order that visiting is carried out at a place where others can be present to supervise.

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Applying for Custody

A single parent – especially if he or she does not live with their children – has the right by law to Apply For Custody Of The Children. However, this is normally awarded to the mother unless there are firm grounds that the mother is not considered to be fit to take care of the children.

You should note that custody hearings may take considerable time to arrange and there will be required visits from the Family Proceedings Court to assess how the children are carried for.

Child Care and Benefits

Being a single parent can be an expensive and demanding task and there are provisions made for assistance with childcare. It is normal to find that single parents work during the week and need to call upon a childminder for support, so your local authority will have a list of registered childminders from which you can choose.

Also as a single parent – especially on a low income – you can apply for Child Benefit And Working Tax Credit (previously known as the Working Families Tax Credit). You may also be eligible for a reduction in the amount of Council Tax you have to pay, but not all of these benefits are available to all single parents.

You should contact your local authority for more details. You can find details of Working Tax Credits on Her Majesty's Revenue and Customs' website at www.hmrc.gov.uk.

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Laura 09/06/2021 at 11:55 am
so the baby daddy hasn't been in his sons life for nearly a year and now that his back in Ireland he wants me to drop the baby or collect the baby from him, I feel like I shouldn't do it , because as a dad he should understand that if he picks him up he has to drop him off too , I just want to know if that's what he has to do before I say anything.
Dawnie 13/04/2021 at 10:15 pm
My son has been raising his two sons aged 2 & 3 for nearly two years on his own their mother barely saw them for the first year and a half now she said she wants full custody surely this can't be right where does my son stand?
pev 22/03/2021 at 11:08 am
iam a single parent dad I've recently had my son taken from me by social services for a small mark on my sons shoulder after he ran out in front of car I grabbed him just instinct but it was accidental hospital couldn't say wether or not it was now ive got them making things up to take him all together my parenting and his emotional state which have all been fine till they come in now I need some advice on what my rights are as this has got me right down on the the bottom now iam suffering with depression anxiety and never suffered with these before as iam being treated like Iam some one who harms kids and more
Rip 19/02/2021 at 7:10 pm
What rights does a mom have if the kids live with there dad
T1234 29/01/2021 at 7:10 pm
I am not with my baby’s father. My child is 3 month old. How often should I allow my baby to go to his dads?
Richard 30/09/2020 at 8:35 pm
Hello and good evening,

Financial obligations after break up with a mother of children that are not mine biologically...

What are the legal requirements for me to support her and the children that do not belong to me? I hear it's a year and then once we part ways, she can legally shaft me then?

I need some guidance with the situation please and thank you.
young mum 19/08/2020 at 3:26 pm
my son and i were kicked out by my partner and we had to go to my parents house. he kept all my bank cards and our passports and he didnt even let me take my clothes. hes also been taking benefits on our behalf. would he be able to take our son away from me further down the line? and what would be the best advice for the next step?
Jaldo 18/05/2020 at 12:14 pm
Hi, I'm a father of a 3 year old, in order to even be able to see her i had to spend thousands through court and had to fight my corner against appaulling lies and allegations made against me by her mother. Fortunately I managed to voice record her on a number of occaisions admitting to lying to her friends, family and the court of law about the allegations and they were then overturned but I did not press charges.

My question is, why is the law so in the mothers favour still yet men and women in modern day society are now seen as having equal rights? A child needs a father just as much as they need their mother but the courts immediately give everything to the mother to decide when and how a father can see their child! Why is it viewed that its acceptable for a child to only be allowed to see their own father once a week if they are lucky? Not really in the child's best interest is it? Surely mothers understand that this is why children grow up to resent them for keeping them away from their fathers their whole lives?
Cd 13/11/2019 at 2:14 pm
Hi just after some advice. As a separated parent my child's school are refusing to give me a separate parents evening meeting As they say " it's not school policy ".They say that it is in the child's best interest for both parents to attend together.I strongly disagree with this and find the statement a massive sweeping assumption. I have pressed them on the matter but they continue to stick to there policy .I find this tantamount to discrimination .any ideas on how I can peruse this further ?
Belle 25/08/2019 at 10:50 pm
I have a 3 year old the father was paying csa n now has stoped it bec he wants dna test which i dont mind doing bec i know he the father i havent slept with any other and he has decided also to contact social services as he thinks im talking to to be people with crimiel offences n thats not allowed near children again which im not doing nursery are happy with my son ip brining any advice what i can do i have blocked of my emails n told him from now i want things in writing n just want to know what my options are n he hasnt been involed with our son since birth
Carl 13/06/2019 at 5:23 pm
This assumes single parent mothers What about single parent fathers?
Taria 09/06/2019 at 1:21 pm
My daughters dad has our daughter every other weekend. He lives a distance 80 miles round trip from her at his parents. I've come to the compromise of meeting half way between his house and my house.... he refuses to do this as he wants me to do that round trip. When he has her he has full responsibility of her yes? To bring her to me at the half way point or all the way home or take her to school.... am I correct here?
Phoenix 12/05/2019 at 9:51 pm
Does the father of my baby (we are no longer a couple) have the right to demand looking round my parents house where I live with my baby. I'm only 18 and have always lived at home and not with ex boyfriend
Farlo 09/02/2019 at 5:06 pm
I split with my parter with who I have a daughter. Since I left the home , I paid to her some money to look after my daughter as a child maintenance. But despite doing that she doesn’t want me to visit or to pick my daughter up weekends. I look after too my daughter as much I can.
From sometime TIL now she doesn’t want me to see my daughter even to help her regarding her homework.
Whatever happens between she and me , she let my daughter pay for that.
So help me what’s should do to see my sweetheart. I even contact my daughter school to get involve.
But the situation still same.
Squeaky 17/09/2018 at 1:20 pm
I am single mum who lost her partner (boys dad) and the in-laws have made my life hell and his nan has a new boyfriend who I don't know or trust but they keep blackmailing me into letting my boy see him and they don't like it because I won't let it happen. I need help to know what I can do about
J 28/08/2018 at 11:36 pm
I am a single mother and currently am living in Azerbaijan. The father of my child is British and has chosen to let our baby keep his last name. However, he has decided to leave us and never speak or see us again. He refuses to help us financially and says that I should work and earn the money myself. I am not able to work at the moment due to having to look after they baby. Is there anything I can do?
LawAndParents Editor 29/06/2018 at 3:35 pm
Your husband can apply to the courts for a prohibited steps order to prevent you taking your son abroad for more than two weeks. It will be up to a judge to decide whether or not to grant this order. The amount o maintenance the father pays will not have any bearing on this decision.
SA 28/06/2018 at 9:49 am
I am a single mother to a 5yr old boy who hardly see his father maybe 2-3 times a month. I was planning to leave the country for a few months tho study abroad and would like to know my rights as I have found out from friends that his father is trying to stop us from leaving the country and getting coustdy , im concerned as his father doesn’t help to support our son and I’m afraid he will take my son away
Dhug 24/06/2018 at 9:47 pm
My son is always getting let down by his dad and when his dad does have him my son stays with someone else rather than with his dad. His dad has a history of drug and alcohol abuse. My son used to look forward to seeing his dad however now he would rather stay with me as his dad doesn't do anything with him. I currently sont work but I want to go for full custody. I'm happy for his dad to have a few hours visitation a week but not overnight stays but he won't after to this. How do I go for full custody when on a low income?
Vix 19/06/2018 at 2:56 pm
Hiya me and my husband have been split since November.. he sees the children 2 hours a week and refuses to help with childcare.. which means i cant work.. can he refuse to help with this. I also have stated to him that i want more time for the girls..which he refuses.. what arw my best options
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